First, yes I'm new here.

Been sort of shy all my life. Now I'm 33 going on 34 and in a real
bind. I'm in therapy for a few reasons, but most it seems to stem
back to my lack of a social life.

Problem is I can't tell just what type of social life I want. My
interests and lifestyle are pretty solitary. I work second shift
which puts me in work at the time most people are hanging out after
work, but these are the hours i like because I'm not a morning
person. I spend most of my time on the computer, watching TV or
reading and I really enjoy these activities except for the fact I
have few people to share them with.

And I can't tell if that is by choice or if I kind of retreated into
my own little world over time to avoid uncomfortable social
situations. I can't tell if i should try forcing myself to change my
lifestyle (which I enjoy) to increase my ability to socialize. Or if
I'd be better off trying to find people who share my limited range of
interests.

So I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themsleves at the
same impass of having adapted so well to not socializing that they
can't tell where their own intersts start and the defense mechanisms
end.

Jon