I told my husband of 5 years, that by the time I got home from work
the day he told me everything he had been doing, he had to be out of
the house. I would NOT tolerate the lies, the stealing (in a way)
and the shooting coke. I knew when I married him that he was a
recovering addict and alcoholic. He had been clean for 16 yrs. Then
all of a sudden, this little old man of 53yrs decided to go back to
that crap. That was almost 3 months ago. He still isn't back home
but he comes over every day to see me and the dogs (our children!)
He is staying at his sponsers house and he goes to AA/NA meetings 2-3
times a week. Right now is his busiest time at work, he is a heating
and air guy, so he has little time to do anything but work, go to
meetings, and see me for an hour or so a day. But he is working on
his problem. Big time. So that shows me that he really wanted the
help as well as keeping our family together. I live in an area where
there are no meetings for us (spouses) to go to. I read these
postings as well as others in other groups every day. They get me
through all of this. It let me know that I was not alone even though
I felt like it. If you ever need a shoulder, there are so many here
for you to lean on. Me included! I lean too at times. Believe this
or not, this is the first time I think I have ever posted in this
group! But I felt your pain. I felt your heartbreak. I felt your
fear. Be strong. You know what is the best for you. No one can tell
you what that is. If he is asking for help, help him find it. He
sounds like a good man with a bad habit. You can support him as well
as standing strong for what's right. We are all here for you, dear.