Hey! We met at church and he is a good guy. He's had his wild days
and stuff too, so it's not like he holds things against people. I
don't really want to sabatoge things, it would just be easier in a
way I guess. He is really into this relationship and if he can't
handle being with me because of that, I know he will be very sad. I
don't want to hurt him....but that's why I have to tell him before
anything intimate happens. I don't think he would tell anyone else
out of anger. Just no telling how he will take it.

I am planning to try try try to tell him tonight. Hopefully I won't
chicken out! I will let you know how it goes. Thanks!

S



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey,,,
>     WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
>     But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you
might as well
> take a chance and tell him/her....
> If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any
worse off
> than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
>     Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this  point, and know
how they
> feel towards you (hopefully)...so, if you feel they are  immature
and may use
> this information against you, they you may be better off  blowing
them
> off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in
rejection, they should
> minimally become a friend and confidant,,,,
>     Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story
in my next
> newsletter... (with your permission and anonymously) of  course!!!
>
>
> Scott, Happenings Editor
> Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
> E-mail: happeningseditor@...
>
>
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
> break it off than go through with telling him.....
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@,
> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Hey  everybody,,,
> > There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group  e-
> newsletter
> > re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> > The address is  www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> > Check it  out,,,
> > :) S
> >  -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -
> >  In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> > _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)
writes:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Thank you for the advice!  My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
> we'll
> > deal with it" and it  was no problem at all. It's just hard when
> you
> > care about someone  and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
> out.
> > I think he is  in it for the long haul, but if this makes him
run,
> > then I just have  to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
> this
> > for about 10  years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
> >
> > I think  we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> > then....will  let you know what happens!
> >
> > S
> >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> >
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , "luv2ridefast
"
> > <staish@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi  there,
> > >
> > > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
> people.
> > > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I  have it too" and the other
> one
> > > said that he was okay with  it, anyone who didn't understand
and
> > > couldn't deal with it  wasn't worth having, I really thought it
> was
> > > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
> wrong.
> > > Then,  he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was
a
> > > friend  for a long time and we no longer even have a
friendship.
> > So,
> >  > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> > >
> >  > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
> and
> > > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
> appreciate
> > > us telling them. I think the only way I have come  up with to
> tell
> > is
> > > just to sit down and say that  before things get too intense
you
> > just
> > > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and
tell
> > > him. Then,  maybe suggest he do some research on the internet
or
> > see
> >  > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
> >  > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
> just a
> > > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age
20
> > and
> > > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms  with it.
> > >
> > > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts  will be with you and
do
> > let
> > > us know how it  goes.
> > >
> > > Hugs,
> > > Stacia in Daytona
> >  >
> > > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> > (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , luvmylab_2
> > > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > > >
> >  > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's
getting
> to
> > > be
> > > > about that time to tell him I have H. I  haven't done this in
a
> > > while
> > > > and of course  I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as
he
> > can.
> > >  Any
> > > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > [Non-text portions of this  message have been removed]
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey,,,
     WE ALL know how you feel,,,,
     But, if you are willing to sabotage the  relationship, you might as well
take a chance and tell him/her....
If they stick around, "great",,,, if they leave,,, you aren't any worse off
than just sabotaging it as u had planned...
     Another obvious,,,,you know the person at this  point, and know how they
feel towards you (hopefully)...so, if you feel they are  immature and may use
this information against you, they you may be better off  blowing them
off,,,then again,,,if you feel they are sincere,,, even in  rejection, they
should
minimally become a friend and confidant,,,,
     Let me know what happens,,, I'd like to follow up  your story in my next
newsletter... (with your permission and anonymously) of  course!!!


Scott, Happenings Editor
Website:  www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
E-mail: happeningseditor@...


In a message dated 1/30/2007 4:11:34 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
break it off than go through with telling him.....

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  evansprod@..,
wrote:
>
>
> Hey  everybody,,,
> There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help group  e-
newsletter
> re:this topic....u might find it of  interest,,,
> The address is  www.theentertainmen The addre The addre
> Check it  out,,,
> :) S
>  -=-=-=-=-=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -=-=  -
>  In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> _no_reply@yahoogroupno_re_ (mailto:no_reply@yahoogroups.com)   writes:
>
>
>
>
> Thank you for the advice!  My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
we'll
> deal with it" and it  was no problem at all. It's just hard when
you
> care about someone  and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
out.
> I think he is  in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
> then I just have  to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
this
> for about 10  years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
>
> I think  we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> then....will  let you know what happens!
>
> S
>
> --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
>
(mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , "luv2ridefast"
> <staish@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi  there,
> >
> > I don't have much advice for you. I've only  had to tell 2
people.
> > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I  have it too" and the other
one
> > said that he was okay with  it, anyone who didn't understand and
> > couldn't deal with it  wasn't worth having, I really thought it
was
> > going to be  okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
wrong.
> > Then,  he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> > friend  for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
> So,
>  > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> >
>  > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
and
> > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
appreciate
> > us telling them. I think the only way I have come  up with to
tell
> is
> > just to sit down and say that  before things get too intense you
> just
> > need to have a  serious talk with him and just come out and tell
> > him. Then,  maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or
> see
>  > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me when
>  > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
just a
> > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20
> and
> > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms  with it.
> >
> > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts  will be with you and do
> let
> > us know how it  goes.
> >
> > Hugs,
> > Stacia in Daytona
>  >
> > --- In  _OrlandoFLHerpesSin --- In  _Orl --- In
> (mailto:_OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) )  , luvmylab_2
> > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >
>  > > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting
to
> > be
> > > about that time to tell him I have H. I  haven't done this in a
> > while
> > > and of course  I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he
> can.
> >  Any
> > > suggestions on how to go about it that might help?  Thank you!
> > >
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this  message have been removed]
>









[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

At this point I feel like I'd rather sabatoge the relationship and
break it off than go through with telling him.....


--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, evansprod@...
wrote:
>
>
> Hey everybody,,,
>     There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-
newsletter
> re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
>     The address  is www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
>     Check it out,,,
> :) S
> -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=--=-==-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
> In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
> no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:
>
>
>
>
> Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok,
we'll
> deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when
you
> care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them
out.
> I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
> then  I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had
this
> for about  10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!
>
> I think we're  getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
> then....will let you  know what happens!
>
> S
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
>
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  "luv2ridefast"
> <staish@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi there,
> >
> > I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2
people.
> > One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other
one
> > said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> > couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it
was
> > going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was
wrong.
> > Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> > friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
> So,
> > I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
> >
> > I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there
and
> > just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell
appreciate
> > us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to
tell
> is
> > just to sit down and say that before things get too intense  you
> just
> > need to have a serious talk with him and just come out  and tell
> > him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet  or
> see
> > a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me  when
> > people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's
just a
> > nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age  20
> and
> > I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with  it.
> >
> > Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you  and do
> let
> > us know how it goes.
> >
> > Hugs,
> >  Stacia in Daytona
> >
> > --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
> (mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  luvmylab_2
> > <no_reply@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hello.  I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting
to
> > be
> >  > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
> >  while
> > > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as  he
> can.
> > Any
> > > suggestions on how to go about it that  might help? Thank you!
> > >
> >
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>

Hey everybody,,,
     There's an article in the Happenings Herpes Help  group e-newsletter
re:this topic....u might find it of interest,,,
     The address  is www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
     Check it out,,,
:) S
-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=--=-==-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
In a message dated 1/30/2007 9:34:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,
no_reply@yahoogroups.com writes:




Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok, we'll
deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when you
care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them out.
I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
then  I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had this
for about  10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!

I think we're  getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
then....will let you  know what happens!

S

--- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  "luv2ridefast"
<staish@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there,
>
> I don't have much advice for you. I've only had to tell 2 people.
> One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
> said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
> going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
> Then, he promptly disappeared. This was devastating as he was a
> friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
So,
> I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
>
> I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
> just be honest. We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
> us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell
is
> just to sit down and say that before things get too intense  you
just
> need to have a serious talk with him and just come out  and tell
> him. Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet  or
see
> a doctor to ask questions and go from there. It amazes me  when
> people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's  just a
> nuisance. Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age  20
and
> I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with  it.
>
> Good luck with telling him. My thoughts will be with you  and do
let
> us know how it goes.
>
> Hugs,
>  Stacia in Daytona
>
> --- In _OrlandoFLHerpesSingOrlandoFLHerpesSOrlando_
(mailto:OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com) ,  luvmylab_2
> <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > Hello.  I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
> be
>  > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
>  while
> > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as  he
can.
> Any
> > suggestions on how to go about it that  might help? Thank you!
> >
>








[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Thank you for the advice! My last boyfriend basically said "ok, we'll
deal with it" and it was no problem at all. It's just hard when you
care about someone and you don't want to hurt them or freak them out.
I think he is in it for the long haul, but if this makes him run,
then I just have to believe that it's not meant to be. I've had this
for about 10 years and it's still a big pain in that respect!!

I think we're getting together Thurs night so I hope to tell him
then....will let you know what happens!

S



--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "luv2ridefast"
<staish@...> wrote:
>
> Hi there,
>
> I don't have much advice for you.  I've only had to tell 2 people.
> One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
> said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
> couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
> going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
> Then, he promptly disappeared.  This was devastating as he was a
> friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.
So,
> I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.
>
> I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
> just be honest.  We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
> us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell
is
> just to sit down and say that before things get too intense you
just
> need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and tell
> him.  Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or
see
> a doctor to ask questions and go from there.  It amazes me when
> people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's just a
> nuisance.  Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20
and
> I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.
>
> Good luck with telling him.  My thoughts will be with you and do
let
> us know how it goes.
>
> Hugs,
> Stacia in Daytona
>
> --- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, luvmylab_2
> <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
> be
> > about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
> while
> > and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he
can.
> Any
> > suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!
> >
>

Hi there,

I don't have much advice for you.  I've only had to tell 2 people.
One said, "Whew, that's a relief, I have it too" and the other one
said that he was okay with it, anyone who didn't understand and
couldn't deal with it wasn't worth having, I really thought it was
going to be okay and I thought he was "the one", but I was wrong.
Then, he promptly disappeared.  This was devastating as he was a
friend for a long time and we no longer even have a friendship.  So,
I have to tell myself that he wasn't worth having.

I dread the time that I have to do it again, but hang in there and
just be honest.  We can only hope that the folks we tell appreciate
us telling them. I think the only way I have come up with to tell is
just to sit down and say that before things get too intense you just
need to have a serious talk with him and just come out and tell
him.  Then, maybe suggest he do some research on the internet or see
a doctor to ask questions and go from there.  It amazes me when
people freak, as it isn't something that will KILL you, it's just a
nuisance.  Not to make light of it, but I've had it since age 20 and
I'm almost 40 now, so I've really come to terms with it.

Good luck with telling him.  My thoughts will be with you and do let
us know how it goes.

Hugs,
Stacia in Daytona

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, luvmylab_2
<no_reply@...> wrote:
>
> Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to
be
> about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a
while
> and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he can.
Any
> suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!
>

Hey no reply,,,,
     There happens to be an article in the Happenings  Herpes Help Group
newsletter in the Questions and Answer section on this exact  subject.....It's
FREE
to access and read,,,, :)
     Go to www.theentertainmentmall.com/happenings
     Check it out,,,let me know your thoughts,,,
:) Scott


[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Hello. I recently started seeing someone new and it's getting to be
about that time to tell him I have H. I haven't done this in a while
and of course I'm afraid he'll take off running as fast as he can. Any
suggestions on how to go about it that might help? Thank you!

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     Just copy and paste the link below into your web  browser.... and hit go.
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     We are now looking for volunteer writers that wish  to contribute stories
about their "Local" group/organization.

     Wishing everyone a Healthy, Happy, New Year!

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E-mail: happeningseditor@...



[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

Hello, I just wanted to take the time to say hello to everyone in the
group. I recently been single for 3yrs due to the fact that i have HSV-
2. I was in denial for a while.I trying to move on with my life and
accept what has happen to me. This is the first group i ever joined so
i hoping to maybe learn more.Little bit about me.....I am 25 yrs old
Puerto Rican male. I just recenetly gotten out of the Air Force. I
currently work as a technician. I very into movies and music. Speically
techno, drum and bass etc... I would love to meet other people and
maybe hear how they been able to deal with this condition. Thank you
for taking the time to read my post.


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I just joined this group and wanted to say hello to everyone.  I'm
not actually in Orlando, but I'm over that way quite often to see
friends.  My name is Stacia (pronounced Stay-sha) and I'm 39 and live
in the Daytona Beach area with my 4 dog kids.  I'm in the process of
divorce (will be final in a few weeks) and have had H for nearly 20 years.

Some things I enjoy are riding my motorcycle, boating, really
anything outdoors, movies, cooking and I volunteer a lot of my time
with dog rescue and sea turtle preservation.  I do medical
transcription at home and enjoy my job, though I work lots of
hours.  I'm looking forward to meeting some new people and making
some friends.

Sincerely,
Stacia

There's still plenty of room to sign up for bowling with us on
January 27th!!

Come on, what do you have to lose?!  So you miss a couple pins down
the lane....make a couple new friends....and have a great time while
all this is going on!!  What more can you ask for?

We're meeting between 5 and 530pm....bowling begins at 6pm.  We have
the lanes for two hours...and we get our pizza delivered right in the
middle of all this!  You'll be outta there by 830...time enough to
complete your night however you want!

So, come on...email me now if you're interested in attending!!

It'll be fun, I promise!!

P.S. (The post right before this had all of the specifics.  If you
need them, please email me and I'll send them right to you!)

Tonya
:o)

Greetings and Happy New Year!!

We're going to start 2007 out with a strike!!  (Ok, I'm trying to
lead up to our next outing!)

The Orlando H2O Group invites you to....

Let's Go Bowling!!

When:        Saturday, January 27, 2007
Time:        Meet between 5 and 5:30pm
Where:       Boardwalk Bowl
              10749 E. Colonial Drive (just west of Alafaya Trail)
              Phone:  407.384.0003

The price is $20.00 per person.  This includes bowling (2 hours),
shoe rental, and the food/drink (non-alcoholic)...pizza and sodas.
Money will be collected at your arrival to the event.

We went last year and had a great time!!

There is a minimum number of people needed to attend this event.
(minimum of 20)  So, mark your calendars now!!

If you would like to attend, please email me
(H2OOrlando2001@... OR eyzseau624@...)
and I will put you on the list (it's a good list, don't worry)!!

It's going to be a great year!!!  I'm making plans for the picnic
now...should be in the latter part of March!!  I'll send out more
information on that later.

Hope to see you on the lanes on the 27th!!

Tonya
:o)

Hi all,

Just wanted to let you know there is a help group meeting for anyone
interested!  It will be held on January 9, 2007 at the Winter Park
Hospital, at 730pm.  (for more information, go to
www.geocities.com/orlandohelpgroup)

We will be going to Tijuana Flat's on Aloma (just east of Lakemont)
directly after the meeting (about 830ish).  If you can't make the
meeting, slide by The Flat's!!  This will be our first time there
after a meeting.  We're looking for a place to get together after the
meetings, so if you have any other thoughts, please let us know!!

About the meetings, don't be afraid....no one bites...trust me!!  You
don't even have to talk, if you don't want to.  Just come on by for a
minute and see what it's like.  Remember, you may be new to all of
this...or old to it...but we all need a little nudge/support
sometimes.  If you feel you've conquered your quirks, maybe you can
offer some guidance to someone not so lucky right now!  Just a
thought!

So, hopefully we'll see you there!  I'll be there!!  (barring no
floods or emergencies at work!)

Tonya
:o)

Hi Tony,

I'm glad you chose this place to vent your frustrations! It's
actually a good place to do something like that.  It's a quiet group,
but a good group.  And better yet, we're all in this together.  If
you haven't seen the number of members on this site, it's well over
250!!

Your story is not uncommon in our plight for happiness.  I have a
very similar story, believe it or not.  I was engaged many years ago
and broke off the engagement because of the fighting and yes, the big
H.  That was in 1992.  I didn't date anyone seriously until 1997 and
again, that ended on bad terms.  In 2001, I took my plunge to the
internet and found a wonderful site...mpwh.  Everyone on there was
just like me!! Life changed for me on that February 20, 2001.  (yeah,
I remember the date too!)  I learned at that point in time, I was not
alone.  I've met hundreds of people, online AND in person (at socials
and national events) that have been wonderful support in my
realization.  Most of these people are still my friends that I speak
to all the time.  Life changed then...and has been wonderful ever
since.

I finally met a guy in February 2004.  We chatted online (at mpwh)
for over six months, dated for a couple more months and then realized
we were meant to be together.  We moved in together in June 04.  He
asked me to marry him on New Year's Eve of 04-05 and we married that
April.  We don't worry about the H factor because both of us have
it.  We understand the trials and tribulations of the outbreaks,
etc.  Life has never been grander!!

I can make a few suggestions, if that's ok.  There are support groups
in many areas of the state.  While it may be uncomfortable at first,
it's a fantastic step in the right direction.  Trust me, I've been
there.  There are also many social groups in the state as well.  Some
more active that others, but they are there.

Please, feel free to vent here any time.  Or, just feel free to pop
on and say hi!  Like I said, we're all in this together!!  I'm sure
you will hear many versions of your story.  :o)

Watch for postings of socials for the upcoming year!  I know there's
a couple planned just not posted yet.  And hey, never be afraid of
going...no one bites!!!  :o)

Hope I've shed a glimmer of hope for you!

Tonya
:o)

--- In OrlandoFLHerpesSinglesSite@yahoogroups.com, "Mr. T"
<firemedic1560@...> wrote:
>
> Well, ive been lurking here for a little while. i figured i would
share my story.
>
> my name is tony. im 37 years old. ive had hsv since i was 20 years
old. before hsv i was a
> shy person. i had been picked on as a kid. i was not very athletic
so the other boys in the
> neighborhood pretty much used me as a punching bag from the time i
was 10 till i
> graduated from high school. because of this my confidence was
pretty shot and my self
> esteem was very low. i met a girl who i thought was an angel. she
had a gorgous smile and
> always had nice things to say to me. imagine how happy i was when
she started falling for
> me.
>
> i can still remember the night she told me she had hsv. for
whatever reason, i was not very
> educated in hsv and did not understand how contagous it was. but my
angel was crying.
> she was in pain. i thought about how horrible it was to not be
accepted for most of my life
> and i thought i could never do that to her. i held her close looked
into her eyes and told
> her that i accepted her regardless of what she had and we could
work through this. well, a
> year later she started seeing other guys behind my back. i caught
her one night and that
> spelled the end. little did i know that i had something in my body
that would remind me of
> her for the rest of my life.
>
> i can still remember my first outbreak. i was looking down at
myself in the shower and
> wondering what this thing on my penis could be. i was in denile. i
told myself it was
> nothing. and tried to go on with my life as if everything was fine.
a couple years later i met
> another girl who i believed was terrific. she felt the same about
me. unfortunately, i
> passed it on to her. she missed her period and went to her doctor
for a pregnancy test.
> while she was there she had a physical and the doctor confirmed she
had hsv. i felt
> horrible. i could not believe i did this to someone. i felt so
rotten and dirty. i didnt know
> what to say. i went to the doctor and he confirmed that i was also
hsv postive. well, the girl
> decided to stay with me. the pregancy was terminated. we spent the
next 5 years in a very
> rough relationship. it finally ended one night, when i came home
from work one morning
> and found she was gone. she left me a note telling me how rotten a
person i was and how
> i deserved to be alone. i spent the next 7 years alone.
>
> occasionally i would meet a girl who i wanted to be serious with.
but they ran from me
> when i told them i had hsv. it made me feel dirty and diseased. i
became very angry. well
> anger is just a way of hiding sadness isnt it? i became bitter and
i swore i would not let
> anyone in ever again. i spent the next 7 years on my own.
occasionally having sex with a
> girl when i could not fight the urge anymore. of course i never
told them, because i knew
> that was a deal breaker. it never made me happy and the guilt was
horrible. i just assumed
> i would never find anyone to love me because of this disease.
>
> i started looking on the hsv dating sites. i made a someone who
introduced me to a friend
> of hers who was also hsv positive. we talked on the phone and on
the internet. she was
> beautiful. we had a lot in common. she accepted me for everything i
was. i felt like a
> million bucks. i was very happy and felt like i was falling in love
but i was scared to meet
> her. she finally took the bull by the horns and made the drive from
orlando to west palm
> beach to meet me. she drove almost 3 hours just to meet me in
person. we had more in
> common than i could have ever believed. she had a young son who i
met and enjoyed very
> much. we commuted for a year to spend time together. she made the
move to wpb to live
> with me. i was so happy, until all the old insecurities started.
here i was with a woman who
> loved me more than anything and i could not get over the fear that
she would someday
> leave me. we started fighting a lot. the worst of it was when we
fought in front of her son.
> ive always had a bad temper. i made her cry. i felt horrible. i
felt i was not worthy of her
> love anymore. i ended the relationship not because i didnt love
her. i ended it because i
> couldnt stand hurting her anymore. i couldnt stand seeing her
crying. i couldnt stand
> hurting someone i love so much. so she left with her son. i never
got to say goodbye.
>
> that was 8 months ago. now im alone again. ive been in therapy
since then to get control
> of my temper and get over the terrible thing i did to cara. it
still hurts when i come home
> and find it empty. its just something i will have to get over. ive
had to say goodbye to cara,
> because i know i will never see her again.
>
> so why am i writing this? i guess its just to vent my frustration
with having this disease.
> sure i had issues before hsv, but hsv hasnt made things any easier
for me. right now life,
> as far as a relationship, marriage and children doesnt look to be
in my future. i feel alone,
> hopeless and scared. its been 17 years with this disease. when will
things get better?
>

Join us at the Atlanta Airport Westin for the Second Annual New Year's Eve
National Event.  Last year was great fun and a huge success!!!

   This year with New Years is on a Sunday night it means an extra day of fun!

   We'll be going to a local bar Friday night, our second annual pajamma party is
Saturday night and then the main event is Sunday night.  We'll have some daytime
activities planned as well...stay tuned!

   There will also be a wine tasting on Saturday afternoon!!!

The room rate is $89.

   The event fee is $45 which includes transportation to a fun local bar Friday,
night, lunch Saturday, pizza Saturday night at the pajamma party, and champagne,
food and party favors Sunday night.

For more info:
http://www.atlantahclub.com/ahc2007

Hope to see you there!

   Jennifer and Carla

   Jennifer (Suzi) and Carla (Metsie)

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Well, ive been lurking here for a little while. i figured i would share my
story.

my name is tony. im 37 years old. ive had hsv since i was 20 years old. before
hsv i was a
shy person. i had been picked on as a kid. i was not very athletic so the other
boys in the
neighborhood pretty much used me as a punching bag from the time i was 10 till i
graduated from high school. because of this my confidence was pretty shot and my
self
esteem was very low. i met a girl who i thought was an angel. she had a gorgous
smile and
always had nice things to say to me. imagine how happy i was when she started
falling for
me.

i can still remember the night she told me she had hsv. for whatever reason, i
was not very
educated in hsv and did not understand how contagous it was. but my angel was
crying.
she was in pain. i thought about how horrible it was to not be accepted for most
of my life
and i thought i could never do that to her. i held her close looked into her
eyes and told
her that i accepted her regardless of what she had and we could work through
this. well, a
year later she started seeing other guys behind my back. i caught her one night
and that
spelled the end. little did i know that i had something in my body that would
remind me of
her for the rest of my life.

i can still remember my first outbreak. i was looking down at myself in the
shower and
wondering what this thing on my penis could be. i was in denile. i told myself
it was
nothing. and tried to go on with my life as if everything was fine. a couple
years later i met
another girl who i believed was terrific. she felt the same about me.
unfortunately, i
passed it on to her. she missed her period and went to her doctor for a
pregnancy test.
while she was there she had a physical and the doctor confirmed she had hsv. i
felt
horrible. i could not believe i did this to someone. i felt so rotten and dirty.
i didnt know
what to say. i went to the doctor and he confirmed that i was also hsv postive.
well, the girl
decided to stay with me. the pregancy was terminated. we spent the next 5 years
in a very
rough relationship. it finally ended one night, when i came home from work one
morning
and found she was gone. she left me a note telling me how rotten a person i was
and how
i deserved to be alone. i spent the next 7 years alone.

occasionally i would meet a girl who i wanted to be serious with. but they ran
from me
when i told them i had hsv. it made me feel dirty and diseased. i became very
angry. well
anger is just a way of hiding sadness isnt it? i became bitter and i swore i
would not let
anyone in ever again. i spent the next 7 years on my own. occasionally having
sex with a
girl when i could not fight the urge anymore. of course i never told them,
because i knew
that was a deal breaker. it never made me happy and the guilt was horrible. i
just assumed
i would never find anyone to love me because of this disease.

i started looking on the hsv dating sites. i made a someone who introduced me to
a friend
of hers who was also hsv positive. we talked on the phone and on the internet.
she was
beautiful. we had a lot in common. she accepted me for everything i was. i felt
like a
million bucks. i was very happy and felt like i was falling in love but i was
scared to meet
her. she finally took the bull by the horns and made the drive from orlando to
west palm
beach to meet me. she drove almost 3 hours just to meet me in person. we had
more in
common than i could have ever believed. she had a young son who i met and
enjoyed very
much. we commuted for a year to spend time together. she made the move to wpb to
live
with me. i was so happy, until all the old insecurities started. here i was with
a woman who
loved me more than anything and i could not get over the fear that she would
someday
leave me. we started fighting a lot. the worst of it was when we fought in front
of her son.
ive always had a bad temper. i made her cry. i felt horrible. i felt i was not
worthy of her
love anymore. i ended the relationship not because i didnt love her. i ended it
because i
couldnt stand hurting her anymore. i couldnt stand seeing her crying. i couldnt
stand
hurting someone i love so much. so she left with her son. i never got to say
goodbye.

that was 8 months ago. now im alone again. ive been in therapy since then to get
control
of my temper and get over the terrible thing i did to cara. it still hurts when
i come home
and find it empty. its just something i will have to get over. ive had to say
goodbye to cara,
because i know i will never see her again.

so why am i writing this? i guess its just to vent my frustration with having
this disease.
sure i had issues before hsv, but hsv hasnt made things any easier for me. right
now life,
as far as a relationship, marriage and children doesnt look to be in my future.
i feel alone,
hopeless and scared. its been 17 years with this disease. when will things get
better?

Please be sure to book your room if you even think you may be coming for the
event. You can always cancel if you change your mind.  Once the room block
expires you will most likely NOT be able to get the special rate of $89.
   Last year we were able to get a BUNCH of people in at the last minute at the
special rate.  This year, due to changes at the Westin we do not believe we will
be able to do that again.
   To book your room, go to http://www.atlantahclub.com/event2007/hotelinfo
   For more info on the event go to http://www.atlantahclub.com/ahc2007


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expires you will most likely NOT be able to get the special rate of $89.
   Last year we were able to get a BUNCH of people in at the last minute at the
special rate.  This year, due to changes at the Westin we do not believe we will
be able to do that again.
   To book your room, go to http://www.atlantahclub.com/event2007/hotelinfo
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Join us at the Atlanta Airport Westin for the Second Annual New Year's Eve
National Event.  Last year was great fun and a huge success!!!

   This year with New Years is on a Sunday night it means an extra day of fun!

   We'll be going to a local bar Friday night, our second annual pajamma party is
Saturday night and then the main event is Sunday night.  We'll have some daytime
activities planned as well...stay tuned!

   There will also be a wine tasting on Saturday afternoon!!!

The room rate is $89 and the block expires on December 8th.

   The event fee is $40 (if paid by 12/15, $45 until 12/29), which includes
transportation to a fun local bar Friday, night, lunch Saturday, pizza Saturday
night at the pajamma party, and champagne, food and party favors Sunday night.

For more info:
http://www.atlantah club.com/ ahc2007  (event activities page not up just yet,
but the rest is up)

Hope to see you there!

   Jennifer and Carla

   Jennifer (Suzi) and Carla (Metsie)


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Join us at the Atlanta Airport Westin for the Second Annual New Year's Eve
National Event.  Last year was great fun and a huge success!!!

   This year with New Years is on a Sunday night it means an extra day of fun!

   We'll be going to a local bar Friday night, our second annual pajamma party is
Saturday night and then the main event is Sunday night.  We'll have some daytime
activities planned as well...stay tuned!

The room rate is $85 and the block expires on December 8th.

   The event fee is $40 (if paid by 12/15, $45 until 12/29), which includes
transportation to a fun local bar Friday, night, lunch Saturday, pizza Saturday
night at the pajamma party, and champagne, food and party favors Sunday night.

For more info:
http://www.atlantah club.com/ ahc2007  (event activities page not up just yet,
but the rest is up)

Hope to see you there!

   Jennifer (Suzi) and Carla (Metsie)


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