liza,
can understand the unstructured parties, but I have not been invited to any in years,hoping my schedule at work says that I have to work on new years,so I dont have to think about it, i am going on 40 and and feel like a teenager at those parties, still scared and no one comes to ask me to dance or socalize with them, which suck but I have gotten used to it.
as far as self hyponsis have tried that and even that dont seem to work for me, just seems to make me more self-concious of the fact
just think though we are reaching out by attempting to communicate here,have tried some of the sites on yahoo but all I seem to get is junk and spam, for this or for that
and I am just not in to the stuff that they send me.
tony