For those who struggle with Love Addiction/Romantic Obsession.

Unlike the healthy person seeking partnership as a complement to his life, the Love Addict searches for something outside of himself/herself (a person, relationship or experience) which will provide the emotional and life stability that he/she himself/herself lacks. Similar to a drug addict or alcoholic, love addicts use their arousing romantic experiences in an attempt to "fix" themselves and remain emotionally stable. Love Addiction is nothing but a misguided dependency on others in an attempt to fulfill unmet developmental needs. Love Addicts often choose people similar to those in the past who did not meet their needs hoping this time they will end up satisfied. But because the people are similar or they view them as similar, the Love Addicts ends up feeling dissatisfied once more. A key element in identifying dependent love is how they feel when the person disapproves of them, disagrees with them, moves away from them, or threatens them. An escalation of behaviors occurs when the love object threatens to leave the Love Addict psychologically or physically. Dependent love is always self-serving. It survives on psychological myths: “I will take care of your fears and inadequacies so you will take care of mine.” “If you fail me, I will do whatever it takes to keep you around.” “But since I do not know how to be intimate or fear intimacy, I will allow only so much closeness or push you away.” On a psychological level love addiction makes perfect sense. Our attractions are psychological.

PLEASE NOTE: THIS IS NOT A 12 STEP SPECIFIC GROUP. THIS GROUP IS FOR THOSE DESIRING SUPPORT WITH LOVE ADDICTION - WHERE PEOPLE SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCES ANDTHEIR OWN SPIRITUAL TRUTHS WITH ONE ANOTHER; WHETHER THEY HAVE COME FROM THE 12 STEPS OR NOT. THE 12 STEPS IS NOT THE FRAMEWORK FOR THIS GROUP; THEY ARE BUT PART OF THE GREATER WHOLE.