I know the feeling too. Though I do have a couple of female friends,
it is very hard to make new ones it seems. I am scared to death to
talk to women that seem so confident of themselves and I feel they
are always judging me as well. I just can't find the boldness to say
what I am thinking a lot of the time. And it seems that if you are
pretty and shy, other women tend to think you are stuck up or snobby.
And they just don't even try to talk or be friendly with you. I just
seem to get these evil looks. And really I just wanna be friends. I
think women are harder to get along with than men personally. But
then again, I never had a mother and I think not having a
relationship with a mom has made this female friend thing even harder
with me.

--- In SocialFitnessForum@y..., "ms_scarlett23" <beckerbabe@h...>
wrote:
> Hey everyone ~ Just so you know, I'm new to all of this internet
> message board business! If anyone can provide me with some
> insight, I would greatly appreciate it.
> I need some female friends! I am a 26 year old woman with no
> female friends in my town. All of my lady friends are old, good
> friends who live in other states, and I cannot seem to form
> anything more than casual conversation at the bar. And even
> that is hard to do. I've been told that I don't know how to "small
> talk" and in my opinion, I don't like bullshitting and I really
don't
> know the difference between the two. I am very friendly and
> sincere and have an odd but strong sense of humor - but often
> cannot think of casual conversation. I can talk about ideas, art,
> poetry, death, humanity, politics and revolution, but not the
> weather. I need to lighten up, basically. I am also a very
sincere
> person and it turns me off to feel like I have to be insincere to
get
> along with people. With men, I feel much more comfortable and
> growing up most of my buddies were boys, and my really good
> friends only one or two girls. But, as i've grown up I've learned
> that most men who want to be my friend eventually want to sleep
> with me. I've got a boyfriend, so this gets tiring. I can be
myself
> around men, because I don't care ~ but with women, I feel like
> I'm being judged. Plus, how do you "make friends" with people
> you just run into once in awhile at a crowded neighborhood bar
> when everyone of them has a group of friends around them? I've
> been told that women may not like me initially because I am
> "pretty", but that's not fair - I am a good friend and very down to
> earth. I don't want to seem desperate or pitiful - and I certainly
> don't want anyone to think I am hitting on them. I guess I'll go
> join a club or take a class or something - but shouldn't
> friendships just happen naturally? How do I get over this feeling
> of isolation and seperation from other women?