I am new to all of this too, but it seems to me that you are doing the
right thing for yourself and your child.
I do know they need to want help themselves, and if they don't even
admit to being an alcoholic, how can they choose to seek help?
My theory is that alcoholics know that they are alcoholics, but if
they admit it, then they would have to make a decision on whether to
stop or not, wouldn't they?
Perhaps he knows, but isn't ready to stop yet...
In the meantime, you are here, and going to counseling. You are taking
care of you, and that is most important.
Cara





--- In Recovery-World-Al-Anon@yahoogroups.com, "msmagoo1987"
<msmagoo1987@...> wrote:
>
> I'm new at all this stuff, but I did go to a counselor yesterday for
> ME. One thing he told me is isolating themselves to make you feel
> guilty, abandoned or whatever is part of their process. After a lot of
> thought, I have given my husband an ultimatum, he either gets help or
> I'm gone. This also means when my son is home in the summer from
> school he is gone too. This seems difficult, but all the love,
> screaming, begging or whatever will not make him get better. I can
> only make me get better. If he chooses to get help we will go from
> there, but until he does I have to take care of me and our son. I
> can't make him love himself. Even his best friend told him he is an
> alcoholic and needs help, but he is unwilling to believe that. Good
> look choppercruz,I'm here if you need a friend.
> I also want to say I'm so grateful for this site to be able to talk to
> people who know what I'm going through. Thanks to all of you.
>