Hey everyone ~ Just so you know, I'm new to all of this internet
message board business! If anyone can provide me with some
insight, I would greatly appreciate it.
I need some female friends! I am a 26 year old woman with no
female friends in my town. All of my lady friends are old, good
friends who live in other states, and I cannot seem to form
anything more than casual conversation at the bar. And even
that is hard to do. I've been told that I don't know how to "small
talk" and in my opinion, I don't like bullshitting and I really don't
know the difference between the two. I am very friendly and
sincere and have an odd but strong sense of humor - but often
cannot think of casual conversation. I can talk about ideas, art,
poetry, death, humanity, politics and revolution, but not the
weather. I need to lighten up, basically. I am also a very sincere
person and it turns me off to feel like I have to be insincere to get
along with people. With men, I feel much more comfortable and
growing up most of my buddies were boys, and my really good
friends only one or two girls. But, as i've grown up I've learned
that most men who want to be my friend eventually want to sleep
with me. I've got a boyfriend, so this gets tiring. I can be myself
around men, because I don't care ~ but with women, I feel like
I'm being judged. Plus, how do you "make friends" with people
you just run into once in awhile at a crowded neighborhood bar
when everyone of them has a group of friends around them? I've
been told that women may not like me initially because I am
"pretty", but that's not fair - I am a good friend and very down to
earth. I don't want to seem desperate or pitiful - and I certainly
don't want anyone to think I am hitting on them. I guess I'll go
join a club or take a class or something - but shouldn't
friendships just happen naturally? How do I get over this feeling
of isolation and seperation from other women?