I know what you are going through. My mother is an alcoholic and I
had to deal with the same things throughout the 20 years I lived with
her. When I threatened to stop talking to her if she didnt get
sober, she quit drinking for over a year. The problem though is
that, its impossible for her to stay sober on her own. Without
counseling and a support system, she cannot remain sober. She
refuses to go to AA meetings because she is embarassed. Im afraid
that your husband will relapse too, if he doesnt get professional
help. He has to want to change for himself, not for anyone else.
Everytime I threatened to stop talking to my mom, she would quit
drinking for a period of time, but it didnt last long because she
didnt want to quit drinking. She was doing it for me. It's really
hard to watch someone you love struggle with their addictions,
especially when they shut you out and continue to struggle through it
alone.
--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, "zookeeper61"
<zookeeper61@...> wrote:
>
> Just wanted to introduce myself. I decided to join because living
with
> a drunk can be so lonely. I love my husband , but he has a very hard
> time staying on the wagon. This week, he is back on, but doing the
> crabby dry drunk thing. That's not a lot of fun either.
> I find that I bargain with him a lot, try to control his drinking,
and
> feel a rage when he drinks, that really scares me. I am afraid I
will
> have a stroke someday.
> Like I said, this week he is sober, and working on home
renovations. I
> have our renovation money in the bank, and told him I would take it
> all and leave the last time he was drunk.I think that fear of that,
is
> what is keeping him sober this time, but feel it's only a matter of
time.
> I don't want to be married to a drunk, and feel that after almost
four
> years of it, the next time I will leave, for good.
> I look forward to getting to "know" you all.
> Cara
>