I would try not to worry about it; these types of things happen to all of us
from time to time. I sometimes get frustrated as well when these things
happen. It's like you go out there and meet people and everything goes
great and then, for some reason, although you know you can do it sometimes
it just messes up and you beat yourself up over not only screwing up but
screwing up when you know that you "should have" done better. I try not to
focus on this stuff, however, because it feels as if nothing is
accomplished: I might get upset at myself over something like this, and then
not go out the next night for fear that it may happen again, which only
strenghthens my resolve to not go out the next time and the next and the
next... But if I do this, then I'm not allowing myself to go out there and
actually do it (and although I screwed up I know in the back of my mind that
I can) which really isn't fair to myself. Sorry; I'm rambling again. :-) I
gues that my main point is to not worry about screwups all that much; either
that, or worry about it as much as you can for about five minutes, and then
set it asside and *NEVER* worry about it again. I think that wondering is
always better than worrying (I'd much rather wonder if I'm going to get a
girl than worry about whether I am or not). Keep up the good work!
----- Original Message -----
From: "avetice" <avetice@...>
To: <SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Saturday, March 04, 2006 3:41 PM
Subject: [SocialFitnessForum] falling back into old habbits


> bah
> for some reason last night keeps replaying back in my head. Me and
> some friends were going to a karaoke bar, which isnt the part that
> bothered me. It was before we went when I was waiting with my friend's
> G/f and her friend for my friend (her b/f) to get there. There were a
> couple of other people there at first and things were fine. Then they
> had to go pick up a friend from somewhere to come with us and I was
> left alone with the two previously mentioned. Well I just clammed up.
> I said maybe a couple of jokes about me going to art school and a
> stereotypical artist on tv. Other than that though I didn't say one
> word. I had been doing pretty good for a while before last night.
> Infact the night before I went out with friends from school and some
> others I didn't know to a bar and it wasn't that bad. Infact I felt
> like I was looking at myself when I was younger when I saw my friend's
> brother who just sat there the whole night quiet like I used to do all
> the time and then bam, I do the same thing with the two ladies. Once
> we got to the karaoke bar though I was a little better. I guess It's
> more when its a really small crowd now that I still don't do as well
> conversationally. just so frustrating
> anyway thanks for reading this
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