Bob thank you so much. I also had Allan's problem but
didn't know how to make people accept me. One thing i
found out is that I really don't care to know what
other people think about things. I need to work on
that.

--- Bob Mayo <soc-yg@...> wrote:

> Well, since the world won't change and the world is,
> presumably,
> accepting other people, it must be something about
> you. And it
> can't be something about your core being, as it is
> virtually
> guaranteed that people would accept you if you were
> your "ideal
> self" at this point in time.
>
> Perhaps you need to work on something, but I have no
> idea what
> it is. You could work on your self-confidence,
> body language, showing appreciation for other people
> (or learning
> to discover this), acknowleging other's
> point-of-view, or literally
> one of hundreds of things. It's all just behavior
> and beliefs, all
> of which can change. Just figure out why they
> aren't accepting you
> and ask yourself if it would be a good thing to
> change that.
>
> Make sure what you are changing is the right thing.
> Ask yourself
> if other people with that thing are accepted. For
> instance, if you
> are overweight it can't be that -- there are
> overweight people that
> are accepted. If you are nerdy it can't be that --
> there are nerdy
> people that are accepted. It has to be something
> unique to you
> that prevents you from being accepted.
>
> It is also quite possible that they are accepting
> you, but you just
> don't know how to recognize this. That can be
> changed, too.
>
> --Bob
>
>
> --- Allan Witham <akw141@...> wrote:
>
> > unfortunately the problem I'm confronting isn't
> shyness, or my unwillingness
> > or inability to face people, but their insistent
> determination not to accept
> > me in spite of any and all effort. Since I see no
> way that the world will
> > change or can be changed it doesn't seem that
> progress is really a
> > possibility. So to answer your question, no.
> >
> > tryingtomakesenseofitall <cashsilver@...>
> wrote: I was just
> > wondering if anyone was making any progress!! I
> hope so!!
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
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