I want to thank everyone for their replies to my email. Things here at home
are "interesting" to say the least. I am standing my ground on the control
issues with my husband. He is working very hard to modify his behaviors as
I am working to modify mine. It is hard for me not to ask permission and
not to take direction when he dictates it. So far I am doing what I need to
to take care of my children and myself. I am not asking permission anymore
but I am affording him the courtesy of making sure we don't have plans, etc
and inviting him along. Control is a difficult thing for him to give up. I
am trying to regain some control over my own life without controlling his
which is actually harder than it sounds because he is so afraid of me
leaving that he would do/let me do anything at this point. It's hard not to
"take advantage" of that. We are trying to work on being partners again,
actuallly I don't know that we ever were so this is a new thing. Wish me
luck. His first therapy appt is on Monday. Hopefully he gets along well
with his therapist and they are able to work on some things.

Thanks again,
Belle