I just wanted to introduce myself I am Miranda I am a recovering
addict/alcoholic
and my whole family are alcholics who refuse to do anything about
it, lol.  Today I am learning that is not for me to judge though
(whether or not they are alcoholics)that is their journey and for
them to figure out. Today I need to figure out why I can not stay
out of relationships with alcholics what is it within me that feels
the need to have relationships with alcholics.  I mean there are
plenty of people out there to date or be in a relationship with so
why do I cling to the sick and suffering.  That is why I am working
the twelve steps found in this program.  Today I am looking at me
rather than looking at them.....  God grant me the serenity to
accept the things I can not change (other people, places and things)
the courage to change the things I can (my attitude and reactions to
these people, places and things) and the wisdom to know the
difference.  I am here for both of you and completly understand what
you are going through if you ever want to chat my email is
mirandaluvseric@....  Thank you both so much for sharing and
for being a part of this group.  Keep coming back :)  Glad to have
you both here......
Just for Today
Miranda C.



Hi Miranda

 

Thank you for sharing your story. The reason why you are "attracted" to alcoholics...? I made the mistake of thinking I "understood" the alcoholic and felt I could help. I used to have a good alcoholic friend whom I put up in my bedsit years ago - we had good and bad times but drifted apart. I met my wife at college and again, thought I could understand and help her...

 

Perhaps like me, you are the kind of person who sees suffering in somebody and open your arms to help. Perhaps we are "drawn in" to those people that suffer.

 

However unlike you, I am not an alcoholic therefore I cannot first hand think what "being an alcoholic" is like. Yes I do like a drink but cannot drink as much as I would like perhaps for fear of my wife "stealing it".

 

You obviously understand what being an alcoholic is like and can see it in others and show support etc. People see this in you and perhaps this is the attraction

 

Perhaps I'm writing a lot of nonsense...but it's good to talk

 

Best wishes

Robert

UK