Welcome Tiff. Please always remember that the NP will hide his most
horrid features - until he feels he's 'gotten us' and then his true
self will emerge with all the horrors you now see.

Congratulations to you on getting out. Be safe and leave immediately
and perhaps consider calling the police for an escort out of there
if needed.

Our MSN groups on Ps is larger than our site here
http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/messageboard.msnw

We all need to learn as much as possible quickly and to protect our
selves financially and emotionally. Leaving can often be the most
dangerous time.

Hugs
femfree


--- In Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com, "tiffanymycat61"
<tiffanymycat61@y...> wrote:
> Hello everyone..I guess I should introduce myself..everyone can
call
> me Tiff..and yes, have been with a NP for a long time. But didn't
> realize it until I started counseling 2 mos ago, stumbling across
> this on the web last week. I'm so new to this..and still trying to
> come to terms with the labeling of a very abusive relationship.
>
> Its been a crazy upward struggle for me, and I have come to
realize
> that I have to save myself. I have made arrangements to move out
> October 1st..to find myself and start a new life. I have been with
> this NP for 10 yrs..3 of which I have lived with him. Little did I
> know it would be worse under the same roof. He is a totally
> different man. I have tried to no avail to save this
> relationship..and now I am exhausted..with little self-esteem, and
> completely heartbroken. I don't know how or when I'm even going to
> tell him I'm moving out. I'm scared to death.
>
> I became so wrapped up in his world...his life..I lost myself. I
> gave him the control..and his brainwashing and manipulation has
> almost ruined me. I don't know how I even found the strength &
> courage to find my own place. I feel so bad for him..and I think
> thats partly what has kept me here. Is that normal? Despite his
> verbal abuse..and threats..I stayed. I never thought I would be in
> this place in my life. I should know better..as I'm 43 yrs
old..good
> job..and educated. I guess abuse attacks without prejudice or
> warning. Before I knew it..I was in it.
>
> I struggle everyday for the strength to continue..and I have a
month
> before I'm out. I just hope I can hang in there.