--- In Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com, "mheim33"
<mheim33@... > wrote:
>
> Hi. I have been married to my husband for 9 years this year. I was
> recently divorced when I met him from an abusive man and an
> alocholic. I knew when I met my current husband that he drank. I
have
> 4 children from my first marriage 1 boy 17 and 3 girls 16,15,13. 3
> years my husband had back surgery and was taken out of his line of
> work permanently. He hasnt worked since. He drinks more and more
and
> became addicted to presription meds. I didnt realize until recently
> about the meds addiction. He denies it and says that he only takes
> them for the pain. He has gotten mean within the past year,
> especially towards my children. He is the reason my son no longer
> speaks to me. I have tried to help him and talk to him but he
denies
> he has a problem with either alochol or prescription meds. I've
asked
> him to get help and go to AA meetings, my mom is a recovering
> Alcoholic for almost 14 years, and he refuses to go saying that he
> isnt like the other people that go there, he is better than them.
My
> husband does not work, he stays up half the night and sleeps all
day.
> I work 2 jobs to make ends meet. I told him this past week i cant
> live like this anymore and i want him to leave. He is looking for a
> place to live but in the meantime i feel so guilty because I've
given
> up. He is "suddenly" not feeling well and cries and asks me not to
do
> this to him. I just cant live like this anymore, my girls have been
> through alot and they despise him. They are so relieved to know he
is
> leaving. But yet i feel awful that i am doing this to him. I am so
> lost.
>
Honey,
Don't blame yourself for his problems.You are not to blame for his
disease.