Well hello Jill, I am so glad to finally hear from someone on this site.
I have been married for 23 years to a horrible alcoholic too. I have
finally come to terms that we are not no longer in a relationship. I do
not love him, I pity him and really want out of this marriage. If your
boyfriend is clean and sober but with another user, you know what the
consequences can be. Even tho it hurts, I think you should move on with
your life, for your sake and your child's. I wish mine would meet
someone else and move out. There are men out there who would love to
have you. Just don't allow another user in your life. I know the
heartbreak you are feeling, my first husband was cheating on me and I
divorced him after 15 years and have never regretted it. I am here
for you if you want to talk anytime. It's not going to be easy but you
will get through this sweetie. Lesa Showalter myspace.com/lesasho
email lshowalter@...
--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, "jll_shaw" <jll_shaw@...>
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> My name is Jill. I joined this group because I need some help and
support in dealing with codependency issues I am having. I was in a
relationship for ten years with my sons father who is an
alcoholic/addict. Her has been sober for 5 months now while living in a
recovery house. A couple of weeks ago I learned that he is seeing
someone he met at a meeting and he ended our relationship. I am not
dealing with detaching well and I find myself to be very jealous of this
other girl. He had been using since my son was born and has been in and
out of treatment programs the whole time always coming back to us in
between. Now that he seem to be working the steps and program
effectively he is walking away. I know this sounds ridiculous but it
hurts.
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