stealth372, I am in the same situation as yourself EXCEPT I
am a shy gay man looking for another man. Too bad that I'm gay and
you're straight or we two shy folks could hook up and would
understand how each other feels. Story of my life!


--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "stealth372"
<stealth371@h...> wrote:
> Hi.I was wondering if anyone could help me.I think i have been
> suffering from shyness within myself for a long time now,and i feel
> that its killing the very heart of me inside because i cant reach
> out to people,especially of the opposite sex.
>
> I noticed my decline in social interaction ever since i left
> school,years ago and i thought i would overcome this "disease"
> but,unfotunately, to this day,with no success.I was working
> but,changed careers and back to studying now with through
> correspondence, so i still dont interact with people and to be
quite
> honest,it is a comfort to me not to.Whats worste is that im
studying
> programming,and we all know that the only girlfriend you get out of
> that scenario is you computer.
>
> I started running full time 5 times a week a year ago to get myself
> out of the house,and its defintely brought up my confidence as im
> very fit now,so i definetely feel better about myself,and sometimes
> girls do whistle at me or look at me and stuff when i run,but my
> mind tells me to think that they are only making fun of me and
could
> never be interested in "my ugly self" and im too shy to react,and
i
> think im giving off the impression that im not interested in the
> process or am i just misinterpreting there behavious?Im not a great
> looking guy,but normal and thanks to all my running,better than
most
> my age,but i have always been a loner,and im sure my dad thinks
that
> im gay because i dont have any girlfriends,although im not anywhere
> near it,but shyness seems to place upon you these other labels that
> you as an individual are not.(NO offence to homosexuals was
intended
> please,im just stating my scenario)
>
> Can anyone offer words of wisdom,especially on talking to girls and
> how to know if they are interested in you.I just feel pressure
build
> up in my head evertime i run past them,and i look down and nowhere
> else.I hate being SHY,but strangely enough,it does keep me grounded.
>
> Also,i find that the girls that chirp me are in their final year of
> school,and im like six years older than them.Should i still make an
> advance on these girls or am i too old for that.I DUNNO!!NEED HELP
> TO RID THIS SHYNESS,PLEAASSEE!!.