Hi there!
My name is Sebastian and im 17.. i am from argentina so excuse me
if my english is not so well. I recently started searching about
shyness because im very aware that i suffer from it, i dont know how
or why but i do. I have read a few stories and it gives me a bit of
relief that im not the only one in my situation, its also really sad
that many people are in this situation..why did it happened to us! i
constantly ask that question to myself.
I have been shy since i can remember .. i do not know the cause, i
believe that it is probably because when i was a child i was one of
the kids that the other kids made fun of. Besides everything i have
progressed in my shyness (by myself) quite much.. i have just
finished highschool and it kind a puts me sad to read that what i had
planned, like meeting new people and being a different person at
university does not work very much. A few years ago i was very very
shy and it was impossible to me not to think that everytime people
(at school usually) were laughing , they were laughing at me .. that
many time prooved to me true. i dont know how exactly it was sometime
during the last years that things started showing a positive side..
suddenly people didnt made fun of me anymore , maybe it was because i
started going dancing, (thing i though would never be possible)which
really scared me .. at first i was terrified and i couldnt stayed at
discos.. but gradually i started liking dance music and then i
started dancing at the discos , which i discover its a whole lot of
fun. Actually i go dancing every weekend and i love it, my social
situation has improved incredibly and i have lots of friends but
things arent so well.. although i have managed to hide my shyness it
has turned out in a terrible result.. i have lost my personality. i
have developed a number of skills so that people like me.. but i ve
realised that im living a complete lie.. i change my personality
depending on who im with and ive realised that i do not know who i
really am.. this may sound like i do not have a shyness problem but i
really do.. specially whit girls.. besides im fair (many people have
told me) i cant manage to reach girls.. although i have many girl
friends i have never kissed one (how terrible!!) my problem is
specifically whit girls of my age and younger girls.. i seem to be
able to talk very fluently with older women and with ugly girls.. i
get really nervous with pretty girls. But this has all happened
during this last year .. the years before i was extremely shy! so
what i need are keys strategies or just people to talk about this.. i
have told nobody about this buit im posting here because i have seen
many people in this situation. please mail me or just chat with me
about this or anything, im open to everything, the mail i usually use
is ol_bastian@... so add me if youd like

Thank u for listening me, really.