I'm also really sorry to hear about your friend. I
used to be suicidal as a child. But I haven't been
since probably 10 years old, at the latest, 15. I
can't remember, exactly.

There were several suicides in my family, and i think
i got out of the chemical imbalance by a change of
attitude and lifestyle. i don't know that either, but
that's how it seems to me.

I agree with what kathy said though... the person
probably did not do that just because of the one
incident (or the one person)... it's a lot deeper and
more complicated than that... but it's important and
usually best for everyone around if we take care of
ourselves. it's not selfish to do so... it's just
healthy.

it's not always easy to take care of ourselves, and
sometimes taking care of ourselves means taking care
of others... (i'm thinking of my grandmother... she's
not so well, and spending time with her is important
to me. unfortunately i won't be in town long, but one
of the reasons i came back is because i really wanted
to see her... if she can enjoy some good memories,
that's really important. -- anywas, that's off track)

keep writing to our group as often as you need to...
kira
--- Kathy Varga <varga.kathy@...> wrote:

> i am so sorry about your friend. and i know how you
> feel. i would die if my husband killed himself over
> me. but also remember. his problems also lay deeper
> than just you leaving.
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----
> From: mheim33 <mheim33@...>
> To: Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Thursday, February 7, 2008 7:32:34 AM
> Subject: [Recovery-World-Al-Anon] Re: Lost In NY
>
> I'm scared. A friend of mine took his own life 2
> days ago. He drank ,
> he was going through a nasty divorce and all the
> time he told me that
> he never wanted to live without his wife and how
> much it hurt him when
> she left. My fear is that my husband may do the same
> thing. I know he
> loves me in his own way and he is very very
> dependent on me regarding
> every aspect of his life, I dont want to hurt him
> but i cant stay with
> him anymore, the only that has kept me there with
> him is that i feel
> sorry for him.
>
>
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