HI, I'm writing for advice for my husband Shawni. Its a miracle that
we even met because he is shyer than any man I ever had known. It took
a lot of time and energy on my part to get him to trust me (he has a
big problem with trust). Anyway, he loves horses and actually has a
couple at a local barn. Recently he came home with a really ugly dark
bruise under his right eye. He said he tripped at the barn and hit his
eye. I believed that but once his bruise was healed, he came home
again with a bruise under his other eye, once again saying he fell.
The final time he came back with a fresh bruise over the one that was
healing. He was also
seeming to get shyer and more easily spooked. I found out from a
friend what was actually happening because she was in the barn when it
happened. She told me that the local ranch hands at the barn were
nothing but nasty, mean, cruel, drunks. She came in and suprised them
when they were drunk out of their minds and had stripped my already
bruised husband, beating his tail with a riding crop and trying to
sexually assault him in a way out of a scene from deliverance.
Needless to say she had them arrested and we moved the horses to
another barn. That traumatic experience left my poor husband shyer,
untrusting of anyone especially other males, and more sensitive
(doesn't take much to make him cry). I took him to counselling but it
doesn't seem to help. They even have him on medications to help his
anxiety but that is not helping. Does anyone have any suggestions
that could be of help please let me know. Anyone with any similar
experience of being abused just because they were shy please let me
know.