--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, "Linda Gorham" <smurfette@...>
wrote:
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> If you need to talk to me my e-mail address is smurfette@...
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Linda Gorham
> To: Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Friday, February 06, 2009 1:32 AM
> Subject: Re: [Recovery-World-Al-Anon] I NEED SOMEONE TO SHARE WITH
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Hi my name is Virgie. Very new to this Al-Anon group. My hub is alcoholic and
he's attending AA. Am trying to come to the group hoping for help.
We're married for 4yrs, stayed in the Phil. I would say that he is an angry man
(he said to me). He keeps shouting at me whenever he is upset of just in a very
little something. Meaning he throws his resentments, grudges and anger out to
me. When things going "ok" then he will say sorry to me and says he won't throw
his anger out to me anymore..... still the same, am his punching object (by his
mouth). Am always his outlet of his very bad temper.
He told me if we move to a colder place ( definitely in the US)he will be a
better man. We moved here in the US a month ago and I need to adjust everything,
from the weather to environment....am doing great! Thinking that he will be a
better man in a colder place did not happen. Still the same, I am emotionally
and mentally abused by his poisonous bad mouth. Lately, he keeps asking me these
questions: "Are you still wants to be married to me that my mouth won't change?"
"Are you leaving me?" "Are you going to look for another man?" "Are you staying
out of me?" I don't know why he keeps asking me those questions. what else I can
do? I am very new here, no job, no friends, no money and I am helpless! And what
more he told me that he is bi/gay! Anybody who can share this?

confused and helpless
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> Hi my name is Linda: I'm in three different groups.There isn't much activity
in recovery.So please try ALANON NOW,or CARING & SHARING,or COURAGE TO
CHANGE.I'm sure one of those three can help you.You cannot force your daughter
to quit drinking,she has to be the one to decide that.I found that out in
AL/ANON here where I live.It's a hard road.But try finding a group where you
live too.You'll be surprised to find friends to help.If it's not listed as
Alanon look for AA they'll tell you who to contact.I wish you much luck.I'm
thankful that my husband found his sobrity almost 15 mos ago.I pray your
daughter will too and soon.
> All my best wishes Linda D.Gorham
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Kathleen Gray
> To: Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Thursday, February 05, 2009 10:10 PM
> Subject: [Recovery-World-Al-Anon] I NEED SOMEONE TO SHARE WITH
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> My 36 year old daughter has been diagnosed with liver disease and has been
in and out of the hospital since April, 2008. Even though she has been told
that she will die if she drinks, she continues to do so. She has a 6 year old
daughter, who is a beautful little girl. I have been supporting both of them
and taking care of my granddaughter for six years. Last Sunday, my daughter had
a seizure from alcohol withdrawal after a two week drinking binge. There were
days when she did not even see my granddaughter. Unfortunately, Bianca (my
granddaughter) was in bed with her mother when the seizure occurred. She was so
frightened that it took me an hour to calm her down. My daughter is currently
in the hospital being treated for alcohol withdrawal. The doctors are trying to
get her into a long term treatment facility. I am 61 years old, employed full
time, and under so much stress that I don't know where to turn. I know that
without my help, my granddaughter would be in Foster care. Her father, a
cocaine addict, took his own life in 2006. Nothing I have said to my daughter
seems to make a difference to her.
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> I am just tired and scared. I joined your group because I thought it
might help me to cope with this very sad situation.
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