Hey,
my names Sara and I know what u meen about silence not always being
uncomfortable, I mean, u know I'd rather say nother than babble on
about unimportant crap to fill the silence. Some people talk because
they like the sound of their own voice I recon. Why talk if u havent
got anything important or intelligent to say? and silence can be
good sometimes, i went on a date once and the twit that i was with
couldnt fathom that you can just sit with someone in silence and
just enjoy their presence. A glance or look or the touch of a hand
can say so much more than words. And trust me I know what u mean
about the whole 'shy' and 'quiet' label people are so quick to pin
upon u, I hate it, I get even more because my friends are all really
raudy (excuse the spelling), dont get me wrong I can be really loud
and clown around, but not with people I dont know, I dont want to
come across like an ADD pre schooler.


--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "avetice" <avetice@y...>
wrote:
> Hey, names Ray. I'm starting to get annoyed with my lack of
> conversational skills. I've been called shy, quiet, all that fun
> stuff. However I'm not really afraid of social gatherings or any of
> that. I love hanging out with my friends and family. The thing is I
> just dont talk much. If I knew what to talk to people about I
wouldnt
> appear to be so shy I think. It's when everyone wants to get
together
> to just sit around a campfire or something and talk, thats when I
stop
> enjoying myself because everyone is talking, and I can never think
of
> anything to talk about. There is always at least one person, during
> these kind of gatherings that will say "whats a matter Ray, is
> something wrong? your so quiet?". The only thing that really gets
me
> through these sort of things is that I just start observing
everything
> and taking mental visual notes, because I am an illustrator. Never
> took a date to a resteraunt before because I dont want to bore
them to
> death with my lack of conversation. I don't even find silence
awkward,
> i don't understand why people feel so awkward when a silent moment
> comes around.