I wanted to thank you Pamela, for your encouraging words and info. on
the books you mentioned. I havent read either one but plan to this
weekend. I"m also sorry to hear about your struggles as well. Its
hard for me to believe their are other men/people who behave like
this...I felt really alone with it.

I may have found a house to rent, will find out Friday if I got it.
Im doing all my looking/planning at work and using my office phone
number so that he wont be privy to my business.

Today I got a lecture from him on how disresptful I was to him the
other day when I kidded around with him about charging 1.99 for a
plate of spagetti. (It was his idea for us to buy our own individual
food and I had made spagetti for my daughter and I and thought it was
absurd that he not eat any simply because it was mine so I offered
him some. He fell all over me, how nice a gesture that was etc etc so
I tried to lighten the mood by saying...that will cost you 1.99. He
laughed even...then said he wasnt paying for it, so continuing to
smile and be lighthearted i told him that ok, he could let me borrow
his lawn mower when I move so I would have a way to cut the grass. He
got very serious then and said he didnt want to get into loaning
things to me so I shut up.)

So today, he said he thought it over all day and was now very angry
and offended that I had the odacity to ask to borrow his lawn mower
after trying to charge him for a plate of spagetti. He truely was
upset over this! I told him I was kidding! about the food and the
mower...please it was nothing but light hearted banter. He then told
me that he didnt deserve to be kidded with like that and it was very
disrespectful of me for doing that!
Here is what really disturbs me... he stated over and over for at
least 5 mins "I couldnt believe you would have the odacity to ask to
borrow my mower after trying to charge me for food!"
He took something so absurd and miniscule and has turned it into huge
offense on my part.
Never in my life have i been witness to something so bizarre like
this.

I will say a prayer for your situation as well as my own this
night...may we both find some peace from all of this.
If I can ever give an ear or a shoulder, please dont hesitate to
email or msg me on the yahoo chat thingy.

Thanks again
Jen