-It seems like he's stalking you..IF he scares you that much...it
looks like you could get a restraining order ...most of the times
they grant them without much questions

-- In Psychopathsgroup@yahoogroups.com, "myhootietoot"
<myhootietoot@y...> wrote:
>
> Nine years ago I had a child with a psychopath. He left me when I
> was seven months pregnant. After he left he constantly called
> telling me he loved me. For four years we had a long distance
> relationship. As long as I carried on the relationship he ignored
> our daughter. Then I decided I had had enough of this lonely
> relationship and started dating and eventually married another
man.
> That is when the nightmare really began. There are so many stories
I
> could tell. However, nothing he did really got to me until he
> started taking me to court for custody. He does this even though
he
> seems to have no true affection for our daughter. He has nothing
> good to say about her and in fact when she was born he asked me if
> she had downs syndrome. She was and is the most beautiful little
> girl you could hope to see. He alternately flirts with me and then
> attacks me. It ruined my marriage. He would call and tell my
> husband I was lying to him, that we were still having a
relationship
> etc. My husband was not strong enough to see what he was doing.
In
> addition he took my daughter three times, 5 hours away. He manages
to
> just skirt the law, and does not get in the trouble he should. In
> fairness, once my daughter was home I would be so relieved I didn't
> press the matter. He has failed in attaining custody because he
lies
> so much. He also fails to pay his child support-until he attempts
to
> get custody again. It all follows a pattern which I have learned
to
> read, however it is like watching a train wreck. No way to stop
> him. Right now I have all rights to our daughter. We are working
on
> a new agreement but I must admit I am terrified. He hasn't seen
her
> for over seven months. In the meantime he has moved and is only
one
> hour away instead of five. He continues to flirt with me and asks
me
> to drink with him or to meet him places. I know if I were to do
> those things he would stop his attack. The thought makes me ill. I
> never want to fall into his trap again- or did I ever get out of it
> really? It seems I traded one trap for another. My tactic has
been
> to avoid contact with him as much as possible. He is allowed phone
> calls and he gets information about me from my daughter. I know
> confrontation would thrill him. Any suggestions would be
> appreciated.