thanks michelle.!!! i guess i should have made it clearer. he isn't suicidal. he od'ed on accident. dumb ass!
kathy, ill talk more later. ow i must run to work. thanks for emailing me! :)
----- Original Message ---- From: michelle bloom <mecaylachuck@...> To: Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com Sent: Thursday, February 7, 2008 7:53:40 AM Subject: Re: [Recovery-World-Al-Anon] Re: Lost In NY
I am so sorry that you are going thru this. It's awful when you live with that fear. I felt like that too when I have left my husband in the past. Fortunately he was not suicidal and has never threatened to take his own life. Has your husband threatened suicide, or is it just something you fear? Do you think he has suicidal tendencies? Have you attended Al-Anon meetings before? I found Al-Anon to be a great deal of support for me when I was having anxiety like this. For me it helped to have people who knew what I was going through around me to love and support me. Friends and family who were well meaning did not understand exactly what it was like to live with an alcoholic. Please feel free to email me anytime if you need to talk. It's hard when you feel you have no one who understands. Bless you! Michelle
mheim33 <mheim33@yahoo. com> wrote:
I'm scared. A friend of mine took his own life 2 days ago. He drank , he was going through a nasty divorce and all the time he told me that he never wanted to live without his wife and how much it hurt him when she left. My fear is that my husband may do the same thing. I know he loves me in his own way and he is very very dependent on me regarding every aspect of his life, I dont want to hurt him but i cant stay with him anymore, the only that has kept me there with him is that i feel sorry for him.
Hi, Thanks for sharing your story... Like you, I've been through hard times, with my A boyfriend. He's been the only A that's been very close to me, but I...
thanks michelle.!!! i guess i should have made it clearer. he isn't suicidal. he od'ed on accident. dumb ass! kathy, ill talk more later. ow i must run to...
Hi Kira, and Amen... Ditto, and are you in my family?????? lol sure sounds like my dad was. he just past. but he was extremely controlling. you must...
Hi Kathy, Yes, i know about that kind of life of walking on eggshells. I used to be so shy as a child, but i just looked at the things around me, and i would...
hi michelle, my kids and i live for Intervention every week. we love that show.. and your right you do have to draw strength from some where. mine are my...
i am so sorry about your friend. and i know how you feel. i would die if my husband killed himself over me. but also remember. his problems also lay deeper...
I'm also really sorry to hear about your friend. I used to be suicidal as a child. But I haven't been since probably 10 years old, at the latest, 15. I can't...
Thank you all so much for your support. I am a person who feels that I can save the world. I want to help everyone but I"ve come to realize as my mom says...
Hi Margie, Having a time limit is good. It's important for him to know you're serious. take care of yourself and do anything you need to do differently for...
Hi I am more confused than ever today. My husband found an apartment and is moving out today. Although it is a relief to me I am very sad today. I worry about...
Margie, what you are feeling is quite normal. Whatever your relationship with your husband has been like for you (good or bad), it is a pattern that is familar...
Hi Michelle... every time i see your name, i think "is that the michelle i met in china?" so i just have to ask, did you go to china in 2002 or 2003? Take...
Hello Kira. No, I've never been to China, but it sounds like a trip I wouldn't mind taking someday. I have discovered that there are many Michelle Blooms out...
Hi Margie, I think that feeling is VERY normal. No matter what happens between people, just spending time together creates a bond. In fact, when I taught 6th...
By the way, I just wanted to congratulate both you and your husband... You for setting boundaries, and your husband for respecting them. That's really...
I agree with Michelle and Ying. After reading your post, I recollect the feelings of the day I moved out... great sense of loss, and confusion. Focus is...
Thanks for sharing your courage with us, Nolee. Even in my case, my A is sober, but it's not enough. He's making progress, and he has a good heart, but where...
I just wanted to jump in and say something here. im fairly new to this forum, my husband had a major relapse last year that sent the whole family in a tailspin...
Welcome Cindi, In reading your post, I see so much of my own issues, and it ripples out to the others here as well (I relate to so many different stories ...
Hi Nolee, this is a great share... i've also experienced a lot of these things... i like what you said about 'the things we do when we are choosing to heal'......
Hang in there Cindy... You are making the right decisions, and you are clear about your boundaries... Those boundaries are important for you. You deserve them...
When does the emptyness go away? the last time i did this, it was so I could get clean and i packed up and moved thousands of miles away. now i through him out...
-Cindy, I was in love with a crack addict once, and felt like I would die from the pain when we broke up. I now remind myself that I didn't, and when I look...
well things got worse before they got better, i took him back ONE more time and figured out VERY QUICKLY that i didnt want to need the crazyness anymore and I...
I am so very happy for you. My husband is all out of last chances too. He does not think that I would leave, but if the crazies ever happen again, I would have...
ya know, when i told my husband to leave. for my kids sake i knew i did the right thing. i gave him chance after chance. i followed the program, with the...