> From: "jon_clark_19115" <jonclark@...>
> Subject: Anyone else unable to seperate personality from avoidance?
>
> First, yes I'm new here.
>
> Been sort of shy all my life. Now I'm 33 going on 34 and in a real
>
> bind. I'm in therapy for a few reasons, but most it seems to stem
> back to my lack of a social life.
>
> Problem is I can't tell just what type of social life I want.

I have faced similar issues. I basically asked myself what other
activities I do or May enjoy that put me in more social encounters.

My
> interests and lifestyle are pretty solitary. I work second shift
> which puts me in work at the time most people are hanging out after
>
> work, but these are the hours i like because I'm not a morning
> person. I spend most of my time on the computer, watching TV or
> reading and I really enjoy these activities except for the fact I
> have few people to share them with.
>
> And I can't tell if that is by choice or if I kind of retreated
> into
> my own little world over time to avoid uncomfortable social
> situations.

It may be time for you to do things that challenge your routine,
the worn groove of your day. Try changing small things at first,
testing your comfort level.


I can't tell if i should try forcing myself to change
> my
> lifestyle (which I enjoy) to increase my ability to socialize. Or
> if
> I'd be better off trying to find people who share my limited range
> of
> interests.
>
> So I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themsleves at the
> same impass of having adapted so well to not socializing that they
> can't tell where their own intersts start and the defense
> mechanisms
> end.

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