I feel that I have been making progress in dealing with people lately.
Often times I find that I tend to give my point of view, or give advice, as
apposed to listening to what others have to say. I think that this has been
a huge difficulty of mine in dealing with people, one which I'd like to work
on more (especially if I continue my indevour to become a psychologist some
day); I find that, when I stop and listen to what others have to say, I gain
a lot more than if I were to just say what I think. I find that often times
people will come to me with a problem, and I will automatically try to say
what they're thinking; often times when I stop and listen, they will say
everything that I'm thinking, but then will go on to add their own insite
which teaches me (as hopefully they're learning as well). I wonder if
anyone else has thoughts on this; even in this message, I feel that I'm
somehow making it hard for people to respond with anything (I feel like this
is pointless but, rather than just erase the message and forget about it,
part of my growth is stepping outside my comfort zone and just "doing it" if
that makes sense). Congradulations on the public speaking; I often have a
hard time with this sourt of thing myself. I can imagine that, while it may
have been difficult to get through at the time, it feels good to know that
you can do it (and perhaps that you had the abilitty all along). In fact
your story inspired me to write in today, and although I feel like most of
this might not make sense or strike a chord with anyone I'm proud that I can
overcome these nagging thoughts and do it anyway. Keep up the good work!
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From: "tryingtomakesenseofitall" <cashsilver@...>
To: <SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Tuesday, June 27, 2006 5:48 PM
Subject: [SocialFitnessForum] Any progress?
> Just wondering if anyone has made any progress yet? I have, I had to
> read a story infront of my english class and I didn't freak out. I was
> very proud of myself!!
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Just wondering if anyone has made any progress yet? I have, I had to read a story infront of my english class and I didn't freak out. I was very proud of...
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near as I can figure other people don't want my acceptance. i had friends I went and did things with in college, but since then I've only known people at work....
Hmmm, I'd say we have some similarities, except I'm more optimistic. But I'm not as articulate as you in writing about my background. I don't think I'll be...
Reading through it sounded a lot like myself. I know I am a good person. I think people should like me for who I am because Ive seen how much people act like...
Bob thank you so much. I also had Allan's problem but didn't know how to make people accept me. One thing i found out is that I really don't care to know what ...
I feel that I have been making progress in dealing with people lately. Often times I find that I tend to give my point of view, or give advice, as apposed to...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jun 28, 2006 3:01 pm
is this the same sam that used to messege me months ago? it's nice to hear from you again!b...
Congrats! Baby steps. As for me... not so good :( No progress . ticking me off. I have no problem being in front of people. It's just saying anything at...
Thanks. It's nice to be back. :-) I thought that perhaps I had been a bit annoying with my advice? ... From: Will To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com ...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jun 29, 2006 7:30 pm
I'm kind of curious about this message. It sounds as if you're experience has been that people are unwilling to accept you dispite all your efforts, yet you...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jul 2, 2006 4:39 am
exactly. There is no reason. Which is the dilemma. If there was something wrong with me I could fix it, but since there isn't there seems no solution, or if...
It sounds, from this message, that you are perhaps unaccepting of others, and further still that you may be unaccepting of the fact that people may be willing...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jul 2, 2006 10:57 pm
damned if I know. Personally I think I'm pretty wonderful, and I'd do anything for my friends when I'm allowed to have them. Sam Rau <sam.rau@...> wrote:...
I suppose that my major problem is that I used to be able to "play the game" and fit in with people, but over time I find it harder and harder to do it. This...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jul 2, 2006 11:14 pm
Amen; I couldn't have said it better myself. :-) I find that this is easier said than done, though, and I wish there was a way for me to "just do it". I find...
Sam Rau
sam.rau@...
Jul 3, 2006 1:11 pm
Like I said I used to be able to participate in the game, but I now find it difficult. I think that this has to do with people's acceptance of anything in...
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