Another approach would be to "work up to it". Start with
smaller goals and when you are comfortable, raise the
goal.

For instance, start with a good conversation with the
least intimidating woman you can find. Perhaps an older
clerk at the grocery store. If that is easy, or becomes
easy over time, raise the goal. Talk to somebody who
would be more like somebody you'd like to date. Keep
doing this goal-setting and practice process until you can
talk to anybody.

If you find you've picked a goal that is too high, drop
down to the previous goal that you completed and practice
a bit. Then find a goal that is halfway between the current
goal and the one that was too hard.

--Bob


---- "springsrv9" <scott4015@...> wrote:
> Hi I've finally realized that i have a problem talking to women that
>
> i have an attraction to. I am usually a funny witty person, somewhat
>
> quiet around people that i don't know to well. heres my problem, if
>
> i'm around a girl that i am interested in i get all nervous and it
>
> seems like i have nothing to say to her. The more i try to think of
>
> stuff to say or be myself the more nervous i get and that makes it
>
> even worse so i look like a really quiet person when i am actually
>
> not. I like when we go out drinking with the guys because i don't
> feel as nervous. and why is it that some people i can warm up to and
>
> talk to right away like we've know each other for 10 years. anyone
>
> have an ideas or suggestions i would greatly appreciat the info.
> also if you know of any other good resources to check up on i would
>
> like to know that as well..
>
> Thanks for the help.
> scott
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