Don't feel suicidal, Annie. I have that book and want to send it to
you, free. If you're interested, please drop me a line.

Henry

--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "Annette Fortner"
<tforty185@y...> wrote:
> Hi. What you said really moved me and I want to get the book. I
am going though really bad social anxiety-shyness. Are you sure you
are only 15? Wow. I am feeling really hopeless right now and the
longer these bead feelings are in me, I feel suicidal. Don't like to
say that, but true.
> Annie
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: punk_dude_20002
> To: SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Sunday, December 05, 2004 4:03 PM
> Subject: [SocialFitnessForum] Are you really "shy"?
>
>
>
>
> Hi, this is my first post in this forum, but i would like to
share
> with some of the people here that shyness might not be what you
> think it is, based on my experiences. I used to think i was
a "shy"
> person, because around other people i would be afraid to be
myself,
> afraid of what they would think of me, afraid of that rejection
> feeling. And if you are "shy" you know what else goes along with
it.
> After reading a very good book called The 7 Habits of Highly
> Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey, my perspectives changed
> dramatically. It is a much greater level of a normal book you
would
> read for intrest, or studying, it is a book that as you read and
> think about the material in it, and relate it to your life, you
> really learn valuable lessons. The best thing i learned in it
that
> started changing my "shyness" was starting with my roots. He uses
a
> quote from somebody (i tried to find it but i couldnt lol).
> Anyways, it basically compared human behavior to a tree, and it
said
> something about for every thousand hackings at branches, there is
> one hack in the roots. What hes trying to say is that if your
really
> dont understand yourself, your values, and you try to be more
social
> that eventually you are going to hurt yourself inside even more
than
> when you tried to be more social. He uses a "inside-out"
approach,
> which means that you have to work on your roots before you can
> really get out there socially and be social like you want to. You
> might not understand what i mean when i say roots, basically, its
> what your life is centered on. I could go on forever about this
book
> and what i learned from it, but i know you dont want to read a
> forever going post, and i encourage you to get this book if you
> really want to change your life altogether. Back to the "shyness"
> not being what you really think it is. I thought i was a shy
person,
> im 15, and i was "shy" for most of my life. Im not your average
> teenager though, because once i learned to center my life on a
set
> of principles i realized that it didnt matter if i was social or
> not, i learned to not care what people thought of me, and i
learned
> about a freedom we all have, that can never be taken away from
us.
> Once i did these things, it really boosted my self confidence,
and a
> lack of confidence was my problem, not "shyness" what i always
> thought it was. Once i accomplished a state of mind
> called "independence" my personality naturally started to come
out,
> and i didnt have to think about what i had to say, it just flowed
> out naturally. Im sure what a lot of this wont make sense to some
of
> you, but again if you would really like to overcome
your "shyness"
> you should really invest into this book, if u use it right you
> realize you have the power to change your life, not the people
> around you. If you have any comments please reply to this post,
> because i would like to hear from other peole.
>
>
>
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