Hi Brett.
I am in a similar situation although we were never married or lived together.
My son's father who I've been in a relatioship with for 10 years has ended our
relationship and is now seeing a girl he met in AA. I do not want my son
involved in their relationship for fear that one of them will "slip" and put my
son in danger.
It is great that you have custody of your children. You are their protector and
you do what you feel is best deep inside for them. Your ex may not like what
you tell her but that is her problem. She needs to deal with that herself.
Good luck!
--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, "Brett Limer" <blimer@...> wrote:
>
> I am currently dealing with an odd situation with my ex-A and her
> examples (or lack thereof) she is demonstrating to our kids. Here is
> the simple history of events leading up to my dilemma:
>
> A ex-wife and I have been divorced 4 years
> (after being scraped off the streets) A ex-wife lived with her father
> A ex-wife started a relationship with a male AA "friend"
> A ex-wife moved out of father's house and in with male A
> A ex-wife had baby with male A
> A ex-wife jumped head over heels into male A's family and did
> everything with them (with our kids)
> A ex-wife broke up with male A
> A ex-wife moved into mother's house
> A ex-wife started a relationship with a male AA "friend"
> A ex-wife has begun to jump head over heels into male A's family and
> do everything with them (with our kids)
>
> I have sole legal and physical custody of our 2 kids. I have grown
> increasingly agitated of A ex-wife's behavior pattern of not thinking
> of our kids first and finding male relationships within AA. I am
> going to bring this up as a topic to discuss with her, but wanted to
> get feedback from my Al-anon groups and think things through before
> doing so. She is likely to think that I am telling her what to do
> with her personal life, but my only angle is what the kids are exposed
> to. She has repeatedly demonstrated that she cannot take care of
> herself, and needs a parent of another male "friend" to do things for
> her. HELP please! ;)
>
> Thanks,
> Brett
>