I've found that to be successful at something, I've gotten a lot out of modeling
what it is that people who are successes in the areas in which I would like to
have success do. I don't mean copy them exactly, but rather look at what
they're doing which results in success for them and adopt it yourself. Things
like beliefs (beliefs that successful people hold about themselves and the world
around them) values (what's important to successful people and success in
general) strategies (the order in which internal representations are structured
and encoded in the brain) and the like can all be observed and internalized for
ourselves.

For example, if you want to be successful with girls, it might be helpful to go
out and observe what it is that guys who are successful with girls do and then
try those things for yourself. Of course there are acceptions to the rule:
someone might argue that most guys who are successful with women act like
assholes-- in fact women are attracted to confidence and most guys, in an
attempt to be confident, act like assholes to over-compensate for having a small
penis-- and that they wouldn't want to act like an asshole to pick up chicks.
Well they would be right in that a lot of guys who act like assholes are indeed
successful with women, and that perhaps they (the people bringing up the
argument) wouldn't have a good time acting like that if it's not their nature.
But I would say that obviously that asshole guy is doing something right and
that, in order that others might be successful as he is, it would be beneficial
to find out what that something is. Once we've figured !
that out,

I've found that all discomfort comes from when we're focused on what we don't
want. Using my girl example (I need to get laid probly) most people can
understand being nervous. However in my case the nervous feeling turns into
anxiety-- for some it might be called worrying too much-- over whether I'm
saying/doing/acting correct for the situation. And I've found that when this
happens, unfortunately I tend to manifest exactly what I did not want. We
manifest whatever it is that we focus on, whether we're focused on what we want
or on what we don't want, and what's more when we focus on what we don't want we
get to feel bad about it. But what happens when I focus on what I want-- to
have a great time no matter what happens--- rather than focus on all the things
I don't want to happen? As you can probly imagine I get what I want-- things do
indeed go fine and all those little worries don't matter (in fact they don't
exist)-- and I feel no discomfort doing so. Sometimes a !
situation

If anyone's interested in this type of stuff, you can go ahead and email me and
I'll see what I can do to help you-- not that you need help, of course-- find
the resources to get what you want. I plan to have a website very soon with
links pointing towards many of the resources I've found to be helpful for me,
and I hope to have this group be a part of it's development; not just including
the group on the website for others who might benefit from it-- which I might
end up doing-- but regarding feedback on how I can further modify and improve my
ideas... OK, Sam, this is long enough. Thanks for listening, and keep up the
good work. Be well and live in abundant possabilitty.