Thanks for thinking of us!  The good news is that we saw the Behavioral Specialist from Children's this week.  She whole heartily thinks that James does not have any behavioral "disorders" but just some behavioral "issues"

 

They tested him academically and the score range is 85-115.  He scored over 115 on 80% of the tests.  The 20% he scored in the 90's but those were speech and phonics, and given all he has been through that is extremely high also.

 

His issues are he is old enough to know he doesn't like something or doesn't want to do it but is to emotionally under developed to know what those feelings are or can plan ahead to know what they will be.  She suggested to get him some books that will explain feelings and referred us to a behavioral counselor.  I am going to see what they have to say but the one we are working with through the school seems very good and conveniently comes to the house after work!  Bonus points!  If the new one says about the same we will stick with the school one because it will also be easier to get the teacher on board with the plan.

 

I already knew that he was too smart for MY own good and that there was really a long term problem -- but it nice to hear the people in the white coats say it to you.

 

Now all Jim and I have to do is stick to the plans we are making and follow thru as a team.

 

Its hard not to fall back on "We are just happy he is breathing and his heart works" but it will be for the best in the long run because he will learn to be the good boy we know he is.

 

Well, the feeding pump is going off so maybe now I can get back to sleep.

 

Hope everyone is well and I will see you at the next meeting.