Hi,

I guess the advice that comes to my mind is to simply not focus so
much on the problem of not being able to find a girlfriend, and to
remember that your worth really doesn't depend on whether you've been
with or are with someone. I know that's sometimes easier said than
done, especially when it seems like everyone else has had this
experience that you so desire. But it seems to help me when I
remember that being with someone does not in itself bring
happiness...in fact, it can bring a whole new set of
challenges/difficulties if you're not ready for it.

It's good to get a real sense for who you are before getting involved
with someone else, because if you look too much to another person for
a sense of self, you won't gain too much anyway. I'd just think about
what you really want from another person -- what kind of person you'd
feel comfortable with, what interests you might want to share, what
you might want her to look like (within reason :), how you'd want her
to talk to you and treat you, how you'd want to treat her. Even if
you're not looking for a relationship per se, I think this can be
helpful to get a more solid idea of what you yourself really want.

Then, make little steps towards talking to women who you find
attractive and feel interested in and relatively comfortable with.
Gravitate towards people who like you for who you are. And give
yourself a lot of room to explore and learn. I bet you'll find a
great connection with someone when the time is right! And you have
lots of time, so don't worry.



--- In SocialFitnessForum@yahoogroups.com, "parhom2003
<parhom2003@y...>" <parhom2003@y...> wrote:
> Hello to all!!!
> I am amazed to see that i am not the only one with such problems!!
> Well my main problem is that i can't seem to get into any
> relationships with the opposite sex!!! At 21 years old i have never
> had a girl friend and it is extremly depressing. It seems to me
that
> my youth is wasting away!!! And i will get old soon and impotent!!!
> LOL. When i say this to ppl or friends they all say oh why...or the
> right girl will come along,,,bla bla bla or u are a great looking
> guy u could be on the cover of men's fitness!! I have even been
> asked to become and exotic male dancer, by a lady who has an
agency.
> Anyways none of this has helped me get intimate or close with
women.
> I love women and fantasize about them all the time lol, but don't
> feel good enough for any women that iam attracted to..
> Well if anyone has any suggestions on where i can start please
email
> me....I feel like time is running outtt!!!!!
> Thanks