Wow, hi all. So you are here. Yeah, I was going to say, Rob, that if I had posted a letter and then it went dead, I'd obsess about that for a WHILE. Fact is, I really related to your post and it's part of why I wanted to scare up a response here! So thanks for writing it. Dove, the fear thing - I feel exactly that. And I'm quite encouraged by the view of social fitness as a strength we can develop. That gets me out of feeling overwhelmed by it all. I was so anxious today and had no idea why. Could hardly think straight. I'm in a new job and it's simply fraught with terrors for me (should I smile at that person, blah blah on and on). Part of it also might have had to do with the fact that I've decided to do something about this isolating life-style and so I know that I'm in for some risks. This is a risk for me (when it occurred to me that I'm too insecure to even make on-line friends I realized I was too far gone!) This is the first group I've tried to join. Sooo Woody Allen, right? Bob, what you said about changes being harder for the shy - there's no doubt. And on a sort of related topic, I've always rolled my eyes when I hear about those extreme risk-taking types who need to jump out of planes and whatever to feel alive, when for me, the act of brushing my teeth and getting out of the house to join the world can seem like way too much risk! But those people are apparently underaroused whereas we're set at too high a frequency, idle too high or something. Does anyone else have that hypervigilance thing where you jump three feet when someone startles you (like, says "hi")? I notice my last name appears on this thing, and also my first, not my yahoo profile name. I'm going to take that last name off, that's crazy. Thanks, all. I'll write more tomorrow. Have a peaceful day tomorrow! Liza
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