I am involved with a recovering alcoholic and drug addict for the last 6 months.  He is 12 years sober.  We are dealing with this relationship through distance.  He recently had a life changing experience on his job in which a person lost their life (3 months ago).  I feel him growing distant and more moody.  Nothing that I suggest works.  He wants to remain distant and rejects my offers to see him.  I have not seen him for the last 3 months.  I have never been involved with someone in recovery.  I am reading the Al-Anon books and have attended a couple of meetings.  I have not chosen a sponsor yet.  My question is how do I continues to receive the rejection and I guess the state of depression (attitude) from this person in recovery?  Is this a normal behavior for a person in recovery?  I want to be there for him, but the more I try, the more he pulls away......Help me understand before it is too late!