unfortunately the problem I'm confronting isn't shyness, or my unwillingness or inability to face people, but their insistent determination not to accept me in...

Well, since the world won't change and the world is, presumably, accepting other people, it must be something about you. And it can't be something about your...

that's a very simplistic and callous attitude, but even if it's true the simple fact is if I have to sacrifice myself to be accepted it's just not worth it to...

I can understand your bitterness -- sometimes life just doesn't seem fair. But I think people take this "just be yourself" stuff too far. It's a disease. In...

near as I can figure other people don't want my acceptance. i had friends I went and did things with in college, but since then I've only known people at work....

Hmmm, I'd say we have some similarities, except I'm more optimistic. But I'm not as articulate as you in writing about my background. I don't think I'll be...

Reading through it sounded a lot like myself. I know I am a good person. I think people should like me for who I am because Ive seen how much people act like...

Bob thank you so much. I also had Allan's problem but didn't know how to make people accept me. One thing i found out is that I really don't care to know what ...

I feel that I have been making progress in dealing with people lately. Often times I find that I tend to give my point of view, or give advice, as apposed to...

is this the same sam that used to messege me months ago? it's nice to hear from you again!b...

Congrats! Baby steps. As for me... not so good :( No progress . ticking me off. I have no problem being in front of people. It's just saying anything at...

Will, have you checked out the Debra Fine material I recommended? Stuart...

Good for you! Keep up the good work! Stuart...

Thanks. It's nice to be back. :-) I thought that perhaps I had been a bit annoying with my advice? ... From: Will To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com ...

I'm kind of curious about this message. It sounds as if you're experience has been that people are unwilling to accept you dispite all your efforts, yet you...

exactly. There is no reason. Which is the dilemma. If there was something wrong with me I could fix it, but since there isn't there seems no solution, or if...

It sounds, from this message, that you are perhaps unaccepting of others, and further still that you may be unaccepting of the fact that people may be willing...

damned if I know. Personally I think I'm pretty wonderful, and I'd do anything for my friends when I'm allowed to have them. Sam Rau <sam.rau@...> wrote:...

I suppose that my major problem is that I used to be able to "play the game" and fit in with people, but over time I find it harder and harder to do it. This...

Amen; I couldn't have said it better myself. :-) I find that this is easier said than done, though, and I wish there was a way for me to "just do it". I find...

Like I said I used to be able to participate in the game, but I now find it difficult. I think that this has to do with people's acceptance of anything in...