Here I am living in a meager salary trying to make ends meet ten thousand miles away from home. Met a guy from hometown but I never knew him before. We talked...
http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/49712 Shame, Narcissism, and a Meaningful Life Sam Vaknin Sam Vaknin (samvak.tripod.com) is the author of Malignant...
- These articles really help make sense of why the N does these behaviors. It really is sad. It is like a living hell for N and anyone that knows N. It is...
Thank you for your kind words, Tammy! Take care there! Sam Click on these links for detailed topic guides - everything you ever wanted to know about...
Scroll to the bottom for additional resources regarding codependence, trauma bonding, the Stockholm Syndrome! http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/56956 ...
http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/49910 Only a qualified mental health diagnostician can determine whether someone suffers from Narcissistic...
Hi Sam! Interesting definition of "Counterdependents", a term that I have not previously encountered. After remembering of of the remarks that my verbally...
See this: http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissistdefiance.html Take care. Sam ... From: Frank To: Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, April 02, 2008...
I don't know how easy it is for some people to lie. My ex lied and manipulated things that most people couldn't lie about. He got a picture taken with a girl...
Dear Sam, I tend to think that the diagnoses of codependency is often overused to label an individual who has been in an abusive relationship to explain the...
... This can be the most confounding thing *ever! *My ex was an absolute pathological liar and would openly admit it with the caveat that he could not find...
Hi, Tammy, Selecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again. Continue...
Thank you Sam. When I went to court today and asked that I be allowed to take part in choosing the psychologist, he actually allowed it. I was so relieved....
Hi, I agree with Jill. Get away from him before things really get complicated ie possibly children and shared legal responsibility because you will pay for...
thank you everyone, Right now it is just nice to know that i am not the the only one. I mean i know i am not i now am in contact with 2 other girls he has done...
I know before I even write this, that most of you will think that I need to learn to love myself. Okay, but I want to know is am I at fault here.. other than...
I just read Sam's article on Co-Dependence. Is there a line between asking for too much in a relationship and asking for the bare minimum. Asking my b/f to...
Dear Saba, Happiness comes from within and not from others. It doesn't matter if he is in the mood or not to make the relationship better, he can't. You...
Hi again Saba, I just clicked and saw that you are already on your way at recognizing codependency. Co, meaning taking responsibility for your part in the...
Good Afternoon ! Perhaps what I am sensing here, in a simplictic manner, is a guy who savors all the perks and benefits of a marriage relationship without any...
Hi, Saba, Click on these links: Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5002...
Dr. Vaknin, could you please clarify in very simple terms what Co-dependency is and how it is different from these rescue fantasies. I thought that when you...
Darling, YOU ARE BEING ABUSED. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Why do you STAY with someone who treats you like a stupid animal. You realize that if you ever, GOD...
I have to agree so wholeheartedly. I have been reading and following this site for about three years now. The short story is this: I wanted to fix my broken...
Thanks Frank. Here's the interesting part. He is becoming "religious" now and for a long time now he is saying that he doesn't think there should be a sexual...
Hi ! (Do you have a first name????) Wow, how old of a couple are you two? He is still living with his Mom? Well, if he is sincerely religious then his not...
I don't hate myself. I am thankful that I am intelligent, I am well respected in my career, I am attractive, I'm a good mother and daughter and I am good to...
Thanks Maria. I am not from an abusive family. My parents have a good relationship. I attracted this in my life because I believed no one could love me. I...
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