You sound pretty well informed already,,,
Here's a website that I volunteered to maintain that may have much info for
you to bookmark.
Feel free to chat and ask more questions...
You are not alone!

:) Scott Evans
http://www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings/

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In a message dated 2/13/2008 10:57:14 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
cheerfulcathy@... writes:




Hi everyone,

Having read some of your messages, I have to say that  you sound like a great
bunch of supportive people. I am actually a bit of an  interloper, as I live
in the Tampa Bay area, however, as I just said, I like  your site very much.

Sooo, can someone one help me out on a couple of  questions...Sooo, can
someone one help me out on a couple of  questions...<WBR>..my boyfriend believes
he
has genital herpes and although we  have been careful, it looks li

Can anyone tell me, if we are both symptom free,  can we have sex without a
condom without re-infecting each other more, as we  both have it? I know there
are two different types, so let's assume with both  have the same type.

The doctor I saw when I had my very small outbreak  was very surprised that
the last time my b/f and I had sex was some time ago  (he works away), as he
said symptoms usually manifest quite soon after an  initial contact. On various
sites I have read that herpes can take months to  show. I have had oral herpes
on and off through my life, but never genital  before now, though I guess it
is possible for the virus to lie dormant for a  long time.

I feel pretty well informed about how to handle all of  this...like I say,
stuff happens sometimes. I am not interested in allocating  blame, just hoping
for accurrate info. on management, etc

Last  question..best reputatable sites for information?

Thank you, thank you  everyone and best wishes to you  all!

Cathy

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Hi everyone,

   Having read some of your messages, I have to say that you sound like a great
bunch of supportive people.  I am actually a bit of an interloper, as I live in
the Tampa Bay area, however, as I just said, I like your site very much.

   Sooo, can someone one help me out on a couple of questions.....my boyfriend
believes he has genital herpes and although we have been careful, it looks like
I have it too.  I am not mad with him, stuff happens sometimes.

   Can anyone tell me, if we are both symptom free, can we have sex without a
condom without re-infecting each other more, as we both have it?  I know there
are two different types, so let's assume with both have the same type.

   The doctor I saw when I had my very small outbreak was very surprised that the
last time my b/f and I had sex was some time ago (he works away), as he said
symptoms usually manifest quite soon after an initial contact.  On various sites
I have read that herpes can take months to show.  I have had oral herpes on and
off through my life, but never genital before now, though I guess it is possible
for the virus to lie dormant for a long time.

I feel pretty well informed about how to handle all of this...like I say, stuff
happens sometimes.  I am not interested in allocating blame, just hoping for
accurrate info. on management, etc

   Last question..best reputatable sites for information?

   Thank you, thank you everyone and best wishes to you all!

   Cathy


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Excellent advice...right on target!!!
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In a message dated 1/30/2008 2:51:45 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
clc83060@... writes:




Danielle,

I too am new to the group (3 months diagnosed). I was also  devastated, but
found that there are wonderful people here. Ironically, I have  never had an
outbreak, but suspected my husband was unfaithful..I too am new to the group (3
months diagnosed). I

A new friend suggested that I get  retested. I am awaiting those test
results, but he is so nice and so are the  people that I have met here that if
they
come back negative, I think I will be  disappointed.

It's difficult to get over the initial shock, but once  you see that you are
not alone, it is easier to deal with.

I am going  to try to get to the Mt. Dora festival for breakfast at Steve's.
I hope to  meet you there.

Carey

----- Original Message ----
From:  eyzseau624 <_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) >
To:  _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com)
Sent:  Tuesday, January 29, 2008 9:03:48 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Re: Just  got diagnosed..yesterdaSubject:
[Orlando H Singl

Hi  Danielle,

I'm glad you found our little group. I'm sure you've read  some of
the posts here and know that we are a helpful group....even though  we
may not be talking in person.

You should definitely consider  yourself one of the lucky ones if you
have had a mild first outbreak. Does  it happen? Sure it does, just
not frequently. I truly understand about the  waiting part of the
tests. That was so hard for me, even 17.5 years ago.  And yes, I too
remember the tears. It can honestly get to the point where  you just
don't feel as if you have any more left. But, alas, you have  found
us!! There are brighter and/or better days ahead now!  :o)

Please feel free to read some of the past posts. There may be some
information that could help you out in your journey. Also, there is
a  Help Group that can offer some information via phone to you.
(www.geocities. com/orlandohelpg roup) Just go to the website for
information and the phone number. It's a great group!! Trust me!
If it  weren't for them, I would not be in the position I'm in now.
Oh, guess I  left that part out....my name is Tonya and I'm one of two
social  coordinators for the Orlando/Central Florida area. The
socials are open to  people with our "gift". They are held as a way
of meeting others and  feeling a little normal. We go bowling,
picnics, comedy clubs, etc. Let me  know if you want more information!

I hope this response gives you a  little ray of hope.

Tonya
:o)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSing  lesSite@yahoogro ups.com, "Danielle"
<DanniGirl@. ..>  wrote:
>
> Hey everyone! My name is Danielle, Im 23 years old and  I live in
> Orlando, Florida. On Jan 20, my "ex friend" perfomed oral  sex on me
> and didn't tell me that he had a cold sore in his mouth. He  told me
> this-this past Sunday after I was freaking out.
>
> On Friday I went to the gyno due to the fact that I wanted to  get
> tested for STDs just for the hell of it. Well, the night before  I
> found two little bumps that looked like ingrown hairs. On Friday,  th
> doctor said she didn't think it was anything but took a  culture
> anyways. Saturday and Sunday were horrible, freaking out days  for
me.
> Five more small bumps occured. I went to her yesterday,  she took a
> look at my 7 blister and said yeap you have herpes. Im  confused,
> though. Aren't first outbreaks supposed to be the worst? I  know I
have
> the blisters but they haven't opened or turned into  sores yet and
the
> blisters are very close to fading away. I don't  have any pain
> whatsoever and have no problem urinating. My doctor put  me on
Valtrex
> twice a day for 10 days. Am I just lucky that I  didn't have a bad
> first out break? Im waiting for the culture to be  positive about
> whether or whether not I have herpes. It all just seems  strange to
me!!
>

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Danielle,

I too am new to the group (3 months diagnosed). I was also devastated, but found
that there are wonderful people here.  Ironically, I have never had an outbreak,
but suspected my  husband was unfaithful...so I had a full STD screen....and
here I am!

A new friend suggested that I get retested. I am awaiting those test results,
but he is so nice and so are the people that I have met here that if they come
back negative, I think I will be disappointed.

It's difficult to get over the initial shock, but once you see that you are not
alone, it is easier to deal with.

I am going to try to get to the Mt. Dora festival for breakfast at Steve's. I
hope to meet you there.


Carey


----- Original Message ----
From: eyzseau624 <no_reply@yahoogroups.com>
To: OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2008 9:03:48 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Re: Just got diagnosed..yesterday...can't stop the
tears!

Hi Danielle,

I'm glad you found our little group. I'm sure you've read some of
the posts here and know that we are a helpful group....even though we
may not be talking in person.

You should definitely consider yourself one of the lucky ones if you
have had a mild first outbreak. Does it happen? Sure it does, just
not frequently. I truly understand about the waiting part of the
tests. That was so hard for me, even 17.5 years ago. And yes, I too
remember the tears. It can honestly get to the point where you just
don't feel as if you have any more left. But, alas, you have found
us!! There are brighter and/or better days ahead now! :o)

Please feel free to read some of the past posts. There may be some
information that could help you out in your journey. Also, there is
a Help Group that can offer some information via phone to you.
(www.geocities. com/orlandohelpg roup) Just go to the website for
information and the phone number. It's a great group!! Trust me!
If it weren't for them, I would not be in the position I'm in now.
Oh, guess I left that part out....my name is Tonya and I'm one of two
social coordinators for the Orlando/Central Florida area. The
socials are open to people with our "gift". They are held as a way
of meeting others and feeling a little normal. We go bowling,
picnics, comedy clubs, etc. Let me know if you want more information!

I hope this response gives you a little ray of hope.

Tonya
:o)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSing lesSite@yahoogro ups.com, "Danielle"
<DanniGirl@. ..> wrote:
>
> Hey everyone! My name is Danielle, Im 23 years old and I live in
> Orlando, Florida. On Jan 20, my "ex friend" perfomed oral sex on me
> and didn't tell me that he had a cold sore in his mouth. He told me
> this-this past Sunday after I was freaking out.
>
> On Friday I went to the gyno due to the fact that I wanted to get
> tested for STDs just for the hell of it. Well, the night before I
> found two little bumps that looked like ingrown hairs. On Friday, th
> doctor said she didn't think it was anything but took a culture
> anyways. Saturday and Sunday were horrible, freaking out days for
me.
> Five more small bumps occured. I went to her yesterday, she took a
> look at my 7 blister and said yeap you have herpes. Im confused,
> though. Aren't first outbreaks supposed to be the worst? I know I
have
> the blisters but they haven't opened or turned into sores yet and
the
> blisters are very close to fading away. I don't have any pain
> whatsoever and have no problem urinating. My doctor put me on
Valtrex
> twice a day for 10 days. Am I just lucky that I didn't have a bad
> first out break? Im waiting for the culture to be positive about
> whether or whether not I have herpes. It all just seems strange to
me!!
>





      
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Hey Dani...

     Yeppers,,, sounds like you are a member of our  exceptional
organization...
     First occurrences historically are pretty bad but  nothing is
conclusive... it is a good sign that your outbreak was relatively  mild, and
likely you
have a healthy immune system which is very  good. All things considered, future
outbreaks will hopefully be  infrequent and mild. Valtrex and other regular
therapy will help as  well,....
     It's always hardest in the beginning... time does  heal all wounds,,, and
gaining new friends with H to speak with and talk to  will be helpful and
consoling,,,
     Feel free to keep in touch.... i will be happy to  speak with you as Im
sure many other club members will be....
     Try to stay positive & don't isolate  yourself...

:) Keep smiling
Scott

--------------------

In a message dated 1/29/2008 8:52:00 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
DanniGirl@... writes:




Hey everyone! My name is Danielle, Im 23 years old and I live  in
Orlando, Florida. On Jan 20, my "ex friend" perfomed oral sex on  me
and didn't tell me that he had a cold sore in his mouth. He told  me
this-this past Sunday after I was freaking out.

On Friday I went  to the gyno due to the fact that I wanted to get
tested for STDs just for  the hell of it. Well, the night before I
found two little bumps that looked  like ingrown hairs. On Friday, th
doctor said she didn't think it was  anything but took a culture
anyways. Saturday and Sunday were horrible,  freaking out days for me.
Five more small bumps occured. I went to her  yesterday, she took a
look at my 7 blister and said yeap you have herpes.  Im confused,
though. Aren't first outbreaks supposed to be the worst? I  know I have
the blisters but they haven't opened or turned into sores yet  and the
blisters are very close to fading away. I don't have any  pain
whatsoever and have no problem urinating. My doctor put me on  Valtrex
twice a day for 10 days. Am I just lucky that I didn't have a  bad
first out break? Im waiting for the culture to be positive  about
whether or whether not I have herpes. It all just seems strange to  me!!



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Hi Danielle,

I'm glad you found our little group.  I'm sure you've read some of
the posts here and know that we are a helpful group....even though we
may not be talking in person.

You should definitely consider yourself one of the lucky ones if you
have had a mild first outbreak.  Does it happen?  Sure it does, just
not frequently.  I truly understand about the waiting part of the
tests.  That was so hard for me, even 17.5 years ago.  And yes, I too
remember the tears.  It can honestly get to the point where you just
don't feel as if you have any more left.  But, alas, you have found
us!!   There are brighter and/or better days ahead now!  :o)

Please feel free to read some of the past posts.  There may be some
information that could help you out in your journey.  Also, there is
a Help Group that can offer some information via phone to you.
(www.geocities.com/orlandohelpgroup)  Just go to the website for
information and the phone number.  It's a great group!!  Trust me!
If it weren't for them, I would not be in the position I'm in now.
Oh, guess I left that part out....my name is Tonya and I'm one of two
social coordinators for the Orlando/Central Florida area.  The
socials are open to people with our "gift".  They are held as a way
of meeting others and feeling a little normal.  We go bowling,
picnics, comedy clubs, etc.  Let me know if you want more information!

I hope this response gives you a little ray of hope.

Tonya
:o)




--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Danielle"
<DanniGirl@...> wrote:
>
> Hey everyone! My name is Danielle, Im 23 years old and I live in
> Orlando, Florida. On Jan 20, my "ex friend" perfomed oral sex on me
> and didn't tell me that he had a cold sore in his mouth. He told me
> this-this past Sunday after I was freaking out.
>
> On Friday I went to the gyno due to the fact that I wanted to get
> tested for STDs just for the hell of it. Well, the night before I
> found two little bumps that looked like ingrown hairs. On Friday, th
> doctor said she didn't think it was anything but took a culture
> anyways. Saturday and Sunday were horrible, freaking out days for
me.
> Five more small bumps occured. I went to her yesterday, she took a
> look at my 7 blister and said yeap you have herpes. Im confused,
> though. Aren't first outbreaks supposed to be the worst? I know I
have
> the blisters but they haven't opened or turned into sores yet and
the
> blisters are very close to fading away. I don't have any pain
> whatsoever and have no problem urinating. My doctor put me on
Valtrex
> twice a day for 10 days. Am I just lucky that I didn't have a bad
> first out break? Im waiting for the culture to be positive about
> whether or whether not I have herpes. It all just seems strange to
me!!
>

Hey everyone! My name is Danielle, Im 23 years old and I live in
Orlando, Florida. On Jan 20, my "ex friend" perfomed oral sex on me
and didn't tell me that he had a cold sore in his mouth. He told me
this-this past Sunday after I was freaking out.

On Friday I went to the gyno due to the fact that I wanted to get
tested for STDs just for the hell of it. Well, the night before I
found two little bumps that looked like ingrown hairs. On Friday, th
doctor said she didn't think it was anything but took a culture
anyways. Saturday and Sunday were horrible, freaking out days for me.
Five more small bumps occured. I went to her yesterday, she took a
look at my 7 blister and said yeap you have herpes. Im confused,
though. Aren't first outbreaks supposed to be the worst? I know I have
the blisters but they haven't opened or turned into sores yet and the
blisters are very close to fading away. I don't have any pain
whatsoever and have no problem urinating. My doctor put me on Valtrex
twice a day for 10 days. Am I just lucky that I didn't have a bad
first out break? Im waiting for the culture to be positive about
whether or whether not I have herpes. It all just seems strange to me!!

Hey Zak,

I go to UCF and just got diagnosed yesterday. I too am looking for a
friend :0


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Zak"
<zm_orlando@...> wrote:
>
> I have just been diagnosed and haven't talked to any friends about it
> yet.  I'm lookin for a lady friend around UCF to hang out with and
> kind of go through this together.  These sites seem to vary on who's
> active and how they want to get some money out of you, and this is the
> only one not charging to talk to people so far.  Everyone's tryin to
> make a buck....
>

Yeah!!!  I'm glad you are feeling a little better!  I know it's hard it
beginning, but with time and an open mind and heart you will find peace and love
again.

"Good friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know they
are always there."



----- Original Message ----
From: clap_laila <clap_laila@...>
To: OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Friday, January 25, 2008 8:56:02 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Re: Will I ever feel normal again???

Thank you everyone so much for your kind and encouraging words. You
guys have made my day!

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSing lesSite@yahoogro ups.com, "clap_laila"
<clap_laila@ ...> wrote:
>
> I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen
to
> me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had
two
> partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
> virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught
it.
> He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
> wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and
never
> bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with
him,
> I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid?
Why
> did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep
asking
> myself this over and over. I know my health is my own
responsibility. I
> thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could
be
> a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
> People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I
go
> out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
> can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
Does it
> ever get better?
>





      
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Tonya:
     Let me know your plans for the picnic and how I can  play a part...
     I run a full service entertainment and production  company and was DJ at
the local South florida Help group picnic that was a  tremendous success.
     Willing to match rates with local vendors to play a  part....
     I'm not just the hair club president,,,,i'm also a  member, lol
     Also was going to do the ST Pete annual  event...
     Say hi...
:) Scott
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In a message dated 1/26/2008 4:17:26 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




The Orlando Socials are held periodically throughout the year. There
is  not set date or events. They are advertised here and on the
Orlando H2O  website (www.geocities.Orlando H2O  website (www.ge
check there for  upcoming events.

When the social is advertised here, I send it out as  an individual
email/special notice. You will have to make sure you setting  for
this group is set to receive special notices and/or individual
emails. For individual emails, please keep in mind that you will
receive an email everytime someone posts to this group, regardless of
the topic at hand.

I hope this helps you out! We're in the planning  stages for a picnic
in the April time frame right now. So keep your eyes  open for news
about that! We'll start letting everyone know the details in  March!!

Tonya

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  to_what_end
<xtowhatendx@xto> wrote:
>
> how can I  get on this mailing list for orlando events? I hear about
them every so  often but I think I am missing them a bit. How ofter
are they?
>
> And yeah herpes sucks but just remember it's pretty much just a
stupid skin rash. You are still you. (its the kind of thing I tell
myself to feel better!)
>
> evansprod@.. evansprod@..
> Excellent advice Camille and Christina...
> :) Scott  Evans
> evansprod@..
>  ------------  ----  ----  ----  ----  ----
>  In a message dated 1/25/2008 7:23:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
>  gomer425@... writes:
>
> I will say that I believe most, if not  everyone, who has
contracted herpes
> feels dirty at first, and  that feeling is exacerbated when we
condemn
> ourselves for not  exercising more caution, insisting upon testing,
asking questions
>  upfront, etc., etc......
>
> First and foremost, forgive  yourself for not asking questions or
being more
> cautious, etc.  There's nothing you can do to change the past, but
you can
> make  the future better by forgiving yourself, which will take
some of the
> pressure off.
>
> Second, I noticed that you said you  also feel dirty because of
fear of
> rejection. The troubling  aspect of this is the stigma attached to
it. I, too, have
> the  same concern, but I also know that people can also reject us
for reasons
> other than H.
>
> I have joined different H sites and H  groups not only to make new
friends,
> but also in hopes of finding  special someone. Ironically, some of
the guys
> that I have chatted  with and/or met have been some of the most
insecure,
> judgmental,  dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had
H in common. The
> fact that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of
rejection in and
> of itself. I know, the same thing happened to  me, so you're not
alone.
>
> Anyway, I hope I haven't  increased your fear or discouragement,
but I just
> want to let you  know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the
person and
> the  circumstances as a whole, and not just about H. There are some
who have
> met that special someone that accepted them, and that person
doesn't have H.
> So, it is possible. Keep hope alive! I am, too!
>
> To conclude, while H can seem somewhat limiting, you will  feel
normal again.
> God Bless!
>
> Camille.
>
> Christina <_mefl69@..._mefl69@...<WBR>__mefl>  wrote:
> I wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get  better.
>
> You aren't dirty and you have to stop blaming  yourself, it's not
your fault
> for loving and trusting  someone.
>
> I wish these boards were more active, but they  really, really
helped me 7
> yrs ago, also joining a herpes dating  board helped as well.
>
> Please just know you aren't dirty, you  are the same wonderful
person you
> were 4 yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I  know this may or may not help, but
look at herpes as
> a dating  filter....Before you might have given your heart more
freely, and
>  now you can really spend time getting to know a person before you
give  your
> heart to them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different
angle has truly
> helped me.
>
> Good luck and feel  free to email me off line if you have any
questions
> _mefl69@..._  (mailto:mefl69@ _mef
>
> Christina
>
> "Good  friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but
you know
> they are always there."
>
> ----- Original Message  ----
> From: clap_laila <_clap_laila@_clap_laila@<WBR>..._ _clap_lai_c>
> To:  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin To:  _Orland To:  _
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )
> Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
> Subject: [Orlando  H Singles] Will I ever feel normal again???
>
> I was diagnosed  about a year ago. I never thought this would
happen to
> me. I  never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only
had two
>  partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how
this
> virus works. We were together for almost four years before I
caught it.
> He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later  told me he
had
> wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first  started dating and
never
> bothered to get it checked out by a  doctor. As angry as I was
with him,
> I am twice as angry with  myself. How could I have been so stupid?
Why
> did I not insist we  both get tested before we had sex? I keep
asking
> myself this over  and over. I know my health is my own
responsibility. I
> thought I  was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it
could be
> a  lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
>  People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty.
I go
> out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
> can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of  rejection.
Does it
> ever get better?
>
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Already I can sense an uplift!!!!
Keep in touch with any and all of us...
:) Scott

------------

In a message dated 1/26/2008 4:10:06 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
clap_laila@... writes:




Thank you everyone so much for your kind and encouraging words. You
guys have made my day!

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  "clap_laila"
<clap_laila@cla> wrote:
>
> I was  diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen
to
>  me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had
two
> partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
> virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught
it.
> He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me  he had
> wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating  and
never
> bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as  I was with
him,
> I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have  been so stupid?
Why
> did I not insist we both get tested before we  had sex? I keep
asking
> myself this over and over. I know my  health is my own
responsibility. I
> thought I was doing the right  thing. Obviously not. I know it could
be
> a lot worse. It could  have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
> People say time heals all  wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I
go
> out and meet new  people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
> can't  bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
Does it
>  ever get  better?
>









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Glad we could give you a ray of sunshine!!

And a THANK YOU as well...for posting to the group.  It's a quiet
group (sometimes unusually) but hey, when someone posts something, we
are always there to help!  Thanks for waking us up again!  :o)  (I
really mean that!)


Tonya
:o)



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "clap_laila"
<clap_laila@...> wrote:
>
> Thank you everyone so much for your kind and encouraging words. You
> guys have made my day!
>
> --- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "clap_laila"
> <clap_laila@> wrote:
> >
> > I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would
happen
> to
> > me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only
had
> two
> > partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how
this
> > virus works. We were together for almost four years before I
caught
> it.
> > He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he
had
> > wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and
> never
> > bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was
with
> him,
> > I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid?
> Why
> > did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep
> asking
> > myself this over and over. I know my health is my own
> responsibility. I
> > thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it
could
> be
> > a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
> > People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty.
I
> go
> > out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
> secret. I
> > can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
> Does it
> > ever get better?
> >
>

The Orlando Socials are held periodically throughout the year.  There
is not set date or events.  They are advertised here and on the
Orlando H2O website (www.geocities.com/orlandoh2o)  You can always
check there for upcoming events.

When the social is advertised here, I send it out as an individual
email/special notice.  You will have to make sure you setting for
this group is set to receive special notices and/or individual
emails. For individual emails, please keep in mind that you will
receive an email everytime someone posts to this group, regardless of
the topic at hand.

I hope this helps you out!  We're in the planning stages for a picnic
in the April time frame right now.  So keep your eyes open for news
about that!  We'll start letting everyone know the details in March!!

Tonya




--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, to_what_end
<xtowhatendx@...> wrote:
>
> how can I get on this mailing list for orlando events? I hear about
them every so often but I think I am missing them a bit. How ofter
are they?
>
> And yeah herpes sucks but just remember it's pretty much just a
stupid skin rash. You are still you. (its the kind of thing I tell
myself to feel better!)
>
> evansprod@... wrote:
>  Excellent advice Camille and Christina...
>  :) Scott Evans
>  evansprod@...
>  ----------------------------------------------------------
>  In a message dated 1/25/2008 7:23:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
>  gomer425@... writes:
>
>  I will say that I believe most, if not everyone, who has
contracted herpes
>  feels dirty at first, and that feeling is exacerbated when we
condemn
>  ourselves for not exercising more caution, insisting upon testing,
asking  questions
>  upfront, etc., etc......
>
>  First and foremost, forgive  yourself for not asking questions or
being more
>  cautious, etc. There's nothing  you can do to change the past, but
you can
>  make the future better by forgiving  yourself, which will take
some of the
>  pressure off.
>
>  Second, I noticed  that you said you also feel dirty because of
fear of
>  rejection. The troubling  aspect of this is the stigma attached to
it. I, too, have
>  the same concern,  but I also know that people can also reject us
for reasons
>  other than H.
>
>  I have joined different H sites and H groups not only to make new
friends,
>  but also in hopes of finding special someone. Ironically, some of
the  guys
>  that I have chatted with and/or met have been some of the most
insecure,
>  judgmental, dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had
H in common.  The
>  fact that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of
rejection in  and
>  of itself. I know, the same thing happened to me, so you're not
alone.
>
>  Anyway, I hope I haven't increased your fear or discouragement,
but I  just
>  want to let you know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the
person  and
>  the circumstances as a whole, and not just about H. There are some
who  have
>  met that special someone that accepted them, and that person
doesn't have  H.
>  So, it is possible. Keep hope alive! I am, too!
>
>  To conclude, while  H can seem somewhat limiting, you will feel
normal again.
>  God Bless!
>
>  Camille.
>
>  Christina <_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...) > wrote:
>  I  wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.
>
>  You aren't  dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not
your fault
>  for loving  and trusting someone.
>
>  I wish these boards were more active, but they  really, really
helped me 7
>  yrs ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped  as well.
>
>  Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful
person you
>  were 4 yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I know this may or may not help, but
look  at herpes as
>  a dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more
freely, and
>  now you can really spend time getting to know a person before you
give your
>  heart to them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different
angle has truly
>  helped me.
>
>  Good luck and feel free to email me off  line if you have any
questions
>  _mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...)
>
>  Christina
>
>  "Good  friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but
you know
>  they are  always there."
>
>  ----- Original Message ----
>  From: clap_laila <_clap_laila@..._ (mailto:clap_laila@...) >
>  To:  _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>  (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com)
>  Sent:  Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
>  Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I  ever feel normal again???
>
>  I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never  thought this would
happen to
>  me. I never slept around. I was never  promiscuous. I have only
had two
>  partners. I caught herpes from my  ex-boyfriend. It's weird how
this
>  virus works. We were together for almost  four years before I
caught it.
>  He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but  he later told me he
had
>  wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first  started dating and
never
>  bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As  angry as I was
with him,
>  I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have  been so stupid?
Why
>  did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex?  I keep
asking
>  myself this over and over. I know my health is my own
responsibility. I
>  thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I  know it
could be
>  a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes  isn't fatal.
>  People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel  dirty.
I go
>  out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
>  can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
Does it
>  ever get  better?
>
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how can I get on this mailing list for orlando events? I hear about them every
so often but I think I am missing them a bit. How ofter are they?

And yeah herpes sucks but just remember it's pretty much just a stupid skin
rash. You are still you. (its the kind of thing I tell myself to feel better!)

evansprod@... wrote:
  Excellent advice Camille and Christina...
  :) Scott Evans
  evansprod@...
  ----------------------------------------------------------
  In a message dated 1/25/2008 7:23:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
  gomer425@... writes:

  I will say that I believe most, if not everyone, who has contracted herpes
  feels dirty at first, and that feeling is exacerbated when we condemn
  ourselves for not exercising more caution, insisting upon testing, asking 
questions
  upfront, etc., etc......

  First and foremost, forgive  yourself for not asking questions or being more
  cautious, etc. There's nothing  you can do to change the past, but you can
  make the future better by forgiving  yourself, which will take some of the
  pressure off.

  Second, I noticed  that you said you also feel dirty because of fear of
  rejection. The troubling  aspect of this is the stigma attached to it. I, too,
have
  the same concern,  but I also know that people can also reject us for reasons
  other than H.

  I have joined different H sites and H groups not only to make new  friends,
  but also in hopes of finding special someone. Ironically, some of the  guys
  that I have chatted with and/or met have been some of the most insecure,
  judgmental, dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had H in common. 
The
  fact that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of rejection in  and
  of itself. I know, the same thing happened to me, so you're not alone.

  Anyway, I hope I haven't increased your fear or discouragement, but I  just
  want to let you know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the person  and
  the circumstances as a whole, and not just about H. There are some who  have
  met that special someone that accepted them, and that person doesn't have  H.
  So, it is possible. Keep hope alive! I am, too!

  To conclude, while  H can seem somewhat limiting, you will feel normal again.
  God Bless!

  Camille.

  Christina <_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...) > wrote:
  I  wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.

  You aren't  dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault
  for loving  and trusting someone.

  I wish these boards were more active, but they  really, really helped me 7
  yrs ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped  as well.

  Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful  person you
  were 4 yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I know this may or may not help, but look  at herpes
as
  a dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more  freely, and
  now you can really spend time getting to know a person before you  give your
  heart to them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different  angle has
truly
  helped me.

  Good luck and feel free to email me off  line if you have any questions
  _mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...)

  Christina

  "Good  friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know
  they are  always there."

  ----- Original Message ----
  From: clap_laila <_clap_laila@..._ (mailto:clap_laila@...) >
  To:  _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
  (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com)
  Sent:  Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
  Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I  ever feel normal again???

  I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never  thought this would happen to
  me. I never slept around. I was never  promiscuous. I have only had two
  partners. I caught herpes from my  ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
  virus works. We were together for almost  four years before I caught it.
  He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but  he later told me he had
  wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first  started dating and never
  bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As  angry as I was with him,
  I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have  been so stupid? Why
  did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex?  I keep asking
  myself this over and over. I know my health is my own  responsibility. I
  thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I  know it could be
  a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes  isn't fatal.
  People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel  dirty. I go
  out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little  secret. I
  can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.  Does it
  ever get  better?

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Thank you everyone so much for your kind and encouraging words. You
guys have made my day!

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "clap_laila"
<clap_laila@...> wrote:
>
> I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen
to
> me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had
two
> partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
> virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught
it.
> He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
> wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and
never
> bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with
him,
> I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid?
Why
> did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep
asking
> myself this over and over. I know my health is my own
responsibility. I
> thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could
be
> a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
> People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I
go
> out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
> can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
Does it
> ever get better?
>

Excellent advice Camille and Christina...
:) Scott Evans
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In a message dated 1/25/2008 7:23:26 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
gomer425@... writes:




I will say that I believe most, if not everyone, who has contracted herpes
feels dirty at first, and that feeling is exacerbated when we condemn
ourselves for not exercising more caution, insisting upon testing, asking 
questions
upfront, etc., etc......

First and foremost, forgive  yourself for not asking questions or being more
cautious, etc. There's nothing  you can do to change the past, but you can
make the future better by forgiving  yourself, which will take some of the
pressure off.

Second, I noticed  that you said you also feel dirty because of fear of
rejection. The troubling  aspect of this is the stigma attached to it. I, too,
have
the same concern,  but I also know that people can also reject us for reasons
other than H.

I have joined different H sites and H groups not only to make new  friends,
but also in hopes of finding special someone. Ironically, some of the  guys
that I have chatted with and/or met have been some of the most insecure,
judgmental, dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had H in common. 
The
fact that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of rejection in  and
of itself. I know, the same thing happened to me, so you're not alone.

Anyway, I hope I haven't increased your fear or discouragement, but I  just
want to let you know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the person  and
the circumstances as a whole, and not just about H. There are some who  have
met that special someone that accepted them, and that person doesn't have  H.
So, it is possible. Keep hope alive! I am, too!

To conclude, while  H can seem somewhat limiting, you will feel normal again.
God Bless!

Camille.

Christina <_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...) > wrote:
I  wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.

You aren't  dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault
for loving  and trusting someone.

I wish these boards were more active, but they  really, really helped me 7
yrs ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped  as well.

Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful  person you
were 4 yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I know this may or may not help, but look  at herpes
as
a dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more  freely, and
now you can really spend time getting to know a person before you  give your
heart to them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different  angle has truly
helped me.

Good luck and feel free to email me off  line if you have any questions
_mefl69@..._ (mailto:mefl69@...)

Christina

"Good  friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know
they are  always there."

----- Original Message ----
From: clap_laila <_clap_laila@..._ (mailto:clap_laila@...) >
To:  _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com)
Sent:  Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I  ever feel normal again???

I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never  thought this would happen to
me. I never slept around. I was never  promiscuous. I have only had two
partners. I caught herpes from my  ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
virus works. We were together for almost  four years before I caught it.
He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but  he later told me he had
wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first  started dating and never
bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As  angry as I was with him,
I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have  been so stupid? Why
did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex?  I keep asking
myself this over and over. I know my health is my own  responsibility. I
thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I  know it could be
a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes  isn't fatal.
People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel  dirty. I go
out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little  secret. I
can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.  Does it
ever get  better?

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I will say that I believe most, if not everyone, who has contracted herpes feels
dirty at first, and that feeling is exacerbated when we condemn ourselves for
not exercising more caution, insisting upon testing, asking questions upfront,
etc., etc......

   First and foremost, forgive yourself for not asking questions or being more
cautious, etc.   There's nothing you can do to change the past, but you can make
the future better by forgiving yourself, which will take some of the pressure
off.

   Second, I noticed that you said you also feel dirty because of fear of
rejection.  The troubling aspect of this is the stigma attached to it.  I, too,
have the same concern, but I also know that people can also reject us for
reasons other than H.

   I have joined different H sites and H groups not only to make new friends, but
also in hopes of finding special someone.  Ironically, some of the guys that I
have chatted with and/or met have been some of the most insecure, judgmental,
dismissive people I have ever come across, and we had H in common.  The fact
that your ex had H and didn't tell you is like a form of rejection in and of
itself.  I know, the same thing happened to me, so you're not alone.

   Anyway, I hope I haven't increased your fear or discouragement, but I just
want to let you know, that in the scheme of things, it's about the person and
the circumstances as a whole, and not just about H.  There are some who have met
that special someone that accepted them, and that person doesn't have H.  So, it
is possible.  Keep hope alive!  I am, too!

   To conclude, while H can seem somewhat limiting, you will feel normal again.
   God Bless!

   Camille.

   Christina <mefl69@...> wrote:
           I wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.

You aren't dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault for
loving and trusting someone.

I wish these boards were more active, but they really, really helped me 7 yrs
ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped as well.

Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful person you were 4
yrs ago, 1 yr ago. I know this may or may not help, but look at herpes as a
dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more freely, and now you
can really spend time getting to know a person before you give your heart to
them. Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different angle has truly helped
me.

Good luck and feel free to email me off line if you have any questions
mefl69@...

Christina

"Good friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know they
are always there."

----- Original Message ----
From: clap_laila <clap_laila@...>
To: OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I ever feel normal again???

I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen to
me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had two
partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught it.
He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and never
bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with him,
I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid? Why
did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep asking
myself this over and over. I know my health is my own responsibility. I
thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could be
a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I go
out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little secret. I
can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection. Does it
ever get better?

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Hey...We ALL know how you feel...We have all been there... Most that share
with us never admit to or want to accept their problem maturely as you have.
Time does heal all wounds. Feel free to befriend myself or others that you have
  this in common with. Then you are not alone. Unfortunately, feeling
emotionally  better will take time. There are meds you can take and reccommended
vitamins to  help. AIDS is definitely worse (with some medication now available)
and  Cancer or other non-cureable diseases even worse than that. Relationships
is  hard because you as a responsible adult do not want to do to anyone else,
what  was done to you. So although this is a relationship hurdle, it also
displays  your maturity and integrity as a human being. This is a great quality
that I  personally love, appreciate and highly respect.
Feel free to say hi...
Scott
     Helpful information can be obtained here...
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I wish I could give you a big hug, because it does get better.

You aren't dirty and you have to stop blaming yourself, it's not your fault for
loving and trusting someone.

I wish these boards were more active, but they really, really helped me 7 yrs
ago, also joining a herpes dating board helped as well.

Please just know you aren't dirty, you are the same wonderful person you were 4
yrs ago, 1 yr ago.  I know this may or may not help, but look at herpes as a
dating filter....Before you might have given your heart more freely, and now you
can really spend time getting to know a person before you give your heart to
them.  Learn to seeing, meeting people from a different angle has truly helped
me.

Good luck and feel free to email me off line if you have any questions
mefl69@...

Christina

"Good friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know they
are always there."



----- Original Message ----
From: clap_laila <clap_laila@...>
To: OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2008 3:29:56 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] Will I ever feel normal again???

I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen to
me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had two
partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught it.
He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and never
bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with him,
I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid? Why
did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep asking
myself this over and over. I know my health is my own responsibility. I
thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could be
a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I go
out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little secret. I
can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection. Does it
ever get better?





      
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Wow...how to even answer this.  I'm responding with my own opinions
here.  They may be definitely different from someone else's.  Please
keep this in mind.

Will you ever feel normal again...my answer to that is yes.  I too
felt the same way you do.  That was 17.5 years ago.  I was just a
mere 24 years old and admittedly, very naive.  I trusted someone that
I had feelings for.  We dated off and on for about three years before
he 'gifted' me.  Did I think of insisting on getting tests before we
became intimate?  Nope, sure didn't.  Do I wish I would have now?
Yep, sure do, but alas, that's in the past and there's not a darn
thing I can do to change it.  I confronted him and he denied it.  He
ended up quitting his job and moving out of state after that.  No,
that didn't make me feel any better, trust me.  And you are so very
right...it could have been much much worse that just herpes.

About 7 years ago, I was having an emotional breakdown.  I was
getting promoted at work so things there were shining bright!
However, my personal life sucked.  No two ways about it...it just
sucked.  I went online and began to investigate everything I could
find.  Alas, I found this exact website!  And that's how it all
began.  I made friends here and on mpwh.net.  I actually took the
plunge to meet some of them in a group setting, face to face.
Wow...things were changing!  I actually went even further and went to
a national event in Atlanta in August 2001.  This event was sponsored
by the Atlanta H group.  There were about oh, 200 people there...all
like you and me!  I knew that my life would never be the same after
that.  When I returned, I became involved in the social scene with
the Orlando group and have been doing it ever since.  I have no
regrets.  I have met so many wonderful people and friends over these
years.  I dated some guys...some with, some without.  I have my own
opinions on how I told those without.  I actually met my best-half
(hubby) on the mpwh site.  We have now been married a great couple of
years and are expecting parents!  Yes, that can happen too!  My
doctors are all aware of it and have no issues with it whatsoever.

Again, keep in mind, these are my opinions only.

So, with that reader's digest version of "does it get better", if I
had something to give up now, it wouldn't be the gift that was given
to me 17.5 years ago.  It is the H gift that has allowed me to become
the person, wife and almost mom that I am today.  And, I would never
have had so many friends all over the country!!

I would like to recommend the Central Florida information/counseling
line to you.  It is anonymous and trust me, they can help you become
more comfortable with the situation!  The phone number is
407.263.5347.  It's free too!  (and we all like free!)  You can also
give them your email address to get notices on upcoming social events
in the area.  (Social events...we go bowling, comedy clubs, picnics,
etc.  It's all about getting out and meeting people in the same
boat!  No pressure at all!)

I sure hope I've given some ray of light to you in what appears to be
a gloomy time.  It does get better with time...trust me.

Tonya
:o)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "clap_laila"
<clap_laila@...> wrote:
>
> I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen
to
> me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had
two
> partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
> virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught
it.
> He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
> wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and
never
> bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with
him,
> I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid?
Why
> did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep
asking
> myself this over and over. I know my health is my own
responsibility. I
> thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could
be
> a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
> People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I
go
> out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little
secret. I
> can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection.
Does it
> ever get better?
>

I was diagnosed about a year ago. I never thought this would happen to
me. I never slept around. I was never promiscuous. I have only had two
partners. I caught herpes from my ex-boyfriend. It's weird how this
virus works. We were together for almost four years before I caught it.
He claimed he didn't know he had herpes but he later told me he had
wahy he thinks was an outbreak when we first started dating and never
bothered to get it checked out by a doctor. As angry as I was with him,
I am twice as angry with myself. How could I have been so stupid? Why
did I not insist we both get tested before we had sex? I keep asking
myself this over and over. I know my health is my own responsibility. I
thought I was doing the right thing. Obviously not. I know it could be
a lot worse. It could have been HIV. At least herpes isn't fatal.
People say time heals all wounds but I can't help but feel dirty. I go
out and meet new people but I feel like I have a dirty little secret. I
can't bring myself to be close to anyone for fear of rejection. Does it
ever get better?

BRADENTON SOCIAL
Where:  The Beach House Restaurant
When:  Sat., Jan. 12 - 5:00 p.m.
What:  Dinner/Drinks and Sunset

We'll meet in the patio area outside.  Look for the green balloons!
If you have any questions, feel free to email me at: dvdirks@yahoo.
com
http://www.beachhouse-restaurant.com/virtual-tour.html
http://www.beachhouse-restaurant.com/
   200 Gulf Drive N, Bradenton Beach, FL  34217 (941) 779-2222
From Sarasota, Take 41 North towards the downtown area.  Turn left on
Gulfstream Ave. and go over the Ringling Bridge to St. Armand's
Circle.  Go around the circle until you see the sign to Longboat
Key.  Take a right on Boulevard of the Presidents and head towards
Longboat Key.  Keep going on Gulf Drive for several miles.  The Beach
House will be on the left before you get to Cortez Rd.
From Tampa/St. Pete 275, take exit 2 towards US 41 South.  Follow
signs  to US 41 South Bradenton/Palmetto.  Turn right on Manatee Ave.
West.  Go 8 miles.  Turn left on E. Bay Drive.  Make a slight left on
Gulf Dr. N.  The Beach House will be on the right.

We have a relatively new H group in the Sarasota/Bradenton area.

Here's our website:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/sarasota-bradenton_h_club/

Debbie (Moderator)

Hello Zak, My name is Veronica. I too live in the Orlando area. You can contact
me at ronburgundySC@... if you ever want to talk or something.



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Zak"
<zm_orlando@...> wrote:
>
> I have just been diagnosed and haven't talked to any friends about it
> yet.  I'm lookin for a lady friend around UCF to hang out with and
> kind of go through this together.  These sites seem to vary on who's
> active and how they want to get some money out of you, and this is the
> only one not charging to talk to people so far.  Everyone's tryin to
> make a buck....


      
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Hey Zak
   While there are sites that are out for the buck, you may consider joining
MPWH. I do not work for them but it's the best one I have found. The money that
you spend pales in comparison to the friendships and support you receive. Get
over the $$ issue

   IMHO

   marko

Roxi <rms27@...> wrote:
           Hey Zak... I dont go to UCF but i do go to UWF, if you ever need
someone to talk to :)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Zak"
<zm_orlando@...> wrote:
>
> I have just been diagnosed and haven't talked to any friends about it
> yet. I'm lookin for a lady friend around UCF to hang out with and
> kind of go through this together. These sites seem to vary on who's
> active and how they want to get some money out of you, and this is the
> only one not charging to talk to people so far. Everyone's tryin to
> make a buck....
>






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Hey Zak... I dont go to UCF but i do go to UWF, if you ever need
someone to talk to :)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Zak"
<zm_orlando@...> wrote:
>
> I have just been diagnosed and haven't talked to any friends about it
> yet.  I'm lookin for a lady friend around UCF to hang out with and
> kind of go through this together.  These sites seem to vary on who's
> active and how they want to get some money out of you, and this is the
> only one not charging to talk to people so far.  Everyone's tryin to
> make a buck....
>

Hey Gang,

   Merry Christmas!  How was the social?

   Christina


"Good friends are like stars. ... You don't always see them, but you know they
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Hello


Although I wont be able to make it for the Friday Social, I would love to know
of anything going on the weekend of FEB 15-17th. I will be visiting my Cousin in
Lake Mary arriving on the 12th and leaving the 18th. I am going to Daytona to
watch the Twin Qualifying races on Thursday the 14th if anyone would like to
join me.  My name is Todd. im from the Detroit area and part of Motor City
Friends. I have noticed that not much goes on in your group, and with me having
family in the area, Id love to have "Friends"  to chat with hang out with while
im intown. I have HPV. So I wont be able to RSVP for this friday, But would love
to make it to any event the weekend of Feb 15-17th.

Todd


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To: OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, December 3, 2007 8:50:18 PM
Subject: [Orlando H Singles] REMINDER - Orlando H2O Social - Friday, December
7th!! RSVP now!


      
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Greetings once again!

This is a friendly reminder about this Friday's get
together.

The Orlando H2O group would like to extend an
invitation to you for a little social time to spread
some holiday cheer.  This social will be on a Friday
evening, so plan now!

***Please note there has been a change on the
showtime.  It now is beginning at 9:30pm instead of
the 9pm show.  We are still meeting outside between
7pm and 8pm!!! (doors open at 8pm)

If you have any questions, please feel free to email
me.

Hope to see you there!

Tonya and Lisa
Orlando H2O Coordinators

****************************************************

COME JOIN US FOR SOME HOLIDAY CHEER!!

Universal City Walk's
CITY JAZZ Goes BONKERZ
1000 Universal Studios Plaza
Orlando, FL 32819

LOCATION: inside City Jazz Club
SHOWTIME:  Friday, December 7th at 9:30 PM
We'll meet outside from 7:00 – 8:00 PM

Look for the green and red balloons, ask for Tonya's
party if you arrive late and want to join the group
inside.

If you can't make it but want to join us later, we'll
be at either Margaritaville or Pat Obriens! (STILL TO
BE ANNOUNCED LATER THIS WEEK! CHECK YOUR EMAILS!!)

FREE PARKING after 6 PM
ADMISSION:
$7 per person (working on group rate)
OR
a City Walk Party Pass

FOOD & FULL LIQUOR BAR AVAILABLE
Comedian – Ian Gutoskie from Ontario, Canada

AFTER Bonkerz: either
Pat Obrien's (live dueling pianos - Irish pub)
or
Jimmy Buffet's Margaritaville (Key West style – live
music)

RSVP w/ your choice, most votes wins!
Come on out and join us for a great time…please RSVP,
we've booked for 30, but we want more!

It's not too late...RSVP today!