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Hi, My problem with shyness is that I try to be conversational but
people don't seem to give me a chance because I guess I say the
wrong thing and it just creates an awkward silence because I don't
know what else to say.

I've always been shy though at times more than others. I had an
overprotective mother so I never really socialized with other people
my age when I was was a child. So as I grew into young adulthood I
didn't know how to interact with my peers and throughout adolescence
I've had only one or two very close friends at different times.

I just need good advice or counselling for this sort of thing. Can
anyone suggest anything?




Wed Jun 2, 2004 6:46 am

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Hi, My problem with shyness is that I try to be conversational but people don't seem to give me a chance because I guess I say the wrong thing and it just...
sophiebo84
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Jun 2, 2004
6:47 am

You might try some books on this subject (both paperback, on Amazon): "How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere: The Secrets of Good Communication" by Bill...
Annette _
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Jun 2, 2004
9:56 pm

Hi Annette, I've read some of those self-help books and they're okay. But I haven't improved much, I dunno maybe I need some motivational thing. But thanks...
Bora
sophiebo84
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Jun 3, 2004
4:02 am

Hi Bora, Just reading a book will give you some ideas, but they will only change you if you make them your project. After reading Carducci's book I went back...
Annette _
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Jun 3, 2004
12:35 pm

Easier said than done, but thanks a bunch. I've taken it into heart and will try harder. ~Bora~ Annette _ <laprofessore@...> wrote: Hi Bora, Just...
Bora
sophiebo84
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Jun 3, 2004
5:28 pm

Don't feel discouraged, it's not easy for me, or for anyone else I know. It's a constant and, I think, lifelong effort, but you will get rewards if you work...
Annette _
pollnut
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Jun 3, 2004
7:41 pm

Hi Annette, I was wondering on your opinion about this Dr. Jonathan Berent. His website is www.social-anxiety.com. He offers telephone therapy but it's 160...
Bora
sophiebo84
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Jun 5, 2004
11:40 am

Hi Bora, I did look into Berent at one point, but I never actually went, so I can't give specific feedback on what he does or how helpful it is. He has a book...
Annette _
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Jun 5, 2004
1:17 pm

Annette, I think that I will continue to read books about shyness and go back and re-read Carducci. In the last several days, I've indeed taken to heart what...
Bora
sophiebo84
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Jun 7, 2004
7:33 pm

Bora, I'm glad to be of help. What has helped me most about Carducci's book has been understanding the self-preoccupation and seeing how I was projecting my...
Annette _
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Jun 7, 2004
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