Thanks Dr. Vaknin. I read the article, and somehow it applied to me. ... Abusive ... I Get Rid ... (PTSD) ... Autonomy ... a ... Yet, ... need, ... much ... ...
Thanks Maria. I am not from an abusive family. My parents have a good relationship. I attracted this in my life because I believed no one could love me. I...
I don't hate myself. I am thankful that I am intelligent, I am well respected in my career, I am attractive, I'm a good mother and daughter and I am good to...
Hi ! (Do you have a first name????) Wow, how old of a couple are you two? He is still living with his Mom? Well, if he is sincerely religious then his not...
Thanks Frank. Here's the interesting part. He is becoming "religious" now and for a long time now he is saying that he doesn't think there should be a sexual...
I have to agree so wholeheartedly. I have been reading and following this site for about three years now. The short story is this: I wanted to fix my broken...
Darling, YOU ARE BEING ABUSED. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Why do you STAY with someone who treats you like a stupid animal. You realize that if you ever, GOD...
Dr. Vaknin, could you please clarify in very simple terms what Co-dependency is and how it is different from these rescue fantasies. I thought that when you...
Hi, Saba, Click on these links: Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5002...
Good Afternoon ! Perhaps what I am sensing here, in a simplictic manner, is a guy who savors all the perks and benefits of a marriage relationship without any...
Hi again Saba, I just clicked and saw that you are already on your way at recognizing codependency. Co, meaning taking responsibility for your part in the...
Dear Saba, Happiness comes from within and not from others. It doesn't matter if he is in the mood or not to make the relationship better, he can't. You...
I just read Sam's article on Co-Dependence. Is there a line between asking for too much in a relationship and asking for the bare minimum. Asking my b/f to...
I know before I even write this, that most of you will think that I need to learn to love myself. Okay, but I want to know is am I at fault here.. other than...
thank you everyone, Right now it is just nice to know that i am not the the only one. I mean i know i am not i now am in contact with 2 other girls he has done...
Hi, I agree with Jill. Get away from him before things really get complicated ie possibly children and shared legal responsibility because you will pay for...
Thank you Sam. When I went to court today and asked that I be allowed to take part in choosing the psychologist, he actually allowed it. I was so relieved....
Hi, Tammy, Selecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again. Continue...
... This can be the most confounding thing *ever! *My ex was an absolute pathological liar and would openly admit it with the caveat that he could not find...
Dear Sam, I tend to think that the diagnoses of codependency is often overused to label an individual who has been in an abusive relationship to explain the...
I don't know how easy it is for some people to lie. My ex lied and manipulated things that most people couldn't lie about. He got a picture taken with a girl...
See this: http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissistdefiance.html Take care. Sam ... From: Frank To: Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, April 02, 2008...
Hi Sam! Interesting definition of "Counterdependents", a term that I have not previously encountered. After remembering of of the remarks that my verbally...
http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/49910 Only a qualified mental health diagnostician can determine whether someone suffers from Narcissistic...
Scroll to the bottom for additional resources regarding codependence, trauma bonding, the Stockholm Syndrome! http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/56956 ...
Thank you for your kind words, Tammy! Take care there! Sam Click on these links for detailed topic guides - everything you ever wanted to know about...
- These articles really help make sense of why the N does these behaviors. It really is sad. It is like a living hell for N and anyone that knows N. It is...
http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/49712 Shame, Narcissism, and a Meaningful Life Sam Vaknin Sam Vaknin (samvak.tripod.com) is the author of Malignant...
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