From: Lesa Showalter <lshowalter@...>
Subject: Re: [Recovery-World-Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody.
To: Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com
Cc: debbysmith2003@..., dads_up2heaven@..., kimadams12171982@...
Date: Monday, June 29, 2009, 7:03 AM

I think we need to form our own circle.  I just went thru another horrible weekend with my blood pressure 170/103.  This happens every weekend and I had aneurysm surgery last December so of course i panic.   Why do we keep ourselves in these horrible lives.  It's not that I don't care for him I just don't love him anymore and want to be free and away from the alcohol.    If any of you know how to make a group where we can all chat let me know. --- On Sun, 6/28/09, Debby Smith <debbysmith2003@ yahoo..com> wrote: From: Debby Smith <debbysmith2003@ yahoo.com> Subject: Re: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody. To: Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com Date: Sunday, June 28, 2009, 8:09 PM I am looking for an online meeting (s).  Can anyone direct me.  Right now I cannot pay.    Debby Smith From: Debby Smith <debbysmith2003@ yahoo.com> To: Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com Sent: Sunday, June 28, 2009 4:00:59 PM Subject: Re: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody. Carole, My heart goes out to you.  My present husband also was very supportive when I had cancer.  Unfortunately, the doctor told him I would go into early menapause and he has used that.  Each time he takes money from me, overdraws our account, or refuses to pay bills and I get upset (I can't help myself), he says that I need help.  He also reminds me that he used to cook and clean when I had my last job.  Oh, by the way, he was out of work and just sat home and drank and smoked, and stole money from our account.   I have a taxi service and he sometimes works late at night.  He uses this excuse not to come home each day, not to bath, and to use this money to buy drugs.  I think I need to be in a group for nacotics, but I do qualify for both.    I understand not having any friends.  I had a couple friends, but my husband offended her and we no longer speak.  The other friend now sells him his drugs.  (she has been diagnosed with a terminal disease)  Now, I pay for her pills because I work and also from my checking if I leave any money in it (as my husband takes it out)   I have grandkids and so I have something to make me happy.  I have a job at a church, so I am surrounded by good people, but feel so alone.  I want to run away, but someone has to be responsible for the bills.    I have gotten insurance and assured my husband that our insurance will pay for treatment, but he does not have a problem, he says I do.  I know from the years I attended alanon that we cannot force someone to get help.  We have to get out of the way.  By the way, I am an alanon flunky.  I cannot be strong.  I am an enabler.   My son (who is a user), has pawned my lap top several times to get money.  I found out today that he used my husbands credit card to get money.  (he had his pregnant girlfriend sign the paper)  Now, how am I going to prosecute some young girl who is carrying my grandchild.  I am so weak.    Debby Smith From: Carole Rocheleau <dads_up2heaven@ hotmail.com> To: recovery-world- al-anon@yahoogro ups.com Sent: Saturday, June 27, 2009 10:22:13 PM Subject: RE: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody. Hi Debby, my name is Carole. I live with an alcoholic for nine yrs now.. I have left him once. He drew me back into his web by telling me he was going to AA and counseling. Now my health has declined with two gastroscopies and he was very supportive during that time. But now he brings it up every time I try to  talk about him drinking. I don't know how to get him to admit that he has a problem. He has managed to ruin many friendship I had, distance me from my family and even tried to break the bond between my son and I. I have no means of supporting myself, or even a place to go. If someone could give me advice on how to talk to him and get him into AA. I know that I have to take care of myself first and I do, but he is very coniving and untrust worthy. He has been abusive once and mentally abuse on a daily basis. I have no more confidence, nor friends and no conversation with him, only my little kitten Cloe. Please give advice Always follow your Carole   To: Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com From: kimadams12171982@ yahoo.com Date: Sat, 27 Jun 2009 07:19:58 -0700 Subject: Re: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody. Hi Debby,My name is Kim. And I live your struggle! My husband too trades addictions and thinks he is fooling everyone. We have been married for 26+ years and it has been a roller coaster ride the entire time. We moved back to Montana a year ago and it has been one thing after another the entire time. If you would like to email or chat on yahoo messenger I would like that. Hope you have a nice day,  Kim --- On Fri, 6/26/09, Debby <debbysmith2003@ yahoo.com> wrote: From: Debby <debbysmith2003@ yahoo.com> Subject: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Re: Hi everybody. To: Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com Date: Friday, June 26, 2009, 9:18 PM Hello, I am new to the online world of Al Anon. I used to belong to a group, but work got in the way. I also have moved to a separate room. My husband has broken my heart. We have been married for 10 years. Most of these years he drank daily. He now has substitued beer with pills. Either way, I am out of control. I also have a son at home who does pain pills. I am broke and hurting.- -- In Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com, Lesa Showalter <lshowalter@ ...> wrote: > > Hey, I have given up on my marriage too, even tho we still co-exist, separate rooms, sepaarate lives.  It does get lonely tho.  Anyone who wants to talk can email me anytime.  We all need friends with lives like this. >   > Lesa Showalter > Texas > > > --- On Thu, 6/18/09, ntbaxter3@.. . <ntbaxter3@. ..> wrote: > > > From: ntbaxter3@.. . <ntbaxter3@. ..> > Subject: Re: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Hi everybody. > To: Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com > Date: Thursday, June 18, 2009, 10:26 PM > > > > > > > > > I give up on my alcoholic wife > Alcohol wins I lose! > > > From: "jll_shaw" > Date: Thu, 18 Jun 2009 23:36:39 -0000 > To: <Recovery-World- Al-Anon@yahoogro ups.com> > Subject: [Recovery-World- Al-Anon] Hi everybody. > > > > My name is Jill. I joined this group because I need some help and support in dealing with codependency issues I am having. I was in a relationship for ten years with my sons father who is an alcoholic/addict. Her has been sober for 5 months now while living in a recovery house. A couple of weeks ago I learned that he is seeing someone he met at a meeting and he ended our relationship. I am not dealing with detaching well and I find myself to be very jealous of this other girl. He had been using since my son was born and has been in and out of treatment programs the whole time always coming back to us in between. Now that he seem to be working the steps and program effectively he is walking away. I know this sounds ridiculous but it hurts. > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ __ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail. yahoo.com Attention all humans. We are your photos. Free us.