just wanted to help you...............i am shy
myself....and this has greatly helped me.........but
please be motivated enough to actually work on
this.......anyways goodluck

--- "Shawni J." <shyboy476@...> wrote:
> HI, I'm writing for advice for my husband Shawni.
> Its a miracle that
> we even met because he is shyer than any man I ever
> had known. It took
> a lot of time and energy on my part to get him to
> trust me (he has a
> big problem with trust). Anyway, he loves horses and
> actually has a
> couple at a local barn. Recently he came home with a
> really ugly dark
> bruise under his right eye. He said he tripped at
> the barn and hit his
> eye. I believed that but once his bruise was healed,
> he came home
> again with a bruise under his other eye, once again
> saying he fell.
> The final time he came back with a fresh bruise over
> the one that was
> healing. He was also
> seeming to get shyer and more easily spooked. I
> found out from a
> friend what was actually happening because she was
> in the barn when it
> happened. She told me that the local ranch hands at
> the barn were
> nothing but nasty, mean, cruel, drunks. She came in
> and suprised them
> when they were drunk out of their minds and had
> stripped my already
> bruised husband, beating his tail with a riding crop
> and trying to
> sexually assault him in a way out of a scene from
> deliverance.
> Needless to say she had them arrested and we moved
> the horses to
> another barn. That traumatic experience left my poor
> husband shyer,
> untrusting of anyone especially other males, and
> more sensitive
> (doesn't take much to make him cry). I took him to
> counselling but it
> doesn't seem to help. They even have him on
> medications to help his
> anxiety but that is not helping. Does anyone have
> any suggestions
> that could be of help please let me know. Anyone
> with any similar
> experience of being abused just because they were
> shy please let me
> know.
>
>


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