Hi Melissa:

Our stories are so similar. I am just two weeks out of the
relationship - a relationship that lasted only three months and was a
whirlwind. Same thing - wanted to marry me, showered me with
attention, gifts etc. It took me two and a half months to put some
of the loopholes together to figure out he wasn't an attorney, he
didn't live in Boston, he didn't grow up in the mansion he said he
had etc. etc. Everything he told me was a lie. Turns out he had
been married in the past, had an eleven year old boy. I am $4,000
poorer because of this person. I guess I am lucky - turns out he
stole $30,000 from the last woman he dated.

The worst part is NO ONE understands. My reality of the past three
months has been deleted. Nothing is or was true. I keep searching
for pieces of him because I want to have something concrete but
instead, I have nothing. I can't explain the anger and sadness I
feel. Thank god I am starting to see a therapist tomorrow. I feel
shellshocked.

Thank you for sharing your story!

Nelson

--- In Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com, "dezign4you"
<dezign4you@y...> wrote:
> Thank you Bruce & Pamela(:
>
> --- In Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com, Bruce Hinrichs
> <hinrichsbruce@y...> wrote:
> > Yes, I had a similar situation... a woman who came on strong,
> proposed to me, showered me with love, we lived together for 2
years,
> then she started seducing men at work, got fired, continued an
> affair, lied and lied and lied compulsively, then one day left to
be
> with the new man, an old, short, ugly guy. Makes no sense until
you
> realize she is mentally ill. Anyway, I am in shock and depressed
> over the nonsense, the cold, calloused abruptness of it, and the
> betrayal. These people are evil. Good luck. Bruce.
> >
> > dezign4you <dezign4you@y...> wrote:Hi,
> >
> > I'm new to the group. I just got out of a 4 month, very intense,
> > relationship with someone who I believe after reading a lot about
> > this stuff, was a social psychopath and very narcissistic. It was
> > very similar to the Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde analogy I keep seeing
> > referenced. To top it all off, I go to see a therapist after the
> > relationship ends to try to get my life back in order and the
> > therapist propositions me for sex. I feel like my life is
> completely
> > surreal! I don't really have anywhere else to turn and I'm in so
> > much pain I can hardly stand it.
> >
> > I know I obviously have some issues myself to let myself fall in
> love
> > so deeply with a guy like this but I'm trying to work through
that.
> I
> > think I have some co-dependency issues and I am working on it so
I
> > won't be so vulnerable again. I just feel so confused because my
> > wonderful prince charming totally turned on me after I started to
> > question some of the things he would say. I had a bad feeling in
my
> > gut about him but I was also very in love I thought. I really
miss
> > the good times we had together and I find myself thinking about
him
> a
> > lot even though the relationship ended about 5 weeks ago. After
one
> > week, he was telling me he loved me and wanted to marry me. I
> almost
> > sold my house and moved to California to be with him. I live in
St.
> > Louis. He was always preoccupied with how much money people had,
> > their salaries, what kind of cars they drove, etc. etc. He always
> > seemed jealous of people that more successful too. He had a large
> > amount of debt which he blamed on several different factors. He
> also
> > was very intelligent, outgoing, held a high ranking position in
the
> > military and very articulate. He was also very sexual and
sometimes
> I
> > felt somewhat uncomfortable with amount of sex he wanted from me
> but
> > I thought he just really loved me. What a fool I was! Anyway, if
> > there is anyone else out there that has been through something
> > similar I would love to hear from you. Thanks.
> >
> > Melissa
> >
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