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Hello,

I hope everyone is doing as well as can be. This group does not have a lot of responses. I usually just go on the main group. It is harder because these are the survivors and their families, but I do find it to be a great source of encouragement also.

Saturday will be hard, Mama's birthday was last month and I thought I would not make it through the day, but I did. Everything is just raw for you. My husband (I just got married five days ago) lost his daughter four months ago and it has been a struggle for him. We just try and stay strong and keep our faith.

As always, please know that you are in my thoughts. Just take it one minute at a time for now,

jessie

--- On Tue, 10/20/09, hayley.cooper3@... <hayley.cooper3@...> wrote:

From: hayley.cooper3@... <hayley.cooper3@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Re: hello
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Tuesday, October 20, 2009, 3:41 PM

--- In SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com, "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@ ...> wrote:
>
> hello everyone in this group. Nobody has posted anything lately I hope everyone is doing fine. It will 2 months on oct.24 that my son passed I miss him very much and it's still very hard to cope but i'm trying with god's will. I just tell myself that he is in a better place and he is not suffering. God bless all of you who have lost somebody close to you from this. Have a good day and hope to here from you all soon.

Hi Im so sorry to hear your new about your son , I was a suffer of SJS at the age of 11, I am now 37 year old and have four children and hubbie in toe .
I felt very sad to read your note , I can remember the pain and suffering i went through and also my parents seeing me so ill lying in a hospital side ward and it was diffcuilt time for us all and the recover progess was very emtional and painful.
I just hope and pray it never returns and my family are free from it also .
Stay strong there were days when i felt i was going to see God before my time . Take care i will be thiking about you .Hayley
>

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#29

From: "hayley.cooper3@..." <hayley.cooper3@...>
Date: Tue Oct 20, 2009 7:41 pm
Subject: Re: hello

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--- In SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com, "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@...>
wrote:
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> hello everyone in this group. Nobody has posted anything lately I hope
everyone is doing fine. It will 2 months on oct.24 that my son passed I miss him
very much and it's still very hard to cope but i'm trying with god's will.  I
just tell myself that he is in a better place and he is not suffering. God bless
all of you who have lost somebody close to you from this. Have a good day and
hope to here from you all soon.

Hi Im so sorry to hear your new about your son , I was a suffer of SJS at the
age of 11, I am now 37 year old and have four children  and hubbie in toe .
I felt very sad to read your note , I can remember the pain and suffering i went
through and also my parents seeing me so ill lying in a hospital side ward and
it was diffcuilt time for us all and the recover progess was very emtional and
painful.
I just hope and pray it never returns and my family are free from it also .
Stay strong there were days when i felt i was going to see God before my time .
Take care i will be thiking about you .Hayley
>

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#28

From: "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@...>
Date: Tue Oct 20, 2009 2:02 pm
Subject: hello

ochoaivonne69

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hello everyone in this group. Nobody has posted anything lately I hope everyone
is doing fine. It will 2 months on oct.24 that my son passed I miss him very
much and it's still very hard to cope but i'm trying with god's will.  I just
tell myself that he is in a better place and he is not suffering. God bless all
of you who have lost somebody close to you from this. Have a good day and hope
to here from you all soon.

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#27

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Tue Oct 6, 2009 11:12 am
Subject: Hello Ochoaivonne

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Hello Ochoaivonne,

I was just thinking about you and your family; hope that you all are fairing as best you can. I know it is hard; many of the members of the foundation have e-mailed me along with the condolescences and concern for you and your family. Please know that the invitation to contact me stands; I will be unavailable though Oct 15 - 22 because I am getting married.

My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you. It what I believe to be the truth, I know that Matthew is in a restful state-that's how I am able to go on a little; knowing in my heart that Mama is in no more pain.

Regards,

jessie

#26

From: Nola Manganaro <nrly1@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 8:16 pm
Subject: Re: Loss of my son

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I am sorry for your loss, I lost a loved one in 06 to TEN, it is hard, but please seek the comfort from our Heavenly Father, and our Savior Jesus Christ, and also all who are here, we have been there, done that, and can help you through this rough time in your life, I will keep you and your family in my thoughts ad in my prayers...
nola

http://www.sjsupport.org/

--- On Wed, 9/30/09, jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...> wrote:

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Subject: Re: [SJSBereavement] Loss of my son
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009, 7:13 AM

Hello,

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I have never lost my own child, but my fiancee' lost his daughter June 17, 2009. We lost our mother last year to TENS on May 10, 2008 and it is still so very hard. I believe in my heart there is no stronger love than the love between parent and child - totally unconditional; so when either falls asleep in death, the devastation it brings is unbearable. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please, my personal email is jessie_upshaw@ yahoo.com and anytime you need to just use it.

I can offer you this, don't lose your faith in God; I got away from everything and everybody including our Lord and Saviour and that was a BIG mistake. Pray all day and everday and please be assured that I will include you in mine. When you feel the need to cry, scream, rant and rave - do it. Isolation is not a good thing - and that is where I fell into a pit of darkness of almost no return.

Know that out of good intention people will say things that will cut you to the core - just forgive them and don't hold any comments close to you. You will find this group to be a great source of strength for you. Many are survivors, but don't let that deter you from being a part of the SJS family. They have pulled through many a dark day.

Blessings,

jessie upshaw

atlanta, ga

--- On Wed, 9/30/09, ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@ yahoo.com> wrote:

From: ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Loss of my son
To: SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com
Date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009, 9:39 AM

My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS. It's been a month and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he was so young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.

#25

From: "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 4:43 pm
Subject: Re: Loss of my son

ochoaivonne69

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--- In SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com, jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...> wrote:
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> I realized that�you only sent�to the bereavement section, so I forwarded it to
main group.
> �
> If you don't mind me asking, what was your son's name?
> �
> jessie
> � --- On Wed, 9/30/09, ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...> wrote:
>
>
> From: ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...>
> Subject: [SJSBereavement] Loss of my son
> To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009, 9:39 AM
>
>
> �
>
>
>
> My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS. It's been a month
and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he was so
young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.
>
My son's name is Matthew

#24

From: "Jennifer" <jennieyaniga@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 3:23 pm
Subject: Re: Loss of my son

jennieyaniga

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--- In SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com, "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@...>
wrote:
>
> My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS.  It's been a
month and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he
was so young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.
>
I am sorry to hear this, I lost my aunt a little over a year ago SJS and she was
like a mother to me and I think about her everyday and miss her so much
sometimes i forget shes not here and I go to call her and remember...... the
hurt you feel is like nothing else and all you can do is just remember him and
never forget him not even for a minute

#23

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 3:07 pm
Subject: Re: Loss of my son

jessie_upshaw

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I realized that you only sent to the bereavement section, so I forwarded it to main group.

If you don't mind me asking, what was your son's name?

jessie

--- On Wed, 9/30/09, ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...> wrote:

From: ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Loss of my son
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009, 9:39 AM

My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS. It's been a month and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he was so young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.

#22

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 2:13 pm
Subject: Re: Loss of my son

jessie_upshaw

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Hello,

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I have never lost my own child, but my fiancee' lost his daughter June 17, 2009. We lost our mother last year to TENS on May 10, 2008 and it is still so very hard. I believe in my heart there is no stronger love than the love between parent and child - totally unconditional; so when either falls asleep in death, the devastation it brings is unbearable. My heart goes out to you and your family. Please, my personal email is jessie_upshaw@... and anytime you need to just use it.

I can offer you this, don't lose your faith in God; I got away from everything and everybody including our Lord and Saviour and that was a BIG mistake. Pray all day and everday and please be assured that I will include you in mine. When you feel the need to cry, scream, rant and rave - do it. Isolation is not a good thing - and that is where I fell into a pit of darkness of almost no return.

Know that out of good intention people will say things that will cut you to the core - just forgive them and don't hold any comments close to you. You will find this group to be a great source of strength for you. Many are survivors, but don't let that deter you from being a part of the SJS family. They have pulled through many a dark day.

Blessings,

jessie upshaw

atlanta, ga

--- On Wed, 9/30/09, ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...> wrote:

From: ochoaivonne69 <ochoaivonne69@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Loss of my son
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, September 30, 2009, 9:39 AM

My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS. It's been a month and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he was so young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.

#21

From: "ochoaivonne69" <ochoaivonne69@...>
Date: Wed Sep 30, 2009 1:39 pm
Subject: Loss of my son

ochoaivonne69

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My son was 25 when he passed away on August 24,2009 of TENS.  It's been a month
and it's very hard to cope and accept that he's gone especially that he was so
young and had big plans and dreams. I miss him so much.

#20

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Thu Sep 10, 2009 7:48 pm
Subject: Re: Hoping for a small miracle

jessie_upshaw

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Hi,

Wanted to check in your Mother's progess and the rest of family. You all continue to be in my prayers.

jessie

--- On Wed, 9/9/09, angejarman <angejarman@...> wrote:

From: angejarman <angejarman@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Hoping for a small miracle
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, September 9, 2009, 3:05 PM

How cruel is Tens. After 13 weeks of fighting Tens and seeming to make a steady recovery, my mum is now fighting for her life again in intensive care due to it attacking her lungs.

#19

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:34 pm
Subject: Re: Hoping for a small miracle

jessie_upshaw

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I as well believe and hope in miracles. I will be praying for your mother. Not to be too personal, but is it ARDS that she is against now?

jessie

atlanta, ga

--- On Wed, 9/9/09, angejarman <angejarman@...> wrote:

From: angejarman <angejarman@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Hoping for a small miracle
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, September 9, 2009, 3:05 PM

How cruel is Tens. After 13 weeks of fighting Tens and seeming to make a steady recovery, my mum is now fighting for her life again in intensive care due to it attacking her lungs.

#18

From: Beckie Jud <sweetpeajud@...>
Date: Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:09 pm
Subject: Re: Hoping for a small miracle

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http://www.sjsupport.org/

I am very sorry to hear this. You & yours in my prayers and thoughts. Please keep me posted with how your Mum in doing.

Beckie

From: angejarman <angejarman@...>
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, September 9, 2009 12:05:18 PM
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Hoping for a small miracle

How cruel is Tens. After 13 weeks of fighting Tens and seeming to make a steady recovery, my mum is now fighting for her life again in intensive care due to it attacking her lungs.

#17

From: "angejarman" <angejarman@...>
Date: Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:05 pm
Subject: Hoping for a small miracle

angejarman

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How cruel is Tens. After 13 weeks of fighting Tens and seeming to make a steady
recovery, my mum is now fighting for her life again in intensive care due to it
attacking her lungs.

#16

From: Jennifer Yaniga <jennieyaniga@...>
Date: Mon Nov 24, 2008 6:03 pm
Subject: OT: My list of Yahoo Groups :)

jennieyaniga

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Hi,

You can see a list of my groups on Grouply at the link below. Maybe you'll find some you want to join.

Jennifer

Here's the link:
http://www.grouply.com/register.php?tmg=1922133&vt=25608085

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#15

From: "jessie_upshaw" <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Fri Sep 19, 2008 7:42 pm
Subject: I made it

jessie_upshaw

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Hello Lee,

Well, I made it through, just like you said I would.  The morning was
very hard for all of us, but we planned a celebration for yesterday,
and that's what it ended up being.  We were blessed to be surrounded by
family and close friends who helped us get through her first birthday
without her.  My worst part was when my seven-year-old cousin could not
understand why the "birthday" cake was not actually what he thought it
represented but instead was a memorial cake.  I had a video put
together and we did her memory box that was given to me by a close
friend and we ended it with everyone dancing to her favorite song.  It
was a wonderful evening.

Thank you for you support and encouragement.

Blessings,

Jessie

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#14

From: Lee Riley <mshoneybee@...>
Date: Mon Sep 15, 2008 6:20 pm
Subject: Re: Re: I don't know.....

honeybeestor...

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Jessie, please do. God bless you.

Lee

There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the Lord. - Proverbs 21:30

--- On Mon, 9/15/08, jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...> wrote:

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Subject: Re: [SJSBereavement] Re: I don't know.....
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, September 15, 2008, 10:09 AM

Lee,

THANK YOU. I almost did not post anything about her birthday- now I am glad I did. I hope you don't mind, put I am going to pass your message along to my siblings with the hope it will help them also.

God bless you,

Jessie

--- On Mon, 9/15/08, Lee <mshoneybee@sbcgloba l.net> wrote:

From: Lee <mshoneybee@sbcgloba l.net>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Re: I don't know.....
To: SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com
Date: Monday, September 15, 2008, 10:00 AM

--- In SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com, "jessie_upshaw"
<jessie_upshaw@ ...> wrote:
>
> I don't know how I am going to get through the next few days.
Right
> now I am a nervous wreck. Thursday will more than likely be the
> worst. You see, that would have been our mother's 62nd birthday.
> Instead it will be a day of ............ . I don't know.

Jessie,

You WILL get through this. Yesterday was Aaron's birthday, too. I
remembered his smile and seeing it in my mind's eye made me smile,
and thinking of how much he brought to all our lives. He was a
beacon of peace and love in our family. His laugh was infectious.

Aaron is still here. Even though I can't touch him physically, he's
in my heart.

Jessie, think of all your Mom gave you. The fact that you are
thinking of her and missing her is a testament to the loving heart
she gave you. Remember that. Remember the good times, the life's
lessons you shared.

I'm not going to tell you it doesn't hurt, but I know Aaron would
tell me that he's all right. Remember that you are not alone. God
always carries you through these difficult times and believe that He
will bring you through this.

I'm praying for you and your family, Jessie, that the Lord will
continue to undergird you and strengthen you.

Blessings and peace,

Lee

#13

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Mon Sep 15, 2008 3:09 pm
Subject: Re: Re: I don't know.....

jessie_upshaw

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Lee,

THANK YOU. I almost did not post anything about her birthday- now I am glad I did. I hope you don't mind, put I am going to pass your message along to my siblings with the hope it will help them also.

God bless you,

Jessie

--- On Mon, 9/15/08, Lee <mshoneybee@...> wrote:

From: Lee <mshoneybee@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Re: I don't know.....
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, September 15, 2008, 10:00 AM

--- In SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com, "jessie_upshaw"
<jessie_upshaw@ ...> wrote:
>
> I don't know how I am going to get through the next few days.
Right
> now I am a nervous wreck. Thursday will more than likely be the
> worst. You see, that would have been our mother's 62nd birthday.
> Instead it will be a day of ............ . I don't know.

Jessie,

You WILL get through this. Yesterday was Aaron's birthday, too. I
remembered his smile and seeing it in my mind's eye made me smile,
and thinking of how much he brought to all our lives. He was a
beacon of peace and love in our family. His laugh was infectious.

Aaron is still here. Even though I can't touch him physically, he's
in my heart.

Jessie, think of all your Mom gave you. The fact that you are
thinking of her and missing her is a testament to the loving heart
she gave you. Remember that. Remember the good times, the life's
lessons you shared.

I'm not going to tell you it doesn't hurt, but I know Aaron would
tell me that he's all right. Remember that you are not alone. God
always carries you through these difficult times and believe that He
will bring you through this.

I'm praying for you and your family, Jessie, that the Lord will
continue to undergird you and strengthen you.

Blessings and peace,

Lee

#12

From: "Lee" <mshoneybee@...>
Date: Mon Sep 15, 2008 2:00 pm
Subject: Re: I don't know.....

honeybeestor...

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--- In SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com, "jessie_upshaw"
<jessie_upshaw@...> wrote:
>
> I don't know how I am going to get through the next few days.
Right
> now I am a nervous wreck.  Thursday will more than likely  be the
> worst. You see, that would have been our mother's 62nd birthday.
> Instead it will be a day of ............. I don't know.

Jessie,

You WILL get through this.  Yesterday was Aaron's birthday, too.  I
remembered his smile and seeing it in my mind's eye made me smile,
and thinking of how much he brought to all our lives.  He was a
beacon of peace and love in our family.  His laugh was infectious.

Aaron is still here.  Even though I can't touch him physically, he's
in my heart.

Jessie, think of all your Mom gave you.  The fact that you are
thinking of her and missing her is a testament to the loving heart
she gave you.  Remember that.  Remember the good times, the life's
lessons you shared.

I'm not going to tell you it doesn't hurt, but I know Aaron would
tell me that he's all right.  Remember that you are not alone.  God
always carries you through these difficult times and believe that He
will bring you through this.

I'm praying for you and your family, Jessie, that the Lord will
continue to undergird you and strengthen you.

Blessings and peace,

Lee

#11

From: "jessie_upshaw" <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:42 pm
Subject: I don't know.....

jessie_upshaw

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I don't know how I am going to get through the next few days.  Right
now I am a nervous wreck.  Thursday will more than likely  be the
worst. You see, that would have been our mother's 62nd birthday.
Instead it will be a day of ............. I don't know.

#10

From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:49 pm
Subject: Re: (unknown)

jessie_upshaw

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Hello Jennie,

My name is Jessie and I am a member of the bereavement group. We lost our mother May 10, 2008 to SJS.

If you go to the SJS foundation website you can find the pins and other items.

jessie

--- On Thu, 8/21/08, jennieyaniga <jennieyaniga@...> wrote:

From: jennieyaniga <jennieyaniga@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] (unknown)
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Thursday, August 21, 2008, 4:20 PM

Were can I get some of those SJS ribbon pins

From: "jennieyaniga" <jennieyaniga@...>
Date: Thu Aug 21, 2008 8:20 pm
Subject: (No subject)

jennieyaniga

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Were can I get some of those SJS ribbon pins

From: dvenmore@...
Date: Tue Aug 12, 2008 8:01 pm
Subject: Denise Venmore/EMSA/Merck is out of the office.

dvenmore@...

I will be out of the office starting  2008/08/12 and will not return until
2008/08/18.

In an emergency please call my mobile 076 133 7144

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From: "jessie_upshaw" <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Tue Aug 12, 2008 6:10 pm
Subject: SJS Awareness

jessie_upshaw

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Hello All,

I know it has been some time since anyone posted to the Bereavement
group.  I am embarrassed to say that I did not realize that August was
SJS awareness month, just found that out today when I was on the
foundation's website.

My question for myself and you, what are we going to do?  I  am going
to start by e-mailing the SJS fact sheet to all my contacts in my e-
mail address book.

I will also order some pins to pass out.

I know it is more difficult for the ones in this particular this group,
but the key to fighting this dreadful disease is knowledge.

Peace and blessings,

Jessie

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From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Mon Jul 21, 2008 3:06 pm
Subject: Re: Hello

jessie_upshaw

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Hello Denise,

There is no greater loss, in my opinion, than the loss of a child or a parent. It has been difficult, but you give me hope. I know it is going to be a long road. I don't understand those who expect us just to pick up and get back to "normal" life again. There is nothing normal about it.

My brother is 44 and is the oldest. I am 42, my sister Renee is 40 and Celena is 34. Mama's obituary reads" gave birth to four children but mother to many". She was the "neigborhood mom".

Thanks for responding. I know it has been 7 years for the loss of your sound, but know that I feel your pain.

jessie

--- On Mon, 7/21/08, dvenmore@... <dvenmore@...> wrote:

From: dvenmore@... <dvenmore@...>
Subject: Re: [SJSBereavement] Hello
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, July 21, 2008, 7:16 AM

Hi Jesse,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I understand completely how this feels. I lost my 11 year old son, Lloyd, 7 years ago. Although I carry on as 'normal' now, it took me 5 years to feel a bit better about my loss and I still have moments when I could scream.

When I have more time I'll drop you a note. In the meantime, please pass my best wishes to you and your siblings. How old are you (and them?).

Hang in there through this difficult time.

Kind regards,

Denise Venmore
Secretary to CEO
Location: Modderfontein
Phone: +27 11 372-5002
Fax: +27 11 608-2577
Email: dvenmore@merck. co.za

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From: dvenmore@...
Date: Mon Jul 21, 2008 11:16 am
Subject: Re: Hello

dvenmore@...

Hi Jesse,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I understand completely how this feels. I lost my 11 year old son, Lloyd, 7 years ago. Although I carry on as 'normal' now, it took me 5 years to feel a bit better about my loss and I still have moments when I could scream.

When I have more time I'll drop you a note. In the meantime, please pass my best wishes to you and your siblings. How old are you (and them?).

Hang in there through this difficult time.

Kind regards,

Denise Venmore
Secretary to CEO
Location: Modderfontein
Phone: +27 11 372-5002
Fax: +27 11 608-2577
Email: dvenmore@...

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From: jessie upshaw <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Thu Jul 17, 2008 3:17 pm
Subject: Re: Re: Hello

jessie_upshaw

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Hello Lee,

Thanks for responding. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. It is just so heartbreaking.

I know some of my biggest obstacles in dealing with this. The main one is ACCEPTANCE. I know she is gone, but I have not accepted it in yet. I am trying to cope with her death through educating others about this horrible disease. I tell everyone I can about SJS and that does bring me some comfort.

I thank you for the reassurance of being in wrapped God's arm. I know that in the end, it is with Him that I will found peace again.

Hope to hear from you soon,

jessie
--- On Wed, 7/16/08, Lee <mshoneybee@...> wrote:

From: Lee <mshoneybee@...>
Subject: [SJSBereavement] Re: Hello
To: SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, July 16, 2008, 2:26 PM

Hi Jessie,

My name is Lee. I lost my brother August 5, 2005. He had a horrific
bout of SJS on March 25th, 2003, and after that, his health failed. He
had heart trouble for years that was under control with medication and
he lived a very full life. If you didn't know him personally, you
would not know anything was wrong with him. After the Stevens Johnson,
it's like everything went wrong. He went into the hospital on December
21, 2004 for an overnight procedure (they were replacing his
defibrillator with a Bi-V {which is a pacemaker-defibrill ator
combination device}) and he never came home. So I do understand your
anger at the physicians. Out of everything that has happened, that
still haunts me sometimes. I work to let it go because I don't want it
to destroy me.

Jessie, I do understand the loss you are experiencing. It's three
years this August that my brother is gone and I must honestly tell you,
I still miss him. It doesn't sting like it used to, but I guess I'll
always miss him.

I'll be praying that the Lord will comfort you and make you aware that
his arms are wrapped around you and you can rest assured that He will
bring you through.

Peace and blessings,

Lee

--- In SJSBereavement@ yahoogroups. com, "jessie_upshaw"
<jessie_upshaw@ ...> wrote:
>
> Just wanted to take the time to introduce myself. My name is Jessie
> and my siblings and I lost our mother, Ms. Willie Upshaw, to SJS on
May
> 10, 2008. We live in Atlanta, Georgia. Words cannot express how sad I
> am. Tomorrow marks 2 months since we laid her to rest and I feel
like
> my chest is going to explode.
>
> I am very ANGRY at the physicians because of the lack of knowledge in
> dealing with her condition. Six weeks in ICU and it took them 4 1/2
> weeks to diagnose her. We removed her off the vent (actually she was
on
> two) 1 1/2 weeks later.
>
> jessie
>

From: dvenmore@...
Date: Wed Jul 16, 2008 8:01 pm
Subject: Denise Venmore/EMSA/Merck is out of the office.

dvenmore@...

I will be out of the office starting  2008/07/16 and will not return until
2008/07/21.

In an emergency please call my mobile 076 133 7144

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From: "Lee" <mshoneybee@...>
Date: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:26 pm
Subject: Re: Hello

honeybeestor...

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Hi Jessie,

My name is Lee.  I lost my brother August 5, 2005.  He had a horrific
bout of SJS on March 25th, 2003, and after that, his health failed.  He
had heart trouble for years that was under control with medication and
he lived a very full life.  If you didn't know him personally, you
would not know anything was wrong with him.  After the Stevens Johnson,
it's like everything went wrong.  He went into the hospital on December
21, 2004 for an overnight procedure (they were replacing his
defibrillator with a Bi-V {which is a pacemaker-defibrillator
combination device}) and he never came home.  So I do understand your
anger at the physicians.  Out of everything that has happened, that
still haunts me sometimes.  I work to let it go because I don't want it
to destroy me.

Jessie, I do understand the loss you are experiencing.  It's three
years this August that my brother is gone and I must honestly tell you,
I still miss him.  It doesn't sting like it used to, but I guess I'll
always miss him.

I'll be praying that the Lord will comfort you and make you aware that
his arms are wrapped around you and you can rest assured that He will
bring you through.

Peace and blessings,

Lee

--- In SJSBereavement@yahoogroups.com, "jessie_upshaw"
<jessie_upshaw@...> wrote:
>
> Just wanted to take the time to introduce myself.  My name is Jessie
> and my siblings and I lost our mother, Ms. Willie Upshaw, to SJS on
May
> 10, 2008. We live in Atlanta, Georgia. Words cannot express how sad I
> am.  Tomorrow marks 2 months since we laid her to rest and I feel
like
> my chest is going to explode.
>
> I am very ANGRY at the physicians because of the lack of knowledge in
> dealing with her condition. Six weeks in ICU and it took them 4 1/2
> weeks to diagnose her. We removed her off the vent (actually she was
on
> two) 1 1/2 weeks later.
>
> jessie
>

From: "jessie_upshaw" <jessie_upshaw@...>
Date: Wed Jul 16, 2008 4:36 pm
Subject: Hello

jessie_upshaw

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Just wanted to take the time to introduce myself.  My name is Jessie
and my siblings and I lost our mother, Ms. Willie Upshaw, to SJS on May
10, 2008. We live in Atlanta, Georgia. Words cannot express how sad I
am.  Tomorrow marks 2 months since we laid her to rest and I feel like
my chest is going to explode.

I am very ANGRY at the physicians because of the lack of knowledge in
dealing with her condition. Six weeks in ICU and it took them 4 1/2
weeks to diagnose her. We removed her off the vent (actually she was on
two) 1 1/2 weeks later.

jessie