Hi and Welcome Eliza. Your question is an excellent one. There is a
lot of similarities and overlap with Antisocial PD (the psychopath)
and NPD (the narcissist). Accoridng to the study done by Ronningstam
and Gunderson, the primary difference is the narcissists need for
attention and adulation.

The results confirm a sufficiently broad array of similarities that
the question of whether these categories should be kept separate (as
they are in DSM-IV) is underscored. The results also indicate
important areas of difference. The NPD sample was best discriminated
from the ASPD sample by their grandiosity, that is, the tendency to
exaggerate their talents, and to regard themselves as more unique and
superior.
From: Abstract: Differentiating narcissistic and antisocial
personality disorders.
Gunderson JG, Ronningstam E. J Personal Disord 2001 Apr;15(2):103-9

Onething Eliza is that we're not professionals and it becomes up to
us to figure out what's wrong with our abusive persons in our lives.
To this end, we must all learn as much as we can as fast as we can
and protect ourselves financially and emotionally.

As we learn about mental disorders, we also learn a lot about
ourselves along the way.

An abuser is an abuser and while it's nice to have a label to pin on
them (this may be needed in the legal arena) it's also nice to know
that pigeon-holding them into the right 'slot' really isn't
necessary. My husband is bi-polar, very narcissistic and borderline,
he would also meet the criteria for both masochistic and sadistic
(that one just barely) PDs as well.

Here's a link to our psychopath forum
http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/home.htm

and our Narcissistic Personality Disroder forum
http://groups.msn.com/NARCISSISTICPERSONALITYDISORDER/home1.msnw

You will find pages of link and information there about these
disorders to help cope with these people in our lives.

My apologies for the late delay in responding. I am usually at those
forums and not here as often.

Take Care
femfree
(financial & emotional freedom)





--- In Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com, "elizaaddams"
<elizaaddams@y...> wrote:
> For a long time I've thought my ex is a narcissist. And I'm sure he
> is. But I'd like to know what separates a plain narcissit from a
> psychopath?


>
> Eliza