Hello,

I am new to this forum. I recently joined Antopia where I was
contacted by a Tampa Bay H club member who told me about this forum.

I have Herpes HSV2. I found I had herpes about a year into dating my
ex-wife; 1984. I don't know if I contracted it from a previous
encounter and passed it to her of she to me.

I have been separated since 2003 and divorced last year. I started
dating last year and have been dating via commercial internet dating
sites. I have had one intimate relationship after I told her I had
herpes.

I know that if I want a companion, I have to date and disclose until
I find the right person. There is no other option than being alone.

The largest hurdle that I see other people dealing with is disclosure
and rejection. My feeling is that 1/3 of the population has herpes.
If my chances of finding a companion are cut to 1/3, then I just have
to meet more people. Rejection hurts but it's unavoidable so I accept
it as one of the hazards of dating.

By joining this forum and others, I know I will increase the chances
of finding a companion sooner.

I am a white male, 47 years old, 6'3", 205lbs. The intention I have
set is finding a loving girlfriend who I find very attractive, who
shares some of my interests and spiritual intentions and who likes to
travel.

Feel free to ask me about my experiences dealing with herpes, dating,
intentions and anything else.

Doug

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It's a yahoo glitch that things are sending 10 times each, yours is
too.  *grin*  It's happening on all my yahoo groups.  Hopefully
they'll fix it soon.

Stacia
Daytona Beach

At 12:07 AM 3/29/2007, you wrote:
>--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Todd"
><motor_city_impala@...> wrote:
>
>Todd- Enjoy the Orlando area. I don't mean to be rude, but please quit
>sending this. It has been sent like 8 or 9 times now. Thanks!
>
>
>
> >
> > Hello everyone
> >
> > Todd here from the Detroit, MI area. You may have heard of our group
> > up-north called Motor City Friends. I am a part of that group. I will
> > be visitng family July 4th-7th in Lake Mary and Im interested in going
> > dancing on friday night July 6th. Anyone know of any good dance clubs?
> > Also I am going to be looking for work and a place to live and the
> > Orlando area is #1 on my list of places to move to. Im a SWM age 37.
> >
> > Todd
> >
>
>
>
>
>
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>
>
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--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Todd"
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Todd- Enjoy the Orlando area. I don't mean to be rude, but please quit
sending this. It has been sent like 8 or 9 times now. Thanks!



>
> Hello everyone
>
> Todd here from the Detroit, MI area. You may have heard of our group
> up-north called Motor City Friends. I am a part of that group. I will
> be visitng family July 4th-7th in Lake Mary and Im interested in going
> dancing on friday night July 6th. Anyone know of any good dance clubs?
> Also I am going to be looking for work and a place to live and the
> Orlando area is #1 on my list of places to move to. Im a SWM age 37.
>
> Todd
>

Hello everyone

Todd here from the Detroit, MI area. You may have heard of our group
up-north called Motor City Friends. I am a part of that group. I will
be visitng family July 4th-7th in Lake Mary and Im interested in going
dancing on friday night July 6th. Anyone know of any good dance clubs?
Also I am going to be looking for work and a place to live and the
Orlando area is #1 on my list of places to move to. Im a SWM age 37.

Todd

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I'll have to think about it and maybe give it some time to see where
it goes.

I just hope anyone out there who is afraid of telling someone will
ask for help. It really is the right thing to do....

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey "S"...
>     Yippppppppppppppppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! Another
successful
> story of acceptance in mainstream america :)
>     Would you be interested in submitting your "how you  got it"
initial
> story including your follow up story of meeting someone,  having
to tell, when,
> and your acceptance to our Happenings International  newsletter.
>     I think sharing your story with 1000+ plus  readers nationwide
may be
> motivating to others if they are feeling down and  out,,,
>     Looking forward to your reply,,,,and keep me posted  on this
relationship
> and where it goes,,,
>     Have a great weekend!!!
>
>
> Scott Evans, Happenings Editor
> Website: _www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings_
> (http://www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings)
> E-mail:  happeningseditor@...
>
>
> =============================================
> In a message dated 2/2/2007 5:00:06 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> Hey Scott! Thanks for the encouragement. He called today and asked
> if  he could stop by after work so I thought it might be a good
time.
> It was  excruciating, but I told him. He actually felt bad that
I'd
> been worrying  about it all this time! He said he doesn't want to
> lose me and will deal  with it. I think he will have a lot of
> questions but it seems like it  won't be a big deal. Of course he
> could change his mind tomorrow, but  that's the way it goes.
>
> I'm glad I told him before things got too far  (they have already
> been getting pretty heated :) and I'm glad it's out.  Thanks again
> for the help. I think I need a stiff drink, LOL! Hope all is  well
> with you,
>
> S
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey S:
> > You  should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he might have
> been more
> >  opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day :)....
> > Now you are  going to agonize about it, and that's not healthy
> either,,,
> > I know  it may sound like a chickens way out, but an e-mail to
> him,
> >  spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face
cause
> you are  scared,
> > embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
> >  We are all in a special predicament and too have to protect
> our
> >  feelings,,,,  feelings,,,,<WBR>I'm a cancer, so we go into our
shel
> lol,,,, at least if
> > you e-mail the info....it will finally be out  of the closet and
> sooner than
> > later...
> > If you are not  close to sexual contact, wait,,, definitely
> according to
> > the  editorial,,, its a catch 22,,,,if you tell them too soon,
> then they don't
> > know all your other great qualities and add them to the
equation,
> and if you
> > tell them too late, they can say "why did u wait so  long and
let
> me grow to
> > have feelings for you"....so, don't  aggravate yourself about
> it,,,, u feel
> > you want to tell him, so  tell him, any way you can,,,
> > In my 3 experiences with women that  didn't have it, that I
> told,,,they
> > all accepted me,,,,:) however,  if you ask me
> intellectually,intellectually,<WBR
> > or date  someone that has H" i'd probably say "No, I wouldn't"
> then again,
> >  when one is in love,,,?!?!?  when one is in love,,,?!?!?<WBR>!
> an
> > inconvenience. in
> > Keep me posted,,,
> >  Supportively Yours,
> > :) Scott
> >  ============  ====  ====  ====  ====  ====
> >
> > In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Well I guess you could say  that I chickened out...I don't know.
We
> > went out and everywhere was  too public and crowded. Then we
went
> back
> > to his place for a bit,  but we were tired and a little tipsy by
> then
> > and he was being all  romantic, so it just didn't seem like the
> right
> > time.
> >
> > So now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it
> all
> > weekend probably.... weekend probably....<WB<WBR>I wish I could
just
> t
> > don't think that  would be right....
> >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ,
evansprod@,
> > wrote:
> > >
> > >
> > >  Hey,,,
> > > WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
> > > But, if you are  willing to sabotage the relationship, you
> > might as well
> > >  take a chance and tell him/her....
> > > If they stick around,  "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't
> any
> > worse off
> >  > than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
> > > Another  obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and
know
> > how they
> > > feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you
> (hopefully).<WBR>..so,
> > and may use
> > > this  information against you, they you may be better off
> blowing
> > them
> > > off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
> > rejection, they should
> > > minimally become a friend and  confidant,,,
> > > Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story
> > in my next
> > > newsletter..  newsletter..<WBR>. (with your permission and
> anonymo
> >  >
> > >
> > > Scott, Happenings Editor
> > >  Website: www.theentertainmen Website: Website:
> > > E-mail:  happeningseditor@ E-m
> > >
> > >
> > > In a message  dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard
> Time,
> > >  _no_reply@yahoogrou  _no_reply@y_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
> (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
> writes:
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  > At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the
relationship
> and
> > > break it off than go through with telling him.....
> > >
> > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ,
> evansprod@,
> > > wrote:
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Hey everybody,,,
> > > > There's an article in  the Happenings Herpes Help group e-
> > > newsletter
> > > >  re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
> > > > The address  is www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > > > Check it  out,,,
> > > > :) S
> > > > -=-=-=-=-=-= -=-= -=-= -=-=  -=-= -=-= -
> > > > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M.  Eastern Standard
> Time,
> > > > _no_reply@yahoogrou
> _no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@_no_reply@yah_no_
> >  (mailto:_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) ) )
> > writes:
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Thank you for the advice! My last  boyfriend basically
> said "ok,
> > > we'll
> > > > deal  with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard
> when
> > >  you
> > > > care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or  freak
> them
> > > out.
> > > > I think he is in it for  the long haul, but if this makes
him
> > run,
> > > > then I  just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've
> had
> > >  this
> > > > for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that
respect!!
> > > >
> > > > I think we're getting together  Thurs night so I hope to
tell
> him
> > > > then....will let you  know what happens!
> > > >
> > > > S
> > > >
> > > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > >  >
> > > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> > >
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Orland (mailto:_Orland (mail
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ) , "luv2rid
ef
> ast
> > "
> > > > <staish@>  wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > Hi there,
> > >  > >
> > > > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
> > > people.
> > > > > One said, "Whew,  that's a relief, I have it too" and the
> other
> > > one
> >  > > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't
understand
> > and
> > > > > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth  having, I really
thought
> it
> > > was
> > > > >  going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I
was
> > >  wrong.
> > > > > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was  devastating as he
> was
> > a
> > > > > friend for a long  time and we no longer even have a
> > friendship.
> > > > So,
> > > > > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth  having.
> > > > >
> > > > > I dread the time that I  have to do it again, but hang in
> there
> > > and
> > >  > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> >  > appreciate
> > > > > us telling them. I think the only way  I have come up with
> to
> > > tell
> > > > is
> >  > > > just to sit down and say that before things get too
intense
> > you
> > > > just
> > > > > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out
and
> > tell
> > > >  > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the
> internet
> >  or
> > > > see
> > > > > a doctor to ask questions  and go from there. It amazes me
> when
> > > > > people freak,  as it isn't something that will KILL you,
> it's
> > > just a
> > > > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it  since
> age
> > 20
> > > > and
> > > > > I'm  almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
> > > > >
> > > > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with  you
> and
> > do
> > > > let
> > > > > us know  how it goes.
> > > > >
> > > > > Hugs,
> > >  > > Stacia in Daytona
> > > > >
> > > > > ---  In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > > >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> > >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ) ,
> luvmylab_2
> > > > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> >  > > > >
> > > > > > Hello. I recently started  seeing someone new and it's
> > getting
> > > to
> > >  > > be
> > > > > > about that time to tell him I have  H. I haven't done
this
> in
> > a
> > > > > while
> > > > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running  as fast
> as
> > he
> > > > can.
> > > > > Any
> > > > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might  help?
Thank
> you!
> > > > > >
> > > >  >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > >  >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > >  >
> > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> >  >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey "S"...
     Yippppppppppppppppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! Another  successful
story of acceptance in mainstream america :)
     Would you be interested in submitting your "how you  got it" initial
story including your follow up story of meeting someone,  having to tell, when,
and your acceptance to our Happenings International  newsletter.
     I think sharing your story with 1000+ plus  readers nationwide may be
motivating to others if they are feeling down and  out,,,
     Looking forward to your reply,,,,and keep me posted  on this relationship
and where it goes,,,
     Have a great weekend!!!


Scott Evans, Happenings Editor
Website: _www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings_
(http://www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings)
E-mail:  happeningseditor@...


=============================================
In a message dated 2/2/2007 5:00:06 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Hey Scott! Thanks for the encouragement. He called today and asked
if  he could stop by after work so I thought it might be a good time.
It was  excruciating, but I told him. He actually felt bad that I'd
been worrying  about it all this time! He said he doesn't want to
lose me and will deal  with it. I think he will have a lot of
questions but it seems like it  won't be a big deal. Of course he
could change his mind tomorrow, but  that's the way it goes.

I'm glad I told him before things got too far  (they have already
been getting pretty heated :) and I'm glad it's out.  Thanks again
for the help. I think I need a stiff drink, LOL! Hope all is  well
with you,

S

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey S:
> You  should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he might have
been more
>  opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day :)....
> Now you are  going to agonize about it, and that's not healthy
either,,,
> I know  it may sound like a chickens way out, but an e-mail to
him,
>  spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face cause
you are  scared,
> embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
>  We are all in a special predicament and too have to protect
our
>  feelings,,,,  feelings,,,,<WBR>I'm a cancer, so we go into our shel
lol,,,, at least if
> you e-mail the info....it will finally be out  of the closet and
sooner than
> later...
> If you are not  close to sexual contact, wait,,, definitely
according to
> the  editorial,,, its a catch 22,,,,if you tell them too soon,
then they don't
> know all your other great qualities and add them to the equation,
and if you
> tell them too late, they can say "why did u wait so  long and let
me grow to
> have feelings for you"....so, don't  aggravate yourself about
it,,,, u feel
> you want to tell him, so  tell him, any way you can,,,
> In my 3 experiences with women that  didn't have it, that I
told,,,they
> all accepted me,,,,:) however,  if you ask me
intellectually,intellectually,<WBR
> or date  someone that has H" i'd probably say "No, I wouldn't"
then again,
>  when one is in love,,,?!?!?  when one is in love,,,?!?!?<WBR>!
an
> inconvenience. in
> Keep me posted,,,
>  Supportively Yours,
> :) Scott
>  ============  ====  ====  ====  ====  ====
>
> In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)   writes:
>
>
>
>
> Well I guess you could say  that I chickened out...I don't know. We
> went out and everywhere was  too public and crowded. Then we went
back
> to his place for a bit,  but we were tired and a little tipsy by
then
> and he was being all  romantic, so it just didn't seem like the
right
> time.
>
> So now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it
all
> weekend probably.... weekend probably....<WB<WBR>I wish I could just
t
> don't think that  would be right....
>
> --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> >  Hey,,,
> > WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
> > But, if you are  willing to sabotage the relationship, you
> might as well
> >  take a chance and tell him/her....
> > If they stick around,  "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't
any
> worse off
>  > than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
> > Another  obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and know
> how they
> > feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you
(hopefully).<WBR>..so,
> and may use
> > this  information against you, they you may be better off
blowing
> them
> > off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
> rejection, they should
> > minimally become a friend and  confidant,,,
> > Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story
> in my next
> > newsletter..  newsletter..<WBR>. (with your permission and
anonymo
>  >
> >
> > Scott, Happenings Editor
> >  Website: www.theentertainmen Website: Website:
> > E-mail:  happeningseditor@ E-m
> >
> >
> > In a message  dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> >  _no_reply@yahoogrou  _no_reply@y_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
>  > At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship
and
> > break it off than go through with telling him.....
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ,
evansprod@,
> > wrote:
> > >
> > >
> > > Hey everybody,,,
> > > There's an article in  the Happenings Herpes Help group e-
> > newsletter
> > >  re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
> > > The address  is www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > > Check it  out,,,
> > > :) S
> > > -=-=-=-=-=-= -=-= -=-= -=-=  -=-= -=-= -
> > > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M.  Eastern Standard
Time,
> > > _no_reply@yahoogrou
_no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@_no_reply@yah_no_
>  (mailto:_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) ) )
> writes:
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Thank you for the advice! My last  boyfriend basically
said "ok,
> > we'll
> > > deal  with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard
when
> >  you
> > > care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or  freak
them
> > out.
> > > I think he is in it for  the long haul, but if this makes him
> run,
> > > then I  just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've
had
> >  this
> > > for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that  respect!!
> > >
> > > I think we're getting together  Thurs night so I hope to tell
him
> > > then....will let you  know what happens!
> > >
> > > S
> > >
> > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> >  >
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Orland (mailto:_Orland (mail
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ) , "luv2ridef
ast
> "
> > > <staish@>  wrote:
> > > >
> > > > Hi there,
> >  > >
> > > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
> > people.
> > > > One said, "Whew,  that's a relief, I have it too" and the
other
> > one
>  > > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand
> and
> > > > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth  having, I really thought
it
> > was
> > > >  going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> >  wrong.
> > > > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was  devastating as he
was
> a
> > > > friend for a long  time and we no longer even have a
> friendship.
> > > So,
> > > > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth  having.
> > > >
> > > > I dread the time that I  have to do it again, but hang in
there
> > and
> >  > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
>  > appreciate
> > > > us telling them. I think the only way  I have come up with
to
> > tell
> > > is
>  > > > just to sit down and say that before things get too intense
> you
> > > just
> > > > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and
> tell
> > >  > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the
internet
>  or
> > > see
> > > > a doctor to ask questions  and go from there. It amazes me
when
> > > > people freak,  as it isn't something that will KILL you,
it's
> > just a
> > > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it  since
age
> 20
> > > and
> > > > I'm  almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
> > > >
> > > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with  you
and
> do
> > > let
> > > > us know  how it goes.
> > > >
> > > > Hugs,
> >  > > Stacia in Daytona
> > > >
> > > > ---  In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH (mailto:_Or (mailto:_Or
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ) ,
luvmylab_2
> > > > <no_reply@> wrote:
>  > > > >
> > > > > Hello. I recently started  seeing someone new and it's
> getting
> > to
> >  > > be
> > > > > about that time to tell him I have  H. I haven't done this
in
> a
> > > > while
> > > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running  as fast
as
> he
> > > can.
> > > > Any
> > > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might  help? Thank
you!
> > > > >
> > >  >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  >
> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> > >
> >
> >
> >
>  >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>  >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
>









[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Hey Scott! Thanks for the encouragement. He called today and asked
if he could stop by after work so I thought it might be a good time.
It was excruciating, but I told him. He actually felt bad that I'd
been worrying about it all this time! He said he doesn't want to
lose me and will deal with it. I think he will have a lot of
questions but it seems like it won't be a big deal. Of course he
could change his mind tomorrow, but that's the way it goes.

I'm glad I told him before things got too far (they have already
been getting pretty heated :) and I'm glad it's out. Thanks again
for the help. I think I need a stiff drink, LOL! Hope all is well
with you,

S


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey S:
>     You should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he  might have
been more
> opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day  :)....
>     Now you are going to agonize about it, and that's  not healthy
either,,,
>     I know it may sound like a chickens way out, but an  e-mail to
him,
> spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face cause
you are scared,
> embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
>     We are all in a special predicament and too have to  protect
our
> feelings,,,,I'm a cancer, so we go into our shell for protection,
lol,,,, at least if
> you e-mail the info....it will finally be out of the closet  and
sooner than
> later...
>     If you are not close to sexual  contact, wait,,, definitely
according to
> the editorial,,, its a catch  22,,,,if you tell them too soon,
then they don't
> know all your other great  qualities and add them to the equation,
and if you
> tell them too late, they can  say "why did u wait so long and let
me grow to
> have feelings for you"....so,  don't aggravate yourself about
it,,,, u feel
> you want to tell him, so tell him,  any way you can,,,
>     In my 3 experiences with women that didn't have it,  that I
told,,,they
> all accepted me,,,,:) however, if you ask me
intellectually,,,"would I go out,
> or date someone that has H" i'd probably say  "No, I wouldn't"
then again,
> when one is in love,,,?!?!?! You don't die from  H,,,,it's mostly
an
> inconvenience....
>     Keep me posted,,,
>     Supportively Yours,
> :) Scott
> =========================================================
>
> In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> Well I guess you could say that I chickened out...I don't know. We
> went  out and everywhere was too public and crowded. Then we went
back
> to his  place for a bit, but we were tired and a little tipsy by
then
> and he was  being all romantic, so it just didn't seem like the
right
> time.
>
> So  now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it
all
> weekend  probably....weekend  probably....<WBR>I wish I could just
t
> don't  think that would be right....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey,,,
> > WE ALL  know how you feel,,,,
> > But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
> might as well
> > take a chance and tell  him/her....
> > If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you  aren't
any
> worse off
> > than just sabotaging it as u had  planned...
> > Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and  know
> how they
> > feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you
(hopefully).<WBR>..so,
> and may use
> > this information against you, they  you may be better off
blowing
> them
> > off,,,then again,,,if you feel  they are sincere,,, even in
> rejection, they should
> > minimally  become a friend and confidant,,,
> > Let me know what happens,,, I'd  like to follow up your story
> in my next
> > newsletter.. newsletter..<WBR>. (with  your permission and
anonymo
> >
> >
> > Scott,  Happenings Editor
> > Website:  www.theentertainmen Website:  Website:
> > E-mail:  happeningseditor@ E-m
> >
> >
> > In a message dated  1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > At this point I feel like  I'd rather sabatoge the relationship
and
> > break it off than go through  with telling him.....
> >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ,
evansprod@,
> > wrote:
> > >
> > >
> > > Hey  everybody,,,
> > > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-
> > newsletter
> > > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > > The address is www.theentertainmen The addre The  addre
> > > Check it out,,,
> > > :) S
> > > -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -
> > > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51  A.M. Eastern Standard
Time,
> > > _no_reply@yahoogrou
_no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
> (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
> writes:
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  > Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically
said "ok,
> >  we'll
> > > deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard
when
> > you
> > > care about someone and you don't want to hurt  them or freak
them
> > out.
> > > I think he is in it for the  long haul, but if this makes him
> run,
> > > then I just have to  believe that it's not meant to be. I've
had
> > this
> > > for  about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> > >
> > > I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell
him
> > > then....will let you know what happens!
> > >
> >  > S
> > >
> > > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl ---  In
> > >
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) , "luv2ridef
ast
> "
> > > <staish@> wrote:
> > >  >
> > > > Hi there,
> > > >
> > > > I don't  have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
> > people.
> >  > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the
other
> > one
> > > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who  didn't understand
> and
> > > > couldn't deal with it wasn't  worth having, I really thought
it
> > was
> > > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> > wrong.
> > >  > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he
was
> a
> > > > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a
> friendship.
> > > So,
> > > > I have to tell myself  that he wasn't worth having.
> > > >
> > > > I dread the  time that I have to do it again, but hang in
there
> > and
> > >  > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> >  appreciate
> > > > us telling them. I think the only way I have  come up with
to
> > tell
> > > is
> > > > just to sit  down and say that before things get too intense
> you
> > > just
> > > > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and
> tell
> > > > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on  the
internet
> or
> > > see
> > > > a doctor to ask  questions and go from there. It amazes me
when
> > > > people  freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you,
it's
> > just a
> >  > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since
age
> 20
> > > and
> > > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to  terms with it.
> > > >
> > > > Good luck with telling  him. My thoughts will be with you
and
> do
> > > let
> > >  > us know how it goes.
> > > >
> > > > Hugs,
> >  > > Stacia in Daytona
> > > >
> > > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> > >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) ,
luvmylab_2
> > > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > >  >
> > > > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and  it's
> getting
> > to
> > > > be
> > > > >  about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this
in
> a
> >  > > while
> > > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take  off running as fast
as
> he
> > > can.
> > > > Any
> > > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank
you!
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> >  >
> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have  been removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey S:
     You should have told him when he was tipsy,,, he  might have been more
opened to it then, or,,, not remember the next day  :)....
     Now you are going to agonize about it, and that's  not healthy either,,,
     I know it may sound like a chickens way out, but an  e-mail to him,
spilling your guts as to why you didn't do it face to face cause  you are
scared,
embarrassed, etc. and couldn't find the right moment.
     We are all in a special predicament and too have to  protect our
feelings,,,,I'm a cancer, so we go into our shell for protection,  lol,,,, at
least if
you e-mail the info....it will finally be out of the closet  and sooner than
later...
     If you are not close to sexual  contact, wait,,, definitely according to
the editorial,,, its a catch  22,,,,if you tell them too soon, then they don't
know all your other great  qualities and add them to the equation, and if you
tell them too late, they can  say "why did u wait so long and let me grow to
have feelings for you"....so,  don't aggravate yourself about it,,,, u feel
you want to tell him, so tell him,  any way you can,,,
     In my 3 experiences with women that didn't have it,  that I told,,,they
all accepted me,,,,:) however, if you ask me  intellectually,,,"would I go out,
or date someone that has H" i'd probably say  "No, I wouldn't" then again,
when one is in love,,,?!?!?! You don't die from  H,,,,it's mostly an
inconvenience....
     Keep me posted,,,
     Supportively Yours,
:) Scott
=========================================================

In a message dated 2/2/2007 12:55:52 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Well I guess you could say that I chickened out...I don't know. We
went  out and everywhere was too public and crowded. Then we went back
to his  place for a bit, but we were tired and a little tipsy by then
and he was  being all romantic, so it just didn't seem like the right
time.

So  now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it all
weekend  probably....weekend  probably....<WBR>I wish I could just t
don't  think that would be right....

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
> WE ALL  know how you feel,,,,
> But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell  him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you  aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had  planned...
> Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and  know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you (hopefully).<WBR>..so,
and may use
> this information against you, they  you may be better off blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel  they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally  become a friend and confidant,,,
> Let me know what happens,,, I'd  like to follow up your story
in my next
> newsletter.. newsletter..<WBR>. (with  your permission and anonymo
>
>
> Scott,  Happenings Editor
> Website:  www.theentertainmen Website:  Website:
> E-mail:  happeningseditor@ E-m
>
>
> In a message dated  1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)   writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like  I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through  with telling him.....
>
> --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey  everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > The address is www.theentertainmen The addre The  addre
> > Check it out,,,
> > :) S
> > -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -
> > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51  A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogrou _no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
>  > Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
>  we'll
> > deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard  when
> you
> > care about someone and you don't want to hurt  them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is in it for the  long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have to  believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for  about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will let you know what happens!
> >
>  > S
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl ---  In
> >
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> >  >
> > > Hi there,
> > >
> > > I don't  have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
> people.
>  > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who  didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it wasn't  worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> >  > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> > > I have to tell myself  that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> > > I dread the  time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> >  > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
>  appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have  come up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit  down and say that before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on  the internet
or
> > see
> > > a doctor to ask  questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> > > people  freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
>  > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to  terms with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling  him. My thoughts will be with you and
do
> > let
> >  > us know how it goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
>  > > Stacia in Daytona
> > >
> > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >  >
> > > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and  it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > >  about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in
a
>  > > while
> > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take  off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > > Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>  >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have  been removed]
>








[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

S:
     I feel u are doing the right thing,,,and it's kind  of you to consider
his feelings,,,
     Keep me posted...


Scott Evans, Happenings Editor
Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
E-mail: happeningseditor@...


In a message dated 2/1/2007 10:28:12 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Hey! We met at church and he is a good guy. He's had his wild days
and  stuff too, so it's not like he holds things against people. I
don't really  want to sabatoge things, it would just be easier in a
way I guess. He is  really into this relationship and if he can't
handle being with me because  of that, I know he will be very sad. I
don't want to hurt him....but  that's why I have to tell him before
anything intimate happens. I don't  think he would tell anyone else
out of anger. Just no telling how he will  take it.

I am planning to try try try to tell him tonight. Hopefully I  won't
chicken out! I will let you know how it goes.  Thanks!

S

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
> WE ALL  know how you feel,,,,
> But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell  him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you  aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had  planned...
> Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this point, and  know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully). feel towards you (hopefully).<WBR>..so,
and may use
> this information against you, they  you may be better off blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel  they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally  become a friend and confidant,,,
> Let me know what happens,,, I'd  like to follow up your story
in my next
> newsletter.. newsletter..<WBR>. (with  your permission and anonymo
>
>
> Scott,  Happenings Editor
> Website:  www.theentertainmen Website:  Website:
> E-mail:  happeningseditor@ E-m
>
>
> In a message dated  1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)   writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like  I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through  with telling him.....
>
> --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey  everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > The address is www.theentertainmen The addre The  addre
> > Check it out,,,
> > :) S
> > -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -=-= -
> > In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51  A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogrou _no_reply@yahoogrou_no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_
(mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com) )
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
>  > Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
>  we'll
> > deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard  when
> you
> > care about someone and you don't want to hurt  them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is in it for the  long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have to  believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for  about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will let you know what happens!
> >
>  > S
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl ---  In
> >
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> >  >
> > > Hi there,
> > >
> > > I don't  have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
> people.
>  > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with it, anyone who  didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it wasn't  worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> >  > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> > > I have to tell myself  that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> > > I dread the  time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> >  > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
>  appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have  come up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit  down and say that before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on  the internet
or
> > see
> > > a doctor to ask  questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> > > people  freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
>  > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to  terms with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling  him. My thoughts will be with you and
do
> > let
> >  > us know how it goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
>  > > Stacia in Daytona
> > >
> > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In _Orl --- In
> >  (mailto:_OrlandoFLH  (mailto:_Or  (mailto:_Or
>  (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  ) , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >  >
> > > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and  it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > >  about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in
a
>  > > while
> > > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take  off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > > Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>  >
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been  removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have  been removed]
>









[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Well I guess you could say that I chickened out...I don't know. We
went out and everywhere was too public and crowded. Then we went back
to his place for a bit, but we were tired and a little tipsy by then
and he was being all romantic, so it just didn't seem like the right
time.

So now I don't know what to do and I will be agonizing over it all
weekend probably....I wish I could just tell him over the phone but I
don't think that would be right....


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
>     WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
>     But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
>     Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this  point, and know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully)...so, if you feel they are  immature
and may use
> this information against you, they you may be better off  blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally become a friend and confidant,,,,
>     Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story
in my next
> newsletter... (with your permission and anonymously) of  course!!!
>
>
> Scott, Happenings Editor
> Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
> E-mail: happeningseditor@...
>
>
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through with telling him.....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey  everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group  e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > The address is  www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > Check it  out,,,
> > :) S
> >  -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -
> >  In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Thank you for the advice!  My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
> we'll
> > deal with it" and it  was no problem at all. It's just hard when
> you
> > care about someone  and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is  in it for the long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have  to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for about 10  years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think  we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will  let you know what happens!
> >
> > S
> >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi  there,
> > >
> > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
> people.
> > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I  have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with  it, anyone who didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it  wasn't worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> > > Then,  he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend  for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> >  > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> >  > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have come  up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit down and say that  before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then,  maybe suggest he do some research on the internet
or
> > see
> >  > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> >  > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
> > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms  with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts  will be with you and
do
> > let
> > > us know how it  goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
> > > Stacia in Daytona
> >  >
> > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > >
> >  > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > > about that time to tell him I have H. I  haven't done this in
a
> > > while
> > > > and of course  I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > >  Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this  message have been removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey! We met at church and he is a good guy. He's had his wild days
and stuff too, so it's not like he holds things against people. I
don't really want to sabatoge things, it would just be easier in a
way I guess. He is really into this relationship and if he can't
handle being with me because of that, I know he will be very sad. I
don't want to hurt him....but that's why I have to tell him before
anything intimate happens. I don't think he would tell anyone else
out of anger. Just no telling how he will take it.

I am planning to try try try to tell him tonight. Hopefully I won't
chicken out! I will let you know how it goes. Thanks!

S



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
>     WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
>     But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
>     Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this  point, and know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully)...so, if you feel they are  immature
and may use
> this information against you, they you may be better off  blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally become a friend and confidant,,,,
>     Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story
in my next
> newsletter... (with your permission and anonymously) of  course!!!
>
>
> Scott, Happenings Editor
> Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
> E-mail: happeningseditor@...
>
>
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through with telling him.....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey  everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group  e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > The address is  www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > Check it  out,,,
> > :) S
> >  -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -
> >  In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Thank you for the advice!  My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
> we'll
> > deal with it" and it  was no problem at all. It's just hard when
> you
> > care about someone  and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is  in it for the long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have  to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for about 10  years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think  we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will  let you know what happens!
> >
> > S
> >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi  there,
> > >
> > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
> people.
> > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I  have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with  it, anyone who didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it  wasn't worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> > > Then,  he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend  for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> >  > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> >  > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have come  up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit down and say that  before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then,  maybe suggest he do some research on the internet
or
> > see
> >  > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> >  > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
> > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms  with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts  will be with you and
do
> > let
> > > us know how it  goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
> > > Stacia in Daytona
> >  >
> > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > >
> >  > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > > about that time to tell him I have H. I  haven't done this in
a
> > > while
> > > > and of course  I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > >  Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this  message have been removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey,,,
     WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
     But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you might as well
take a chance and tell him/her....
If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any worse off
than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
     Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this  point, and know how they
feel towards you (hopefully)...so, if you feel they are  immature and may use
this information against you, they you may be better off  blowing them
off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in  rejection, they
should
minimally become a friend and confidant,,,,
     Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story in my next
newsletter... (with your permission and anonymously) of  course!!!


Scott, Happenings Editor
Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
E-mail: happeningseditor@...


In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
break it off than go through with telling him.....

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey  everybody,,,
> There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group  e-
newsletter
> re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> The address is  www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> Check it  out,,,
> :) S
>  -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -
>  In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)   writes:
>
>
>
>
> Thank you for the advice!  My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
we'll
> deal with it" and it  was no problem at all. It's just hard when
you
> care about someone  and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
out.
> I think he is  in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
> then I just have  to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
this
> for about 10  years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
>
> I think  we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> then....will  let you know what happens!
>
> S
>
> --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , "luv2ridefast"
> <staish@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi  there,
> >
> > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
people.
> > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I  have it too" and the other
one
> > said that he was okay with  it, anyone who didn't understand and
> > couldn't deal with it  wasn't worth having, I really thought it
was
> > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
wrong.
> > Then,  he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> > friend  for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
> So,
>  > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> >
>  > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
and
> > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
appreciate
> > us telling them. I think the only way I have come  up with to
tell
> is
> > just to sit down and say that  before things get too intense you
> just
> > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and tell
> > him. Then,  maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or
> see
>  > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
>  > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
just a
> > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20
> and
> > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms  with it.
> >
> > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts  will be with you and do
> let
> > us know how it  goes.
> >
> > Hugs,
> > Stacia in Daytona
>  >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , luvmylab_2
> > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >
>  > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting
to
> > be
> > > about that time to tell him I have H. I  haven't done this in a
> > while
> > > and of course  I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he
> can.
> >  Any
> > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > >
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this  message have been removed]
>









[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
break it off than go through with telling him.....


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey everybody,,,
>     There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-
newsletter
> re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
>     The address  is www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
>     Check it out,,,
> :) S
> -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=--=-==-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
we'll
> deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when
you
> care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
out.
> I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
> then  I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
this
> for about  10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
>
> I think we're  getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> then....will let you  know what happens!
>
> S
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  "luv2ridefast"
> <staish@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi there,
> >
> > I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
people.
> > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other
one
> > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it
was
> > going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
wrong.
> > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
> So,
> > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> >
> > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
and
> > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
appreciate
> > us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to
tell
> is
> > just to sit down and say that before things get too intense  you
> just
> > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out  and tell
> > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet  or
> see
> > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me  when
> > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
just a
> > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age  20
> and
> > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with  it.
> >
> > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you  and do
> let
> > us know how it goes.
> >
> > Hugs,
> >  Stacia in Daytona
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  luvmylab_2
> > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hello.  I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting
to
> > be
> >  > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
> >  while
> > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as  he
> can.
> > Any
> > > suggestions on how to go about it that  might help? Thank you!
> > >
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
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>

Hey everybody,,,
     There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-newsletter
re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
     The address  is www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
     Check it out,,,
:) S
-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=--=-==-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok, we'll
deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when you
care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them out.
I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
then  I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had this
for about  10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!

I think we're  getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
then....will let you  know what happens!

S

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  "luv2ridefast"
<staish@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there,
>
> I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2 people.
> One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
> said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
> going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
> Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
So,
> I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
>
> I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
> just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
> us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell
is
> just to sit down and say that before things get too intense  you
just
> need to have a serious talk with him and just come out  and tell
> him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet  or
see
> a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me  when
> people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's  just a
> nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age  20
and
> I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with  it.
>
> Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you  and do
let
> us know how it goes.
>
> Hugs,
>  Stacia in Daytona
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  luvmylab_2
> <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > Hello.  I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
> be
>  > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
>  while
> > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as  he
can.
> Any
> > suggestions on how to go about it that  might help? Thank you!
> >
>








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Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok, we'll
deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when you
care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them out.
I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
then I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had this
for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!

I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
then....will let you know what happens!

S



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "luv2ridefast"
<staish@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there,
>
> I don't have much advice for you.  I've only had to tell 2 people.
> One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
> said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
> going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
> Then, he promptly disappeared.  This was devastating as he was a
> friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
So,
> I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
>
> I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
> just be honest.  We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
> us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell
is
> just to sit down and say that before things get too intense you
just
> need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and tell
> him.  Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or
see
> a doctor to ask questions and go from there.  It amazes me when
> people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's just a
> nuisance.  Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20
and
> I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
>
> Good luck with telling him.  My thoughts will be with you and do
let
> us know how it goes.
>
> Hugs,
> Stacia in Daytona
>
> --- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, luvmylab_2
> <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
> be
> > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
> while
> > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he
can.
> Any
> > suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!
> >
>

Hi there,

I don't have much advice for you.  I've only had to tell 2 people.
One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
Then, he promptly disappeared.  This was devastating as he was a
friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.  So,
I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.

I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
just be honest.  We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell is
just to sit down and say that before things get too intense you just
need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and tell
him.  Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or see
a doctor to ask questions and go from there.  It amazes me when
people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's just a
nuisance.  Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20 and
I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.

Good luck with telling him.  My thoughts will be with you and do let
us know how it goes.

Hugs,
Stacia in Daytona

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, luvmylab_2
<no_reply@...> wrote:
>
> Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
be
> about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
while
> and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he can.
Any
> suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!
>

Hey no reply,,,,
     There happens to be an article in the Happenings  Herpes Help Group
newsletter in the Questions and Answer section on this exact  subject.....It's
FREE
to access and read,,,, :)
     Go to www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
     Check it out,,,let me know your thoughts,,,
:) Scott


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Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to be
about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a while
and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he can. Any
suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!

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Hello, I just wanted to take the time to say hello to everyone in the
group. I recently been single for 3yrs due to the fact that i have HSV-
2. I was in denial for a while.I trying to move on with my life and
accept what has happen to me. This is the first group i ever joined so
i hoping to maybe learn more.Little bit about me.....I am 25 yrs old
Puerto Rican male. I just recenetly gotten out of the Air Force. I
currently work as a technician. I very into movies and music. Speically
techno, drum and bass etc... I would love to meet other people and
maybe hear how they been able to deal with this condition. Thank you
for taking the time to read my post.


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I just joined this group and wanted to say hello to everyone.  I'm
not actually in Orlando, but I'm over that way quite often to see
friends.  My name is Stacia (pronounced Stay-sha) and I'm 39 and live
in the Daytona Beach area with my 4 dog kids.  I'm in the process of
divorce (will be final in a few weeks) and have had H for nearly 20 years.

Some things I enjoy are riding my motorcycle, boating, really
anything outdoors, movies, cooking and I volunteer a lot of my time
with dog rescue and sea turtle preservation.  I do medical
transcription at home and enjoy my job, though I work lots of
hours.  I'm looking forward to meeting some new people and making
some friends.

Sincerely,
Stacia

There's still plenty of room to sign up for bowling with us on
January 27th!!

Come on, what do you have to lose?!  So you miss a couple pins down
the lane....make a couple new friends....and have a great time while
all this is going on!!  What more can you ask for?

We're meeting between 5 and 530pm....bowling begins at 6pm.  We have
the lanes for two hours...and we get our pizza delivered right in the
middle of all this!  You'll be outta there by 830...time enough to
complete your night however you want!

So, come on...email me now if you're interested in attending!!

It'll be fun, I promise!!

P.S. (The post right before this had all of the specifics.  If you
need them, please email me and I'll send them right to you!)

Tonya
:o)

Greetings and Happy New Year!!

We're going to start 2007 out with a strike!!  (Ok, I'm trying to
lead up to our next outing!)

The Orlando H2O Group invites you to....

Let's Go Bowling!!

When:        Saturday, January 27, 2007
Time:        Meet between 5 and 5:30pm
Where:       Boardwalk Bowl
              10749 E. Colonial Drive (just west of Alafaya Trail)
              Phone:  407.384.0003

The price is $20.00 per person.  This includes bowling (2 hours),
shoe rental, and the food/drink (non-alcoholic)...pizza and sodas.
Money will be collected at your arrival to the event.

We went last year and had a great time!!

There is a minimum number of people needed to attend this event.
(minimum of 20)  So, mark your calendars now!!

If you would like to attend, please email me
(H2OOrlando2001@... OR eyzseau624@...)
and I will put you on the list (it's a good list, don't worry)!!

It's going to be a great year!!!  I'm making plans for the picnic
now...should be in the latter part of March!!  I'll send out more
information on that later.

Hope to see you on the lanes on the 27th!!

Tonya
:o)

Hi all,

Just wanted to let you know there is a help group meeting for anyone
interested!  It will be held on January 9, 2007 at the Winter Park
Hospital, at 730pm.  (for more information, go to
www.geocities.com/orlandohelpgroup)

We will be going to Tijuana Flat's on Aloma (just east of Lakemont)
directly after the meeting (about 830ish).  If you can't make the
meeting, slide by The Flat's!!  This will be our first time there
after a meeting.  We're looking for a place to get together after the
meetings, so if you have any other thoughts, please let us know!!

About the meetings, don't be afraid....no one bites...trust me!!  You
don't even have to talk, if you don't want to.  Just come on by for a
minute and see what it's like.  Remember, you may be new to all of
this...or old to it...but we all need a little nudge/support
sometimes.  If you feel you've conquered your quirks, maybe you can
offer some guidance to someone not so lucky right now!  Just a
thought!

So, hopefully we'll see you there!  I'll be there!!  (barring no
floods or emergencies at work!)

Tonya
:o)

Hi Tony,

I'm glad you chose this place to vent your frustrations! It's
actually a good place to do something like that.  It's a quiet group,
but a good group.  And better yet, we're all in this together.  If
you haven't seen the number of members on this site, it's well over
250!!

Your story is not uncommon in our plight for happiness.  I have a
very similar story, believe it or not.  I was engaged many years ago
and broke off the engagement because of the fighting and yes, the big
H.  That was in 1992.  I didn't date anyone seriously until 1997 and
again, that ended on bad terms.  In 2001, I took my plunge to the
internet and found a wonderful site...mpwh.  Everyone on there was
just like me!! Life changed for me on that February 20, 2001.  (yeah,
I remember the date too!)  I learned at that point in time, I was not
alone.  I've met hundreds of people, online AND in person (at socials
and national events) that have been wonderful support in my
realization.  Most of these people are still my friends that I speak
to all the time.  Life changed then...and has been wonderful ever
since.

I finally met a guy in February 2004.  We chatted online (at mpwh)
for over six months, dated for a couple more months and then realized
we were meant to be together.  We moved in together in June 04.  He
asked me to marry him on New Year's Eve of 04-05 and we married that
April.  We don't worry about the H factor because both of us have
it.  We understand the trials and tribulations of the outbreaks,
etc.  Life has never been grander!!

I can make a few suggestions, if that's ok.  There are support groups
in many areas of the state.  While it may be uncomfortable at first,
it's a fantastic step in the right direction.  Trust me, I've been
there.  There are also many social groups in the state as well.  Some
more active that others, but they are there.

Please, feel free to vent here any time.  Or, just feel free to pop
on and say hi!  Like I said, we're all in this together!!  I'm sure
you will hear many versions of your story.  :o)

Watch for postings of socials for the upcoming year!  I know there's
a couple planned just not posted yet.  And hey, never be afraid of
going...no one bites!!!  :o)

Hope I've shed a glimmer of hope for you!

Tonya
:o)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Mr. T"
<firemedic1560@...> wrote:
>
> Well, ive been lurking here for a little while. i figured i would
share my story.
>
> my name is tony. im 37 years old. ive had hsv since i was 20 years
old. before hsv i was a
> shy person. i had been picked on as a kid. i was not very athletic
so the other boys in the
> neighborhood pretty much used me as a punching bag from the time i
was 10 till i
> graduated from high school. because of this my confidence was
pretty shot and my self
> esteem was very low. i met a girl who i thought was an angel. she
had a gorgous smile and
> always had nice things to say to me. imagine how happy i was when
she started falling for
> me.
>
> i can still remember the night she told me she had hsv. for
whatever reason, i was not very
> educated in hsv and did not understand how contagous it was. but my
angel was crying.
> she was in pain. i thought about how horrible it was to not be
accepted for most of my life
> and i thought i could never do that to her. i held her close looked
into her eyes and told
> her that i accepted her regardless of what she had and we could
work through this. well, a
> year later she started seeing other guys behind my back. i caught
her one night and that
> spelled the end. little did i know that i had something in my body
that would remind me of
> her for the rest of my life.
>
> i can still remember my first outbreak. i was looking down at
myself in the shower and
> wondering what this thing on my penis could be. i was in denile. i
told myself it was
> nothing. and tried to go on with my life as if everything was fine.
a couple years later i met
> another girl who i believed was terrific. she felt the same about
me. unfortunately, i
> passed it on to her. she missed her period and went to her doctor
for a pregnancy test.
> while she was there she had a physical and the doctor confirmed she
had hsv. i felt
> horrible. i could not believe i did this to someone. i felt so
rotten and dirty. i didnt know
> what to say. i went to the doctor and he confirmed that i was also
hsv postive. well, the girl
> decided to stay with me. the pregancy was terminated. we spent the
next 5 years in a very
> rough relationship. it finally ended one night, when i came home
from work one morning
> and found she was gone. she left me a note telling me how rotten a
person i was and how
> i deserved to be alone. i spent the next 7 years alone.
>
> occasionally i would meet a girl who i wanted to be serious with.
but they ran from me
> when i told them i had hsv. it made me feel dirty and diseased. i
became very angry. well
> anger is just a way of hiding sadness isnt it? i became bitter and
i swore i would not let
> anyone in ever again. i spent the next 7 years on my own.
occasionally having sex with a
> girl when i could not fight the urge anymore. of course i never
told them, because i knew
> that was a deal breaker. it never made me happy and the guilt was
horrible. i just assumed
> i would never find anyone to love me because of this disease.
>
> i started looking on the hsv dating sites. i made a someone who
introduced me to a friend
> of hers who was also hsv positive. we talked on the phone and on
the internet. she was
> beautiful. we had a lot in common. she accepted me for everything i
was. i felt like a
> million bucks. i was very happy and felt like i was falling in love
but i was scared to meet
> her. she finally took the bull by the horns and made the drive from
orlando to west palm
> beach to meet me. she drove almost 3 hours just to meet me in
person. we had more in
> common than i could have ever believed. she had a young son who i
met and enjoyed very
> much. we commuted for a year to spend time together. she made the
move to wpb to live
> with me. i was so happy, until all the old insecurities started.
here i was with a woman who
> loved me more than anything and i could not get over the fear that
she would someday
> leave me. we started fighting a lot. the worst of it was when we
fought in front of her son.
> ive always had a bad temper. i made her cry. i felt horrible. i
felt i was not worthy of her
> love anymore. i ended the relationship not because i didnt love
her. i ended it because i
> couldnt stand hurting her anymore. i couldnt stand seeing her
crying. i couldnt stand
> hurting someone i love so much. so she left with her son. i never
got to say goodbye.
>
> that was 8 months ago. now im alone again. ive been in therapy
since then to get control
> of my temper and get over the terrible thing i did to cara. it
still hurts when i come home
> and find it empty. its just something i will have to get over. ive
had to say goodbye to cara,
> because i know i will never see her again.
>
> so why am i writing this? i guess its just to vent my frustration
with having this disease.
> sure i had issues before hsv, but hsv hasnt made things any easier
for me. right now life,
> as far as a relationship, marriage and children doesnt look to be
in my future. i feel alone,
> hopeless and scared. its been 17 years with this disease. when will
things get better?
>

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National Event.  Last year was great fun and a huge success!!!

   This year with New Years is on a Sunday night it means an extra day of fun!

   We'll be going to a local bar Friday night, our second annual pajamma party is
Saturday night and then the main event is Sunday night.  We'll have some daytime
activities planned as well...stay tuned!

   There will also be a wine tasting on Saturday afternoon!!!

The room rate is $89.

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