Thanks guys- I do agree with you.  If I could stop all contact with him, I would.  Unfortunately until I find another job, I see him daily.  He's actually in the office right beside me and we 'face' each other with a  paper thin wall between us.  I hear everything he says  (I've startd turning on music)- and no- rearranging things isn't an option.  I often hearing him talking to his next 'victim' and I have to admit that it DOES still bother me.  It hurts.  I believed in him.   
On Friday I took him outside and told him straight up that I no longer wanted to be friends.  In a tactful, yet, direct way-I told him he was a liar and manipulator and that I didn't have time for that in my life.  He said he still wanted to be my friend (manipulation- making ME out to be the bad guy).  I told him that if that ws the case to not get upset if I didn't respond to him.   
He sat through the whole conversation with a slight smile on his face.  His expression pretty much never changing.  If someone called me straigh up a liar and manipulator- I would defend myself (and yes- he did try to turn it back around and say I was a manipulator-deflection)  I do believe he's been through this before. And do you know that in the course of the conversation he offered to be a reference for me to get another job-----and told me he would LIE about me having experience with something I didn't. I called him a liar- he said he wasn't- and then offered to lie. 
I don't think this man will ever get it.  I'm 30- he's 57 and he just doesn't get it. 
Do you guys have any thoughts on what I did?  Do you think it was the right approach?  I'd just like to know that I did something right in this whole fiasco.
Thanks for your support--
s

SD <sue.darnell@...> wrote:

Yeh, I agree, it's called taking a mental helath
break.
Take time off from it.
It's not an emergency.
They are adults and can take care of themselves.
If it's an emergency they can call 911 (duh!).
-sd

Darla wrote:

>
> Hi Cheapy. You are going through the turmoil
> right now and like all
> of us you need to learn as much as you can as
> fast as you can and
> protect yourself financially and emotionally.
> Please, if you can,
> self impose that essential No Contact time.
> That's when we really
> get our heads around this and can see what's
> happening.
>
> That's when the rollercoaster ends.
>
> Hugs
> femfree
>
>
> > > Please
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