sure we can help, there are certainly things you can do to overcome
your shyness even if you are really really really shy;). I would
guess maybe you have never talked to any one about this b4 so coming
here is definitely a step in the right direction.
i think from now on you need to change your outlook on life &
realize that things can & will get better if your willing to work at
it. It took 28 years until i realized that things could change for me
i had pretty much given up until this point i just presumed that i
was born this way & that was that.
Anyway you need some advise well i would recommend you read some of
the previous posts on here there is allot of useful info & its good
to here ppl's perspective on different things. Also there are some
very good books you can read 'Overcoming Social Anxiety: A Self-help
Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques Gillian
Butler'http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/1854877038/qid=1097289
970/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl/026-4603772-3190057 is one that has helped
me allot is very understanding & gives you work sheets & taskes to
work on, 'Flirt Coach by Peta
Heskell'http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0007108435/qid=109729
0050/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_3_1/026-4603772-3190057 is a great book that
teaches you how to love yourself & become a happier more positive
person to be around, it wont fix you shyness completely but it helped
me turn my life around. also 'Shyness: A Bold New Approach' has been
recommended by others on here. I could go on recommending books but
these are some of the best imo.
Try not to focus attention on yourself ppl are not judging you allot
of the problem is that you are probably thinking too much about
things. Its like a viscous circle where maybe you want to join in a
conversation but you start to worry about the situation which makes
your mind go blank & you have lost track of what ppl are talking
about. You may use safety techniques like avoiding social situations
or not speaking because you may say the wrong thing ect this can
often make make you more anxious because you think you stand out &
are not normal.
You need to change the way you think, you may occasionally bravely
face your fears from time to time in an attempt to overcome them, but
this won't help unless you change your mindset. i remember i forced
my self to go into a bank or attempt to chat up a girl which i had a
fear of doing but it always ended up with me being really anxious
because i was thinking in the same way as i always had done.
It takes some work & time to change the way you think but it has
helped me over the last year. I would definitely recommend the above
books
Hope this is of some help,

Neil

--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "cuddlewitme52"
<cuddlewitme52@y...> wrote:
>
> Hey guys,
>
> ok, I'm really really really shy. Almost everwhere I go. I only
> have 3 friends I am not shy around plus my parents, sister, cousin
> and grandma. I'm even shy around my aunts and uncles. I'm 15 and a
> sophomore in high school. At school I only say at most 5 words a
> day. My best, best, best friend ever has a new best friend and is
> slowly forgetting about me. My other firends don't go to my school
> so I'm pretty much friendless right now.
>
> It makes me so sad. I really want to get over this but,
whenever
> I try to I don't know what to say. Latly, I've seriously been
> considering suicide. I even began writing a note to family when
they
> find me. I really don't want to do it but, I just hate myself.
>
> A lot of times I'll like study people I wish I was and try to
be
> them. I really want to be myself. Can anyone please give me some
> advise? Thanks!