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Hello Jen...
You are welcome. It just never stops with them.
I am glad to hear you have a plan...my husband caught me by surprise and I have my hands full trying to stay one step behind him. Their problems have nothing to do with us, it is all about their own insecurites...that happened usually in their childhood. The nurturing instints we have trap us...we are reaching out to the broken child in them.
My husband tried the indiviual food thing as well...that was one boundary I managed to set. He didn't buy any food for 6 weeks...he treated himself to meals out. I refused to buy anything with the little money I had. But, when people he knew ask him what was up with refusing to buy groceries...he took me to the store and acted like nothing ever happen.
I didn't understand that this money issue was about control...he wanted to keep me broke. Your husband lives more as a roommate than a spouse. Do you have joint accounts? Knowing your financial situation before you make a move to leave is important.
Thank you for your prayers...that is all that is getting me through right now. I will pray for you also.
Pamela
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