--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, Miss Floor
<missfloor@...> wrote:
>
> Phil called this morning to tell me that he wants to
> quit drinking. The catch here is that he wants me to
> move back to St. Louis to help him. It's a trap to
> me, even though that's not how he intends it. I have
> a relatively successful business here in Columbia.
> Starting over would be devestating. I also have a
> better attitude and am almost out of bad debt because
> of my situation here. How do I help him understand
> that? Can I get him to move here? Is it even wise
> for me to help him?
>
> Jody
>
> __________________________________________________
> I think it will be the biggest mistake of your life, you should
only let him back in your life after he got himself sober. You will
lose everything you've worked so hard for just because you feel it is
your responsibility to help. It is not. He must help himself, become
a healed, healthy individual, and only then, can you continue to have
a healthy relationship with him again. I'm no one to talk, as I'm in
one of those very UN-healthy relationships currently, but I've made a
decision to get out until it can get a healthy relationship again. I
hope you will make the same decision

Kamikaze